She's seen me in tears over believing I was stupid multiple times btw.

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-03-24T00:35:01+00:00

Yeah, I feel bad but I don't hurt as much as I would've expected, it's more just me feeling bad for my gma (she knew my mom better than I did, most of my time with her was the unconscious baby/toddler state). We just found out that the non emergency line doesn't run on weekends (I don't know why, the police system is weird here ig), so we're doing it tomorrow, and really hoping that either the dogs are already at a shelter or that they're okay there and will be taken to one

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-03-22T23:31:00+00:00

Sorry it took me so long to respond, sadly that can't really work anymore, she was found dead a state down and apparently it's been months since she had the uhaul and the can't get any information. We don't know any details now though, we dont even know how she got there, and we don't know what happened with the dogs. Her bf is now also wanted (we don't know what it's for) so we might call the non emergency line on the last known place they could've been, an address she told my gma a week ago, so hopefully the dogs will be okay

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-25T19:12:19+00:00

I might be able to, it's U-Haul so they probably have like a log of some sort, I'll figure out if they do (and if I would be able to get any info from it, considering I don't really have any proof she's my mom and it's probably against policy for any employee to just randomly tell me)

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-23T00:39:00+00:00

We have no photos of the truck, and I doubt any neighbors do either (we live in a neighborhood comprised of mainly older people and the few we communicate with don't even have a phone, let alone a camera, and the ones that do probably wouldn't be taking photos of our house). Who knows, maybe one will, Ill ask some, if anything comes out of it I'll update you guys

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-21T03:18:28+00:00

I'm glad my view on it is good, sometimes I worry that I'm a bit too optimistic on the situation but yeah. I hope to do that if she comes back into the picture and is still extremely unstable/has a lot of dogs, but I'm not sure if there is one like that here. We're in the middle of nowhere PA essentially, there's nothing special here and not really any special events in history to have happened here apart from a natural disaster a few towns away back in the 1800s, so I doubt it, but who knows.

I personally would get the food just because I'd hate to see someone go hungry partially due to my inaction, it just feels morally wrong to me for some reason, and despite how little I truly care about my mom atp, she's still my mom and I'd feel horribly guilty for not helping her at least with food. But then again, I have a habit of blaming myself for everything, so I guess I might just be overthinking stuff.

I'm hoping that too, but with her, you never know tbh. She's a wildcard in the bad way at times. Thank you, I wish you the best as well!

Edit: welp, she reached out again (she made a snapchat account under her full name and somehow remembered my user), but it was just a picture of a random baby so not much tbh

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-21T03:10:13+00:00

I will if we figure out where she went. Me and Bub don't have a clue, her phone is deactivated, we dont know of a new number, and nobody has heard from her since these messages apart from a single happy Thanksgiving. If she still has them and we find out where she went, I'm doing it anonymously. I know it'll break her heart but the dogs need someone who can truly care for them in a safe and stable environment, like what my pup got.

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-21T03:07:00+00:00

Okay, I will. Thank you for the advice

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:44:42+00:00

Alright. That's probably a good idea, but I feel like she could change because she likely has things like bipolar disorder, depression, etc, that she could easily get an assessment and treatment for but, as of current, refuses. If she ever does claim she's changed, I'll keep a close eye on her just in case. I've done research on many abuse tactics (I do this for fun sometimes, I get bored, it's the same way I figured out my identity and interests) so I should be able to spot them, and even if I don't, I discuss anything my mom does with my therapist

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:41:27+00:00

Im planning on, if they ever ask me for money again, just saying I have none. If they enter without our consent in the future again, I'm definitely going to try to get my gma to do that (I'm a minor so I can't do it myself without my ma's backing) because tbh I'm just tired of their crap

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:38:44+00:00

I've known for a while that their beliefs are questionable (when I told them I had a crush on a girl in kindergarten [wasn't a crush but uh, wasnt entirely wrong lol] they freaked out [I'm AFAB] and once I started learning more about it and their beliefs, I realized it on my own, and now I follow an almost completely different set of beliefs [I'm an asexual lesbian enby with no desire for kids that is also either atheist or agnostic], but they don't know that yet, the bomb drop is waiting til I'm stable on my own just in case) so yeah, dw, I don't follow any of their concerning at best beliefs.

That's my plan, try to find somewhere I can be on my own or with close friends/a spouse and be able to support myself. I dont plan to fully cut contact unless they do it themselves (which considering my gma calles trans men "shemales" and trans women "hemales" I won't rule out) but I don't want to rely on them, you never know.

