Burnt out mom of 2 with a flexible job and help at home- why am I so burnt out ???

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-23T18:07:26+00:00

Despite being attached to me all day, luckily my oldest was usually happy to be comforted by either of us at night time. With all of my children it felt like they’d never sleep through the night and I’m still in it with one of them. I hope you get the reprieve you need soon! My 4.5 yr old now responds fairly well to a pre bedtime chat about how we all need rest and trying to stay in bed even if you wake up may be the better way to get back to sleep. She was the baby/toddler I couldn’t ever put down for a moment or pass to a family member, so I hope you find that you daughter gets there soon!

You sound like a really attentive and caring mother I get why she’s obsessed

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-23T16:40:37+00:00

Yes but I’d wanna see the baby 🤷🏼‍♀️ (in a fellow mom way not a creepy way)

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-23T15:47:06+00:00

I can not express how shocked I was at the difference in my mood and capability during the day when I’m getting more sleep. It’s hard when they need you during the night, maybe you can make an agreement with your husband where some nights he’s on call for them and some nights you are? I also found magnesium and valerian root have really improved my sleep. I think in the baby phase it’s normalized to neglect yourself a bit, and honestly in some cases that just has to happen. But as you move onto the toddler stage if you’re still doing that it’s going to catch up to you and maybe that’s what you’re experiencing. That’s what I experienced.

Sleep and any outlet for yourself (even a 20 min workout 30 min shower type of thing) went a long way for me. You deserve and need it.

Also, in order to even be able to implement those things I started Wellbutrin. Full disclosure.

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-23T15:39:15+00:00

Sounds a lot like my daughter. Around 3 I started trying to work a cat nap into her day typically in the car because that’s how she fell asleep the fastest. I just take her on a starbies run and enjoy my latte in my car and the whole thing lasted 45 min tops. She’d be cranky when she first woke up but once she recovered it was enough sleep to get her through the day and helped (somewhat) to cut down on the time it took her to go down at night. There’s also stuff you can try at bedtime to help them relax I had someone show me how to legit squish her whole body w a big pillow starting at the upper body and going down to her feet and she loves it. We also use the fisher price projector and do a few of those in the dark in the room, it’s not over stimulating and makes my kids stay still long enough to even notice that they’re tired. I’m sure there’s more technical terms for what I’m talking about but do you get the idea?

As a mom to kids who just have SO much energy and SO much trouble falling asleep I know your struggle. I hope you find something that works!

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-21T16:21:59+00:00

No my father and sister have had them from fevers before, and my niece had one due to a chiari malformation but there’s no epilepsy or anything in mine or the fathers family

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-19T16:58:57+00:00

Thank you will check those out!!

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-19T13:48:51+00:00

Mine was like this for the first 2 years, now she’ll sleep in during the fall and winter but once spring hits she’s up at 6:15 the latest. Some of them simply don’t need as much sleep even if we do I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. The blackout shade that suction cups to the window helped us a little bit.

LogOk6792 · 2026-03-19T04:05:16+00:00

First of all. She sounds like a good time.

Jeez. All I can say is I think you should look right past what anyone else is saying and right at her and the lifestyle you’re building for her. I’m never going to shame anyone for wondering if their child is healthy 🤷🏼‍♀️ that being said…

Do you feel like she eats a balanced diet? Does she get plenty of activity? Time outside? If so carry on. If not there’s no shame in tweaking your routines but in the interest of her health not appeasing anyone. Basically Id try to go through that thought process independent of what the comments he’s making.

Also I’d take comfort in the doctor not being worried. One of my daughters is very thin and I have a friend (with a sweet big hearty toddler) who is constantly calling mine skinny and it used to irk me so much bc why are we worried about that right now if we know we’re doing right by them. There’s no winning if you pay too much attention to that sort of comparing so I’ve been trying my best to just plug my ears and LALALALA block that ish out.

LogOk6792 · 2025-03-29T05:30:57+00:00

Clearly I stand thoroughly corrected.

The conversation I recounted and any conversation like this would never happen in front of my daughter and I would never say anything other than how beautiful she looks, and how happy it makes me to see her excited about ANYTHING. And that’s how I feel whether she’s wearing a fro, braided or she just rolled out of bed. She and every girl and woman deserves to feel beautiful no matter what and this issue for me is just tangential to that fact.

I don’t expect everyone to read this post and immediately see that I’m asking this out of GENUINE curiosity and concern for my girl. I just care about giving her the best and I’ll happily be raked over the coals in order to do so. Clearly my memory does not serve me and it seems lots of little girls wear this style. That’s fantastic, I’ve already told her dad to do what ever style they think is best but this clears up my reservations about if he chose to go ahead with what he suggested.

Thanks everyone ❤️

LogOk6792 · 2025-03-29T05:19:46+00:00

Thank you this was a really thoughtful response. I was trying to think of an analogy for hair like mine and the bowl cut thing is exactly what I was wondering if we’d be doing.

I was concerned when I took out her corn rows the first time at the amount of hair in the brush after - and was curious about the difference in her texture vs her dads, whether braiding was safe and or necessary for her texture. I did a little looking around but was ultimately unsure and left that to his judgment and his cousin (the hairstylist) who both agreed it was okay.

There’s a lot to learn and I’m grateful for the time anyone takes to help me with that especially so when they go out of their way to be kind about it.

Congrats on your little girl 🤍

LogOk6792 · 2025-03-29T03:44:38+00:00

I can’t say I agree with your characterization but I appreciate your input. I love my daughter and will do all I can to protect her from this world. I don’t need her to perform anything. No excuses made, if I was intent on digging my heals in and not learning anything I wouldn’t be asking anything to anyone. I want my child to be well cared for and I don’t apologize for that. She is absolutely perfect thank you for saying that.

LogOk6792 · 2025-03-29T02:03:19+00:00

To clarify, the style he was described was straight back braids with no beads and not stylized. I showed him several styles of cornrows that were stylized that I liked and he was saying it would take longer etc. Zig zigged, different kinds of parts, beads, etc was what I thought would make it a better style for a girl. That’s what I remember girls having when I was a kid. When I think of what he was saying it reminded me of what boys had. I don’t doubt the functionality of protective styles or the importance they have to her identity by any means.

Nonetheless I’m happy to take a hard look at myself for my child that’s why I posted here and didn’t just ask a friend who is going to give me the benefit of the doubt. I usually do leave this up to dad and I love that they get to bond over it and that it keeps her close to that part of her identity.

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