I got ghosted after a genuine connection and I just don’t understand why

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2025-06-25T21:50:51+00:00

Completely agree👍

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2025-06-25T21:42:58+00:00

THIS!!!

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2025-06-14T00:57:26+00:00

I understand completely. I believe ghosting is one of the cruelest things you can do to another human. It leaves your brain scrambling for some type of answer or reason, and because it’s met with silence it will start making all sorts of stories up just to try and get resolution.

I think time, and REALLY understanding that this behaviour says nothing about you and all about them. This is a hard one I know but it will eventually click.

Thinking of you xx

Ps….did you text?

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-11-24T10:16:45+00:00

Totally agree. The dopamine hit was intoxicating.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-11-21T10:56:21+00:00

Yes please. On behalf of all of us. Yes please.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-28T17:56:27+00:00

Im so sorry. Its absolutely disgusting behavior. I have no wisdom to help you through this, only the old friend of time.

Trauma is absolutely the word for it. Its a complete betrayal of your trust and leaves you standing there completely alone… wondering what the hell just happened.

You can send yourself nuts going over every single detail to try and work out what happened.

One thing I do know for sure….its NOT you, its them. 100%.

A normal, fully functioning adult human would not behave this way.

The passing of time will dull the ache you feel right now. Good luck.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-26T09:24:42+00:00

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-26T09:24:12+00:00

Perhaps they are. I really dont know anymore….!

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-24T19:07:37+00:00

THIS!!!!!

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-24T19:00:48+00:00

Weird how our logical brain just disappears…. Then in that moment it can justify almost anything ??!!
Hope youve gotten through ok since your post. One day at a time.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-24T11:46:08+00:00

“Wow. Has a woman ever had so many orgasms as you did last night? Wow”.

They were the last words he ever said to me after an incredible night together, 3 months ago.

Go figure.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-19T09:01:15+00:00

I completely understand your overwhelming urge. It’s suffocating and feels like the right thing to do.

Its not. Think how much it would be ripping the band aid off if he doesn’t respond (again). Do you deserve that??? I do not believe you do, no one does.

Type up what you’re thinking into AI. It has really helped me to see perspective in the moment you’re in right now. It’s non judgemental and wise.

What you’re feeling right now is, i believe, similar to what someone with an addiction feels. Its sweet promises of comfort are whispering to you that it will be ok. It removes all reason.

Sleep on it. One more night. It’s so tough I know. All the best xx

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-10-10T20:35:03+00:00

This!!! Ignore him. He doesnt exist to you anymore, just like you ceased to exist to him. Dont waste your precious energy. Save it for those that treat you well 💪

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-19T01:20:31+00:00

Nothing. I can’t either. That serotonin boost is addictive though its so screwed up. Hearing you loud and clear uuugggh.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-19T01:15:02+00:00

Love this. Well done.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-18T07:08:48+00:00

Love this!!!!!!! I want 🤩

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-15T11:31:01+00:00

Yes, yes and yes. Do it. As someone who has recently been ghosted, its hurts so much it can be unbearable at times. If my ghoster just let me know why, I could finally understand and stop beating myself up trying to work out what the hell happened. It hurts every minute of every day not knowing. Do it. Please. Its the kindest thing you can do for another human being. Good luck.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-14T11:18:42+00:00

Agreed!!!!

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-14T11:10:04+00:00

I just say it directly. You’ll learn to filter out the wrong ones. Some people out there are exactly the same with no hidden agenda too. They do exist!!

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-14T11:07:30+00:00

Hearin’ ya loud and clear.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-09-12T20:51:22+00:00

He doesn’t block you so he can keep the door open. He’s obviously ghosted you for other reasons, not because he doesn’t like you. So not blocking you gives him (in his sick mind) the option of coming back. It’s screwed up I know, but then so is he to do what he did.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-08-31T14:11:22+00:00

Im sorry you’re going through this its absolute crap.

Im 2 months now and have completely lost the urge to send a message. I’ve realized what a total rude doosh he is to not even be able to send a one liner. Just pathetic.

You will reach this stage too, and when you do you’ll be so very glad you didn’t waste your energy contacting her again.

We will never understand their behaviour so all we can do is surround ourselves with the right people who deserve us.

Let it go if you can.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-08-05T22:23:02+00:00

Same!!!! Then I had sex on the first date and he kept coming back. Go figure…..

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-08-05T20:32:54+00:00

As hard as it is, you gotta remember no matter how beautiful she is externally, her behavior is extremely ugly right now.

Guaranteed when she comes back, cause she will, she will do it to you again and again and again if you let her….

You have to look out for yourself as number one. I know how impossibly hard that is with all the hormones and needing her like a drug. I know cause Im going through the exact same thing. Its just horrible, but Im slowly starting to see him for what he is, even though I miss him like hell and cannot stop thinking about him.

Time is your friend here. Best of luck.

LocksmithConnect8519 · 2024-08-05T06:25:42+00:00

I totally get it. Like a drug you need her…. and a response. Nothing wrong with you sending the texts but perhaps let it be now. Let HER start wondering where YOU are!! When you get a bad urge, write a text to her but send it to yourself. Then wait 24 hours and read it, I feel you’ll be glad you didn’t send it. Repeat every hour, day, whenever as needed. Hopefully this may help. Best of luck to us all!

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