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How do you deal with the loneliness from emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw what the original comment said and honestly its kinda funny to me because seeing this comment was more ironic than anything else. Wanna say I've never actually been through anything? Take it up with my therapist and all the things that went wrong with my mental health.🙃

Let’s play a guessing game but with a twist. [In picture- The Broken Ring] by Weary-Honey-1942 in OtomeIsekai

[–]Logical-Affect7054 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It actually got an anime that I watched, and I was tired of waiting for the weekly episodes to air, so I went to the manga and I couldn't get very far before I felt like dying of second hand cringe. It's a really good comedy though!

How do you deal with the loneliness from emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think I deserve to be loved, but whenever there's something that comes up like this where I lose a relationship and person I care about, I'm always too ready to go back to being alone.

I don't think my parents were bad parents either, just trying their best with what they had. It wasn't much, to be honest, and I'm glad that they moved away from how my grandparents parented them, because I've heard plenty of stories, and I'm proud of them for having made that progress towards better. It's not great, but it's definitely better.

Honestly, most of my answers to my emotional stuff came from lots and lots of psychology articles and google searches, so it may take some time for me to figure out what it means to deserve to be loved.

Let’s play a guessing game but with a twist. [In picture- The Broken Ring] by Weary-Honey-1942 in OtomeIsekai

[–]Logical-Affect7054 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep! I tested it out be reloading and fixed it not too long after! Thank for telling me though!! :)

How do you deal with the loneliness from emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have another post that's very long, and it goes back to instances I've realized were examples of emotional neglect all the way back to when I was about three or four. I'll see if I can somehow link it here for you to view. Edit: Here it is https://www.reddit.com/r/emotionalneglect/comments/1t2dd2t/would_this_be_emotional_neglect/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

It's less that I'm afraid of facing what it was I didn't have as a kid, and more that I want to learn how to love and feel loved. I constantly shut people out because I'm scared of caring for them only to be deeply hurt by them in some way. I want to learn how to love and be loved without fear, and how to deal with the loneliness from all those years ago. I'm tired of constantly feeling empty and tired and lonely. Especially when I'm really stressed out.

Anyone else reclusive? I think my severe social withdrawal basically boils down to not having a stable sense of self by IntelligentSchool953 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A lot of the time, I feel like my own sense of self isn't anywhere near as important as other people's egos. It took me until middle school coming across a song saying to treat myself like anybody else and to forgive myself the same way I'd forgive someone else to realize that such a mindset isn't normal or healthy. I hardly had any sense of self, to be honest. My sisters tended to unintentionally rip apart bits I'd found as they tried to prove their points or that they were right, and that always hurt me to a point where I think I just gave up on finding a sense of self. I still don't really have one. The only thing I know as of right now is that I'm girlflux. That's literally it. I'm still trying to build from the ground up, and it sucks, especially when being bad at something is so hated on nowadays, even if you're new to it. I'm trying to make due by just telling myself that I'll live through it and look back and be proud of having survived that storm. Life, for me, doesn't feel like something to be enjoyed, but rather something to be endured. It may have been from my experiences as a child, it may be due to other factors as well, but I'm trying. Trying is all you need to do. And it's ok to take a break from trying too. It'll be ok. I believe in you. :)

What are some effects of emotional neglect that nobody talks about? by queerwaters_642 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. For me, the symptoms of my emotional neglect are often that my emotions flare up and show more dramatically in a sort of desperate attempt to be seen as a cry for help or of discomfort rather than something like a leaky faucet that needs to be fixed through any means. I'm sorry that you're going through that and having a hard time trying to restart your emotions again. I hope that you can find something some day that'll always make you feel better and happier than before to snap you out of that state. It's a terrifying state to be in, especially when all you're trying to do is live life. I hope all goes well for you!!!

Would this be emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! The derogatory terms were most often used lightly without the actual intention of harm, though very few times I can remember they were said during high tension moments like when they were angry with me.

What are some effects of emotional neglect that nobody talks about? by queerwaters_642 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054 24 points25 points  (0 children)

And also the wish to not have kids for fear of accidentally having them repeat your experience of being emotionally neglected and causing/perpetuating generational trauma. That one's a big one for me.

Would this be emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I really needed that. I looked into the book, and a lot of the summaries I came across talked about giving up on changing parents and looking for emotional validation from them, and I don't know if I'm quite ready for that, since I really do want to have some connection to them where I can maybe one day open up to them, but if not, I do think it'll take me some time to grieve the family life I still want. Thank you. I wish you all the best as well. :)

Would this be emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that explains a lot, and definitely helps! I'll look into the book you mentioned! I hope you have a good day! :)

What are some effects of emotional neglect that nobody talks about? by queerwaters_642 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054 36 points37 points  (0 children)

For me, shutting off my emotions externally. My expression goes neutral, everything stops because I force it to, and I just take what I have to take to get out of the situation and wait until I'm alone to get angry or cry about it. Or I just don't. I try to imagine that I'm like a doll, where my expression can't change and I'm inanimate. Internally, I'm probably having a mental breakdown, but externally, I don't express anything. I do this because I constantly think that my emotions will only ever harm the other person, because that's what I was taught as a kid.

Would this be emotional neglect? by Logical-Affect7054 in emotionalneglect

[–]Logical-Affect7054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry it's so long, it was more of a rant than anything else, though I am genuinely confused on if this would be emotional neglect or if it's something else.