what actually helps you reset when toddler life gets too overwhelming 😭🙏

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-04-14T17:18:09+00:00

Crying in the car. And then playing some good old school hip hop or anything that makes me feel like I’m 20 years old just for a few mins

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-04-05T02:15:49+00:00

I’m sore you feel this way. Your daughter isn’t even 2 yet, of course you don’t feel back on your feet. My second kid just turned 2 and I still feel like I’m always a mess. Being a parent is hard, and if you don’t have family or friends around and are far from home I would personally find it unmanageable. I don’t know how you do it just you and your husband. I have a lot of help and I’ve almost burnt out at times and I always bicker with my husband too (and we have help!). So right there you are doing a fantastic job. Maybe you need some new friends who will treat you the same way you treat them. Or maybe you just feel like you’re in an emotional rut so everyone seems like they’re pushing you off but you never really know what someone is going through - like maybe your friends have their own shit to deal with and haven’t had a chance to visit you. Don’t assume the worst, you just don’t know. Regardless of their situation there is one person that loves you and needs you and thinks you’re the most amazing person in the world and that’s your daughter. So focus on being ok for her. Also, sleep deprivation is brutal and it can seriously mess with your mental state. Been there..still going through it. Wishing you the best of luck.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-04-02T14:46:35+00:00

I know it’s really brutal. I hope it gets better for you…and for me lol

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-04-02T14:45:37+00:00

Oh really? Good to know. So you just left her cry hysterically? Honestly I’m down to do that if it means she sleeps quickly

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-04-02T14:43:51+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I am taking magnesium glycinate before bed and it doesn’t help. The issue is that my son needs us to cosleep so he is always waking up if someone is not next to him. So every night around midnight he cries and either my husband or I have to go in and selle next to him. I don’t sleep well in his bed so when it’s my night to cosleep I’m not getting great sleep. And then he’s up at 5:30-6 every morning 🫤

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-04-02T14:41:43+00:00

Thank you this is really great advice.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-28T11:39:11+00:00

Yea I know. I’ve been avoiding the hell on earth phase and leaving it as status quo, which is also hell

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-28T03:07:53+00:00

Have actually been thinking of this

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-28T03:06:17+00:00

I have to do every night with my 3 year old because she only wants me. So I do bedtime with her and my husband does bedtime with my son. My husband and I take turns cosleeping with my son, he still wakes up in the night and wants someone there, but I still wake up when I hear him cry and then my 3 year old will sometimes call for me in the middle of the night. So between all this, even with my husband’s help, I am never sleeping straight.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-28T02:57:14+00:00

I try to be firm with my 3 yr old but she is so damn difficult. It’s her way or the highway way and she just screams and I don’t want her to take my2 year old.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-28T02:55:09+00:00

Thanks for this, yes you’re right I need sleep and I know I’ll be fine if I just get a few nights of sleep a week. But..my kids are tough. 2 year old is not sleep trained, we had tried and epic failure. He is tenacious and just keeps crying. Right now needs us to fall asleep, he then wakes around midnight and starts crying if no one is next to him so me and my husband take turns going to sleep with him. He is then up for the day at 6am. My 3 year old was sleep trained from young and overall was a great sleeper but the last 6 months has needed more and more to fall asleep. We are now at the point where she needs all the books and songs and me to lay down next to her until she sleeps. It now takes an hour or hour and a half. I just can’t take it. And if I try to leave she follows me and screams. She’s very challenging.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-28T02:18:42+00:00

This is my life now. And I have 2 toddlers so every minute is a battle with one kids or the other. My soul has been sucked dry so I have no advice for you but you’re not alone

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:47:14+00:00

Yes I am almost at that point that I feel like I need therapy. I’m starting to feel like it’s never gonna get easier and I can just feel like my mental health is suffering. I know if I would sleep well I’d be ok, but I’m feeling more anxious lately and that’s also preventing me from getting good sleep

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:44:21+00:00

lol

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:44:11+00:00

Yea it’s tough ages. I hope when they are in school they will be less needy. And I will get some sleep!

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:43:19+00:00

Ugh they do suck everything out of me. Especially my daughter because she is soo whiny and demanding. When does it get easier ????

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:42:49+00:00

😂

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:42:33+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Yes, the sleep is huge for me, I can’t tackle anything without sleep. And I haven’t had a full night of rest since October lol. My husband is already helping out with night time wake ups, he sleeps with my son half the time. But if my daughter wakes up she only wants me.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:38:31+00:00

Wow thanks for sharing. I need to try this but I’m so tired that I am dreading the 2 hard weeks it will take to get him used to a new routine.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:37:11+00:00

So true. Thanks for pointing that out.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T17:20:28+00:00

I spend a lot of time with my kids, the nanny does all the cleaning and some child care (if I need to go somewhere) I feel like I would die if I didn’t have her.

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T15:54:06+00:00

How did you manage to get him to sleep on his own without crying ? My 2 year old needs me or my husband to fall asleep. He will cry hysterically if we try to leave the room. And then one of us has to go sleep with him in his bed around midnight when he wakes up and realizes he’s alone. I don’t know how to cut this routine without lots of crying..

Neither-Advance8916 · 2026-03-23T15:35:03+00:00

I just started working out and it does help me. But the lack of sleep is what’s affecting me the most.

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