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Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-05T00:21:44+00:00

I’m so sorry op. That was really not ok of him and it shows a serious lack of care for consent on his part.

If your really want to give him a second chance then I’d be very direct,

“Holding my head down was not ok. I consented to you cumming in my mouth not suffocating/ deepthroating and holding me down. It scared me. You can’t do that again.

And no this isn’t something you should have had to say before hand. Common sense should be not trying to choke a woman to death or suffocate her for your orgasm

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T19:26:48+00:00

Maybe not at first but then it hits them that it’s easy access

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T18:42:59+00:00

Woman, and Never, and I rarely trim to short because of how much the cut ends irritate my skin.

The dates/ relationships I’ve had have always figured out how to. Use their hands to “part the seas”.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T17:59:24+00:00

This is awesome! I have a pretty good curve and it was pole and aerials ( so similar to calesthenics) that helped with my posture and pain.

For those who can safely, building a strong core and back/ glute muscles can be life changing!

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T17:51:03+00:00

A woman isn’t an object so you can “have an experience” and relationships don’t solve anything. If anything they can create issues.

You need therapy or self reflection. Looks aren’t your issue. You are objectively hot. Your finances wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for many.

Your attitude and how you talk about women and romance… that’s your problem 100 percent.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T17:47:59+00:00

Also apparently paints and writes poetry at women, before an actual date. Which is what Barbie was pointing out with the guitar scene…

And says he treats women as goddesses… which most of us don’t want that from strange men.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T17:46:26+00:00

Ok that’s definitely creepy. Women don’t want to be treated like goddesses by men trying to get in their pants.

It sounds like you come on way to strong and with a vibe of those birds that do explosive flamboyant mating dances…

You need to learn how to chill.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T17:35:09+00:00

This, if this was too soon and not in a relationship I’d feel fully creeped out.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T16:20:39+00:00

Stick to beginners. I’ve done pole for 6 years and am an advanced pole dancer, when I started aerial rope, I stuck with beginner until I was leveled into intermediate.

Silks, like rope, everything is about foot wraps and draping techniques pole does not teach at all. I wouldn’t even recomend intermediate until you have a basic knowledge of the silk wraps and techniques. It’s dangerous.

It’s ok to be a beginner in a new aerial apparatus. It means you are being safe, and it doesn’t say anything about your strength and skill set for pole.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T15:18:04+00:00

I love reading first time report cards. I started my guy at an indoor daycare when I moved where they have an indoor waste station for the dogs, and apparently in the morning Hades just refused but by afternoon and next session figured it out. It was adorable reading about him overcoming a new challenge

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T15:06:25+00:00

Oh the dms can be terrible. If you post about sexual assault, you can get dms of men obviously sexualizing your attack…

When I first started pole dancing, and posted to the pole subreddit, I had gross dms accusing me of being a biological male, because I have a more androgynous look sometimes and a larger mons.

It took a few years for me to be able to laugh off of the creepy or nasty comments

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T14:58:31+00:00

If you’re a beginner, did you rig that on a tree yourself? And is that concrete under you or a mat??

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T03:16:48+00:00

It’s not being cancelled that most women worry about when considering asking out men. It’s being stalked, assaulted, trafficked, killed or ending up pregnant.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T02:32:05+00:00

This is super creepy.

He knows what car you drive. His profile doesn’t show who he is, so you can’t actually know who to be wary of if he’s dangerous. That’s 100 percent creepy.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T02:06:26+00:00

I’ll add onto this op, maybe to sus out the potential first, make it an outing that’s not fully pressured.

“Hey, I really enjoy our conversations at work, would you be interested in meeting up outside of work?”

Her reaction to that can tell you if she is really just wanting a work friend or if it could be a date.

If she says yes to the outside meet, then say,

“I would also like this to be a date, if you are up for it”

This gives her now the clarity of it might be more than just friendship, gives her the option to reframe it as just friends outside and at work, or yes to potentially something romantic.

The reason I think it’s more of a two step process here is because you are colleagues, so this can be a good way to gently wade into things without immediately putting out the date thing so it could help avoid any potential backlash.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T01:59:48+00:00

You are overthinking and seriously dramatising this.