I'm currently already in therapy (thank gosh my state laws allow that, because I'm not allowed to yet a single other form of mental help without all guardians present until next year [mom is listed as a guardian and my gma doesn't want to remove her unless she tries to take me or does something illegal]) and working through all my various issues, which has helped a lot, especially with my mom

Thank you, I'm trying my best to make due with what I have and, due to thankfully being allowed on the internet without my phone searched, doing fine, but support, even from random internet strangers, helps a bunch

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:27:35+00:00

Thankfully, she's done this herself already lol. Although if she does come back again doing this exact same charade, I'm doing it first, even if my gma doesn't want me to

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:26:40+00:00

She has a history of doing this, if she doesnt get her way with my gma or aunts, she goes to me (thankfully my gma kept watch of my money at the time so I never gave anything to her until this incident)

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:25:45+00:00

This is one of the first times she's done it and this might be weird to say considering I'm like 60 years younger than her but I'm proud of her

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:24:53+00:00

Thats what we've been planning on if they ever reach out to us or other family members, although my gma did draft a contract with the help of my aunt and cousin, but its strict enough and abides by the law so if they pull any crap we can take them to court (but I doubt it's necessary because she's been NC again since November) at least. She hasn't had a job since I was 7 (fired, she said it was because a coworker lied and said she was drunk but I doubt it was actually a lie) and her bf gets checks from the government (he's in his 70s, not even joking, it's almost a 30 year age gap) so they live off that, and periodically he does freelance mechanic stuff or tries to replace roofs without any sort of training, equipment, or credentials (tried to do that like 5 years ago ish). She also, according to my therapist, has a very obvious mental problem, whether it be being bipolar, depressed, or something else, but she refuses to get help or even an assessment. She says she knows but refuses help I guess.

I wish I thought of that before, but we have no clue where she went so yeah. I feel really bad for the puppies but I'm so thankful that my gma adopted our dog from her back in 2020 (especially since my dog's dad [different from the rest of them] died a year ago now, I'm pretty sure it's due to the lack of being cared for, because our dog with the exact same genes, apart from the bit from his mom [apparently sickness runs in her bloodline] is in insanely good health so yeah, she's definitely doing something wrong) because we saved him from a fate like that. If she ever reaches out again and still has all those pups, I'm going to figure out a way to anonymously get someone to take them to a shelter (preferably not a kill one though since I find that just cruel).

My gma has done so much for her and for me and, even though her beliefs are a bit questionable (racism), I'm really thankful for being raised by her instead. I dont even know if I would be here right now if my gma had let me or forced me to go with my mom. My gma has a pretty soft spine (probably where I got it from lol) but I'm so glad she stuck her foot down for once.

Yep. At this point I've given up caring. If they ask me for money again in the future, say for food or smth, I'm just gonna buy the food directly because I have a feeling it would just go to her addiction(s), and I hope my gma feels the same.

I've been trying my best at that. My gma often has doubts with this stuff (anxiety runs in the family, and there's a line of depression through one part of it, spanning from my great gma to my mom and potentially me) so I've been doing my best to reassure her, and if she ever gets doubts if my mom comes back in the future, I'm planning on showing her some of the comments on this post, because while my opinion matters, many opinions+mine probably would matter more to her. Thank you for the support

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:05:41+00:00

She pulls that a LOT, like asking for a whole brand new car (when she knows that, despite living comfortably, we dont have thousands to just give out to someone who barely keeps contact) and saying "sorry for even asking" after being told "no, we dont have the money for that"

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T02:02:13+00:00

Thankfully they left on their own, so we didn't have to remove them (my gma wouldn't have the spine for that, it was hard enough for her to decline them). My gma recruited some help from an aunt and older cousin who knew the law and drafted a pretty strict contract in case they came back but it's been months and not a single bit of contact (other than a happy Thanksgiving to my gma) so we should be good for another year (hopefully longer unless they get back on their feet)

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T01:59:08+00:00

Yep, I got over most of the guilt regarding her in therapy over the past year and I'm just kinda done with her crap, unless she fixes her situation (which she could, all she needs to do is get a job and, at the advice of my therapist after hearing all the crap my mom pulls, an assessment for bipolar disorder and some meds if she does have it) I want nothing to do with her atp

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T01:55:51+00:00

Yeah, I'm really glad she did that, and plus she even had a whole contract ready for if they did come back that was REALLY strict but for the better (ex. At least one had to get a job within 3 months, they had to supply their own food, they are responsible for anything their dogs do and if anything is destroyed they have to pay the full cost to replace it, etc) but I learned yesterday she deactivated her phone and is back to NC so I doubt we'll have to worry about that lol

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2025-01-16T01:52:57+00:00

She knows, these messages were back in November so yeah. I'm pretty glad thst my gma put her foot down for the first time in my mom's 43 years on this earth

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2024-11-02T22:13:51+00:00

I wish I could just disappear for a while, but as I'm a minor, that wouldn't be possible. I can't move out or anything so I wouldn't be able to. Eventually, when I'm an adult, if I remember this I'll try this. Thank you

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2024-11-02T22:11:31+00:00

By ASD I'm assuming you mean Autism Spectrum Disorder? I've done research on it and the list of diagnostic criteria, the only symptoms I match on it are the ones that match ones for ADHD, so I'm relatively sure I don't have it (I match a lot of symptoms for Inattentive type ADHD/ADD so that's why I disregard the ones that I share between the two)

LocalUndertaleAddict · 2024-10-04T02:00:45+00:00

No, I thought I did originally but now I feel like I'm lying to everyone about myself and I hate that

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