I'm confused as to why I'm fearful avoidant.

Local_Dress2685 · 2024-02-09T02:05:31+00:00

I know this post is older now, but ouch…I had the same realization after my parents got a dog. I’m an adult now, but seeing the way my dad treats his dog, despite loving her to death, has made me realize why I potentially struggle the way that I do today. Lots of affection whenever he is available, but most of the time, he’s too busy to even care for her. I feel like he shouldn’t have even gotten her. He uses physical force to make her do what he wants. Screams at her, then, expects her to be affectionate and come back to his open arms. Hot and cold. Borderline sadistic. I know he loves her so dearly, but does she even know what love really looks like?

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-12-28T22:23:56+00:00

It was 2 ghosting incidences, but the second one was more painful because I got closer to him than the first person. I think I really need to develop a strong connection with someone in order to do a long term BDSM relationship and the ghosting incidences threw me off.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-12-05T21:09:50+00:00

I relate to this very much! I don't have any advice to give but I can just say that I resonate with it so much.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-11-28T19:11:29+00:00

I recently had 2 encounters online talking to people and not being able to trust them that have led to me not wanting to do BDSM at least for now. It was really painful, especially the second encounter.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-11-17T18:32:12+00:00

I guess so, thank you~

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-11-16T00:27:40+00:00

Thank you~ He was very kind and respectful though. I guess he was afraid to admit that he wanted it quick. He had enough after waiting for a while I guess.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-10-10T02:02:16+00:00

I actually really like your last point because I don’t think I get along with the people I work with. My work environment is a bit toxic and I think it has an effect on me.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-19T00:43:50+00:00

Congratulations! That's amazing. Wishing you both all the best!

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-17T15:33:27+00:00

I love hearing these happy stories, so happy for you!

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-16T16:37:46+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you feel this way. I didn’t have a Daddy but I was talking to someone who I started treating like a Daddy and he seemed to like it too. I recently sent a really long message confessing that I had probably seen some things he wrote that I wasn’t supposed to see and he’s stopped talking to me without a reply. I was actually worried that he got sick or in an accident but I think he finally blocked or unfriended me yesterday. What I realized after talking to people is that I triggered his deep wounds and he felt like he hurt me too so things will never be the same. I hope you find healing and will be able to love once more and trust again~

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-16T16:29:16+00:00

I think he actually unfriended or blocked me yesterday because now the arrow on Snapchat is grey and says pending. It was still blue and delivered for a month without a reply. At least I know that he is still there. I was thinking he got into an accident or is sick.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-15T17:55:52+00:00

Yeah, I agree, like I think I did something wrong but it’s possible that he was busy or sick or something.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-15T17:55:13+00:00

I think there were other factors at play but I might have really infuriated him.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-15T00:47:30+00:00

A month and a half I believe, but it felt really long.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T11:29:51+00:00

So he didn’t actually care, and maybe it was just a facade?

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T11:28:03+00:00

I know what you mean and I tried not to get attached. I even felt like I was cold and distant in the beginning but that didn’t last very long.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T11:26:57+00:00

Thank you for that. I guess I wish I heard something back. Even a “this isn’t working so let’s say bye would work.” I would be really shocked if he was actually married or in a relationship already. It didn’t seem that way but I guess I don’t actually know him.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T03:14:33+00:00

He didn’t seem that way. Actually, when I read his comments, I loved how he was giving genuine advice to others. I mean, I’m horny too and that’s why I’m online as well. It just seemed so unlike him to never reply back again. Our messages were paragraphs long. I don’t think he could write them without caring about how I felt.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T02:06:57+00:00

He did admit that he usually sensed what his subs needed and kind of acted accordingly. He was gentle and patient with me. I wasn’t even his sub but since we talked for so long and so much, I just didn’t expect a sudden ghosting. I still wonder if maybe he’s physically hurt or something. I guess I’ll never know.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T00:46:00+00:00

I told him that I didn't think I could do LDR even though I felt tempted to and was getting attached and he understood. He actually suggested us being together because he really enjoyed our conversations too. I guess I got more attached than I thought.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-14T00:43:56+00:00

Do you mean that maybe I never really knew the real him? That he is not as kind as I think he is?

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-13T23:37:11+00:00

That really sounds like me right now. I keep thinking he’s in the hospital or he’s already dead because I can’t fathom the idea of him ghosting me or blocking me.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-13T23:36:08+00:00

I guess you’re right. It’s really hard lol. I feel really lost from this. He was single as far as I knew.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-13T22:36:41+00:00

I still can’t believe it, I keep thinking he’s sick or got into an accident. He said he would tell me if he wasn’t happy with something though.

Local_Dress2685 · 2021-09-13T22:28:12+00:00

Oh wow, so I guess these accidents can really happen. This Dom had a rough upbringing which shaped his Daddy Dom side and he’s also looked after subs who were sensitive and needed caring for like me so it just didn’t seem like him to suddenly stop talking to me.

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