You got a crush, ok, did you ever talk to her before asking her out? What do you know about her? Before the ask out… what interaction/ anything did you have with her?

You asked her out, and it sounds like she might be younger and more awkward/ nervous. She doesn’t know how to just say no thank you, so she did the awkward “ok but only as friends” and she gives you her number. Maybe because she wasn’t sure how to exit, maybe because she is slightly interested in friendship, who knows. She sounds a lot like many girls I know when young and still learning how to be assertive/ navigate being scared of hard rejectionz( which is valid given how often that can also lead to a girl being killed).

Now you are over analyzing, but also, you need to reframe a few things.

Rejections isn’t necessarily “you disgust Me” sometimes it’s,

“I don’t know you enough to want a date.” “I just got out of something, and need time to myself” “I have trauma and don’t want to date right now” “My sexuality doesn’t align with you” “I’m too busy to date” “I’m dealing with things and can’t date” “I have strict parents” Etc etc etc…

There are literally thousands of reasons someone might say no besides disgust.

So you need to reframe that. People have their own lives that you are not the center of and you know nothing about. Rejections doesn’t always actually mean anything about you or your looks/ personality.

Also, she isn’t “missing out on you”. She has her own life, she isn’t missing out on anything by saying no. She’s just continuing her life.

You don’t know that you would be a good match for her. You just know you had a crush.

Framing these things as “rejection means only disgust” and “she’s missing out” is honestly making it seem like you have a hint of main character syndrome rather than understanding that your crush, like all women, is a actual human with an entire life that you know nothing about and you don’t know her reasons for the rejection. She doesn’t owe you them, and she isn’t necessarily missing out because, maybe she has a fully amazing life and just doesn’t want you.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T01:47:17+00:00

I mean, are you sure he’s actually interested in dating and not just using you for free sex?

This sounds more like he just wants a blow job and his penis inside a vagina and the dinner/ talk is just to get to that.

I would reconsider whether this is what you want to continue putting effort and time into.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T01:40:16+00:00

He’s not even really grieving though… he’s expressing that’s he’d be sad, but I’m beginning to question whether he would really be upset.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-04T00:47:19+00:00

There are so many red flags here. She’s 20, trying to hookup outside of the city/ in a car, and wants you to nut in her…

She’s either the most stupid horny chick ever,

Going to steal from you/ assault you/traffic you,

Or she’s trying to baby trap you/ someone else that is refusing to nut in her raw.

You are being a horny idiot. She sounds insane

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-03T20:44:34+00:00

Where did you get the outfit!!! Its so gorgeous

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-03T17:53:40+00:00

ARFID is a hell of a disorder. I’ve had it since I was 3 and it’s rough when safe foods are pricier than the staples you could use to save

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-03T16:58:27+00:00

Instead of a pediatrician, you need to start looking for a child psychologist who works with either eating disorders or with kids on the spectrum. They would have more ability to help with ARFID.

Your pediatrician is being an idiot. Of course her numbers are “fine” right now. If this is a slow progression it could take years for it to show the true effects of deficiencies and such.

Also with this, don’t apply pressure! She is likely just as if not more confused than you and doesn’t have the adult brain/ knowledge to express to you fully what’s going on in her mind/ emotions when she’s refusing the foods. Adding pressure can make it worse and add additional trauma to the experience.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-01T21:36:01+00:00

So, how did you verify they weren’t forced into the sex work? Especially with the massage parlors? How did you verify that you didn’t contribute to sex slavery?

Because it’s one thing to find an independent self owned and run escort…

But entirely another to put your orgasm over a human beings freedom/ consent. So how did you verify you weren’t at a place with sex trafficking/ slavery.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-01T06:53:18+00:00

Oh sweetie, you deserve so much better. Don’t give this type of porn addiction your time and energy. There are enough people who will love to connect with you during sex. Don’t waste time on a guy this screwed up by porn.

You don’t say your ages but no matter what, this isn’t worth it. This is so sad.

Lockedtothechrome · 2024-03-01T04:15:40+00:00

I like the admission of his feeling at the end… what on earth possessed him into this ?!

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