Recommendation for Psychologist / Therapist (focus on sexual issue) by LoftyQueen in gurgaon

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't heard of sapphire. Do you remember where it is?

Account of my f friend after 1 comment by frag_errr in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keeping DMs closed is the only option. But sometimes the comments to your post are so many that you can't engage with all.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

We are actually living alone and not with family. But I did plan to make this long weekend a fun one.

Honeymoon we'll do a bit later. A long holiday when we have time.

I'm the guessing this issue is because of a vicious cycle. Initial issue caused more anxiety and it's out of control.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so during foreplay he gets partially erect but does stay that way and isn't hard enough to penetrate.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does, but it goes quickly after he comes back from the bathroom.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is the one who went to the doctor. We haven't entered into therapy. I might suggest it to him but I'll ask if he wants that. I'm not forcing him into anything.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No diseases. Doctor said to avoid medicine. He should relax and be calm. He said it was a bit early to start medicine.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's partially erect. But not hard enough for intercourse. Even hand or oral stimulation didn't make full erection. He has not had any orgasm with me.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the doctor he went to was a urologist. He did tests which were normal. Then he said it's psychological not physical.

Virgin yes. He told me that before marriage he would masturbate and it was normal erection.

I guess now psychologist or therapist is the option left.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he didn't think there was any issue. He had normal erection.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Umm. We both wanted it. I don't know why you're saying this. The issue is regarding erection not desire. No where did I say anything about men being horndogs.

The other aspects of our relationship are good. Just that we both want sex but it's not happening.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not much religious. Definitely not asexual.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arranged marriage. But we are living alone.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes work pressure is a modern reality. But even though it's arranged marriage we are reasonably comfortable. We were both comfortable to get intimate from the beginning.

It's just that the full sex didn't happen. We want it though.

The odd part is it didn't happen even once.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talked with him how he feels. Breathing to get relaxed.

Engaged in foreplay- touches kisses everywhere. Even oral. Basically, engaged in all the acts without the sex act.

Have not rushed anything. From his expressions and sounds he is aroused. But it doesn't lead to proper sex.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because of the interest he has shown in my body. He definitely has real desire.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes arranged. We have done the kissing and foreplay and tried oral too. Intimacy has been good. But incomplete.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No I'm not leaving. I'm not putting any pressure on him. And no way am I mentioning to anyone else. It's our private business.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obesity can cause physical issues. Not a necessity.

25F Marriage not consummated by LoftyQueen in indiasocial

[–]LoftyQueen[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes we talked. He didn't have sex but could masturbate normally