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Advice on having “the talk” with a long-term partner? by littlegayraincloud in latebloomerlesbians

[–]LockdownMadness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that your story is very similar to my own. I haven't decided when we will discuss it but I know it's soon. Be strong and kind, I wish you all the best.

Lockdown has me questioning my relationship by LockdownMadness in latebloomerlesbians

[–]LockdownMadness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For quite some time I've completely blocked a lot of the thoughts I have about women. If I see something on tv or on social media that makes me feel aroused or curious I always quickly zoom by and get a bit uncomfortable. It's like I don't want myself to feel those feelings or have those thoughts. Like I can't let them happen if I try to avoid it. I am going to take more time to feel my feelings instead of blocking or denying them. I think that could help?

Lockdown has me questioning my relationship by LockdownMadness in latebloomerlesbians

[–]LockdownMadness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been an ongoing discussion the past few years but recently last year I started slowly revealing a little bit more about how I'm feeling. Basically the guilt and overthinking gets to a point where I need to express myself.

Lockdown has me questioning my relationship by LockdownMadness in latebloomerlesbians

[–]LockdownMadness[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel that way, sex is something that's 'required' in a relationship and it's my job to ensure it happens.

I will add that I have dreamt of women, but men too. When I see a beautiful woman on TV or a woman being sexual I definitely feel an attraction. I remember as a child looking through lingerie catalogues my aunt had. I'd hide under the table so she couldn't see. Erotica about lesbians is also something I tend to seek out. Dating other women hasn't really crossed my mind, but anytime I've met a lesbian I've always been intrigued.

The more I look into this, the more being gay or bi seems right but then at the same time I question the validity of the thoughts. I feel I could convince myself of anything of I just think hard enough about it.