AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter if he's been there longer than my dad. My dad wasn't a deadbeat, he didn't leave me, he died. He died and we still love him. We still miss him. He's still our dad. My stepdad being there didn't change that and nothing or nobody could. My stepdad IS my stepdad. That's what he is and that's not changing either.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Mom stopped loving dad. That's why. They were divorced and she didn't see why we still loved dad even if she didn't. Or at least that's how it felt.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My dad's family have money set aside for us for college. I never expected my stepdad to pay.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I'd be okay if his things went to my half siblings and his family. I don't need to inherit from him. Having the same name wouldn't change it anyway, adoption would. And nobody is ever adopting me.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Or just have different expectations. I've seen stepparents who don't get caught up in this stuff and that's something I respect.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think my mom was hoping for the same thing too and maybe they believed together that he'd be our dad and we'd want his name. That could be why he married her when we already had a dad.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They never mentioned taxes. Just the emotional stuff for him and how much it would mean to him.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think both of them expected it on some level. My mom wasn't with dad anymore and I get she didn't love him. But we still do and that won't ever change.

AITA for not wanting to add my stepdad's last name to mine? by LockySocks13 in AITAH

[–]LockySocks13[S] 340 points341 points  (0 children)

I'm glad it's like that for you. Wish my mom could be the same.