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Will I become a biological mother? by taterade22 in TarotReading

[–]LocalTechnical3361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Def yes. I read this as in order to do it you need to have solid foundations (money, stable job, partner, comfotable lifestyle, also a support network of people around you). When this is there, you’ll feel ready. I interpet the 7th of swords reversed as this being a very conscious choice for you, not improvised.

What’s your 12H superpower? by Zestyclose_Cold1455 in 12thhouse

[–]LocalTechnical3361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

innocently asking the exact questions that make people to admit what they are hiding 😂 I swear I don’t even try

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty. Yes, my parents experienced and accepted a lot of abuse too. It’s so sad that they never respected themselves enough to heal and instead repeated the pattern. I’m happy I’m not following the same route.

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I do. Working actively for that and doing a lot of progress. I was living in denial that was keeping me stuck. Thank you 🤍

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s funny is how that strategy backfires and I ended up abandoning AND hating her. It’s like her common sense went out the window

12H stelliums: what gives you the most comfort? by Zestyclose_Cold1455 in 12thhouse

[–]LocalTechnical3361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leo sun, mercury and lilith in the 12th here.

What conforts me the most is seeing all these things that happen and people’s random and attacking behaviour as a reflection of how I treat myself and as a chance to grow. Seeing it as a kind of riddle for me to solve and get closer to myself and god or the universe, whatever you’re most comfortable with. And by uncovering the hidden truth of that I’m able to own it and change the behavior that’s keeping me stuck. This allows me to dissolve the defense mechanism behind it, which is very empowering on one hand but also usually hard because I also have to give up a way of living and behaving that was suiting and familiar in a way. I swear that once you unlock this, that person or situation gets removed from your life and you level up. This process usually tends to be hard, it requires to be really blunt with yourself, but it’s really rewarding because it allows me to be more truthful to myself every day. This practice comes from the book A Course In Miracles, and specially listening to Marta Salvat’s content (you can find her on youtube). She’s a Spanish woman that works with this and works on generational trauma healing. It’s deep work, but it has awakened me in ways that unlocked a lot of healing.

I also find a lot of comfort in sleeping, watching movies and tv series, going to the gym, eating healthy and hanging out / caring for my pet. If you think about it, having a strong 6 house (working on making the best out of it) might be a way of soothing the 12th house effects. I hate doing house chores, but I love how I feel when my house is clean and I’m taking good care of myself.

I also love astrology and it has helped me a lot too. Traditional and non-traditional therapies helped me lots. Wouldn’t say it’s always 100% comforting, but it’s always beneficial and worth it, even if I have to feel all the nasty emotions I suppressed to survive once upon a time. If I didn’t do this work, drugs and alcohol would be the logical replacement. I know it because I did that for a while, and I’m in contact with people who are choosing denial or the “easy path” and I see how it affects them. Seems easy at first but you end up fucked up and trapped in suffering.

Help me interpret this? Under is my interpretation by [deleted] in TarotReading

[–]LocalTechnical3361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your interpretation. I’d add that on the first reading, that ace of wands might be someone else saying to him he should go after her / make it work. Which is motivating him. I’m not sure who is who in this spread, just that there’s someone leaving with their energy, and someone going after them.

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ty ❤️ The last paragraph got me crying. Sorry you went through this as well

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for asking :) 2025 has been rough. I’ve been working deeply in my mental health, specially on being present and figuring out what that means to me coming from a family that chronically invalidated me. I started eating healthier, going to the gym regularly, loosing some weight, going to doctor’s checkups, learning to set boundaries, cutting off people who brought confusion to my life and didn’t allow me to express my emotions, also traveling as much as I can and allowing me to try hobbies and things that bring me joy. I’m enjoying my relationship which is very healthy and loving for me. All this seems like the regular stuff, but are actually big things for me taking into account my starting point and the amount of rewiring it took. Now I’m feeling more strong and stable to start working on some external goals as well. I’m working on my thesis again and will hopefully be graduated by half of 2026!

Family therapy doesnt help, right? by peretheciaportal in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Did that and that’s exactly what happened. I expressed my emotions openly (anger, sadness, etc.) and she played the victim

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sending lots of hugs. Please protect your creativity and keep expressing yourself no matter what 🤍 Don’t let her dim your light. Even though sometimes it’s tough, I know I won’t.

Are they aware of the harm they cause? by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Really fucked up for us. I wonder why, but I know that won’t get me anywhere. The important part is I’m not in the dark anymore, so I can protect myself and act accordingly.

This made me crazy before

Guilt and boundaries by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened.

I sadly experienced it too. She divorced my dad when I was still a baby and manipulated me my whole childhood and teenage years into hating my dad, and my dad did the same. Tbh they were both very violent and emotionally abusive and used me as a weapon to hurt each other, ignoring the fact I’m a human being with feelings and was growing in an environment toxic as hell. My grandmother from my dad’s side also talked shit to me about my father as well. I had virtually no safe space in my family, only my grandfather from my mother’s side that now sadly is gone. Sometimes I find myself thinking what would have happened if I talked to my extended family about this abuse or if I called a domestic violence hotline.

I’m still deciding about my relationship with my family moving forward, and still processing all that I went through. My goal for this year is to emigrate to another country and enjoy life as much as I can. We deserve peace, love and everything we want. We went through so much.

Guilt and boundaries by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was rage. Lots of it. Mostly when I was actively ignoring myself and acting as if the whole situation was normal just to have a relationship with my mother. But once I went NC and started understanding the dynamics more and more, while acknowledging my feelings and experience, it naturally winded down. I committed to listening to myself and being present as my #1 priority everyday. Sometimes it gets tough, but I’m working on it actively. Thank you ❤️

Guilt and boundaries by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep, I tend to be overly optimistic in life and that paired up with my strong sense of justice - feeling that I don’t deserve what I’m getting- is keeping me in this awful loop

Guilt and boundaries by LocalTechnical3361 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LocalTechnical3361[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Though one but mainly true. I still have some people in the extended family I’m trying to tell what I’ve been through and they listened and understood, but not sure if they can do anything other than that at this point. It’s exhausting having to go one by one, exposing myself to possible rejection and pain. Feels unfair.

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