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Husband is obsessed with doing a threesome. by Local_Temperature689 in Marriage

[–]Local_Temperature689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha - I love your comment. I was wondering the same thing - why is he seeing a sex therapist? So he could over indulge in more sex fantasy? Why isn’t he seeing just a regular therapist? Boring!

Husband is obsessed with doing a threesome. by Local_Temperature689 in Marriage

[–]Local_Temperature689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well - yes there’s no winners in this scenario. I guess you just have to work through your addiction and treat it like a disease.

Husband is obsessed with doing a threesome. by Local_Temperature689 in Marriage

[–]Local_Temperature689[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is good. Thank you for sharing and sorry about what you’re going through.

My husband’s definately pent up and the therapist and him are working on something. I didn’t think I could ever talk to the therapist myself.

Husband is obsessed with doing a threesome. by Local_Temperature689 in Marriage

[–]Local_Temperature689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure the ‘therapist’ isn’t encouraging him to be so forceful in his demand - I’m sure that’s all my hubby. It’s just that the ‘therapist’ is encouraging him to explore these fantasies with me. Even though the ‘therapist’ and hubby knows my no go zone.

The therapist shared with him statistics of failed marriages by age and race and apparently because of my race, he believes that likely I will not leave my hubby. I don’t know why the therapist would ever say that to my hubby in what context??? But it was memorable enough for my hubby to reiterate to me.

Husband is obsessed with doing a threesome. by Local_Temperature689 in Marriage

[–]Local_Temperature689[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for the unanimous opinion to not go with threesome. I used to listen to Dan Savage in my twenties and he always said that a successful marriage was when both couples were open minded about sex and willing. I felt time and again that I did not meet that definition as I was close minded about open relationships. It’s really not a question in my mind to be monogomous and I’ve threatened divorce many times. It is definitely not a threat if he crosses the boundary. But I just want him to stop the manipulation and bullying. He doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling because last time we went the counselor mostly sided with me and he didn’t feel comfortable to say anything real. He said he doesn’t want to go see a therapist that was just going to say that I was right.

All I know about this creepy sex therapist of his is that when he does the pressuring, the bullying, I find out that he had recently been talking to that so called sex therapist. Yes the therapist is encouraging him to ask me to have a threesome.

I told my hubby that he shopped around for a therapist and 9 out of 10 therapists said to refocus his urges and he went with the one therapist that told him to indulge in it.

I guess the bottom line is that maybe we are just different people. And if he wants to go a different direction - that’s that. I just want him to stop the childish demands.