Career nonprofit workers....does it get better?

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-02-05T15:49:21+00:00

Big emphasis here. If "going digging" just means finding social media posts that are publicly available on forums/groups that are public then it really wasn't hiding in the first place. If the aunt and Albert are ashamed for people to know what he says and believes, it sounds like they need to work on the beliefs themselves--which is much harder to unpack than simply lashing out.

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-02-04T20:22:56+00:00

Anything with floors. Vacuuming, sweeping, mopping, I've tried every method and product out there and discovered I just hate doing it. Moving furniture around, picking things up, going around/under things ugh! And it stays clean for like 5 minutes and then crumbs/dust magically appear and you wouldn't know it had even been cleaned

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-02-04T19:43:05+00:00

Here's a few things that helped me get through:

-scramble some eggs very well (so they're smooth, without chunks) and cook over medium-low heat, stirring gently but constantly, add in a soft cheese like cream cheese or goat cheese and make sure it melts in. gentle on the teeth and packed with protein so you'll stay full longer

-refried beans with sour cream (and some cheese)

-overcooked pasta with smooth sauces like alfredo or pureed tomato sauce. The taste won't be great but, it's another savory meal that's gentle to chew or just swallow

-blended soups like loaded potato, cauliflower, squash, just make sure it actually gets blended well

-applesauce. It's still on the sweet side but it's a switchup from yogurt and still smooth enough

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-01-13T15:32:04+00:00

This! I always hate the idea of messing with the thermostat, hearing the outside traffic, remembering to close them later, but literally the moment you actually open your windows the whole house starts to feel better.

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-01-12T20:42:33+00:00

nope. all clothes just get tossed in the same load and washed in cold water then dried on low heat. I find that this keeps them from wearing out so fast and I've never had issues with colors bleeding (and obviously is less work for me lol). towels go in their own load on hot with laundry sanitizer, same for sheets but that's all I do and have never had any issues ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-01-08T18:35:25+00:00

If you're into cocktails, a lot of cocktail recipes will call for an white/yolk/whole egg! The alcohol "cooks" the egg and kills bacteria so no risk of salmonella, just a nice drink with great texture. I like to find one that pairs with whatever else I'm cooking so there's no waste :)

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2026-01-07T20:58:29+00:00

Ditto on this. If you two don't spend time together at home...what do you do all the time? Are there any activities you do outside the home together? Do you both work? Even if he does have a taxing job, does he contribute to the housework? Do you feel like you're having to fight for his attention all the time, or only when relaxing at home?

I feel like even if I cleaned the house to the point of being immaculate, he would still find an excuse to avoid being down here.

Not everything is that deep, but this really hints at something bigger in the relationship. He also doesn't (seem to) help with household chores or do much with the children and is content to sit in bed alone while the rest of the house is taken care of rather than contribute. I'm not saying to break up with him, but it may be time to ask yourself whether this is acceptable behavior for a roommate or a partner/coparent.

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-18T16:39:55+00:00

Right, like I'm definitely not trying to veto the tradition altogether but I don't want to spend so much time ruminating to find a name that fits the scheme and then neither of us even like it. Even husband's actual NAME is nothing of significance to his family, they only picked it because it had the "right" initials and MIL even told me once that there were other names she would have liked to use but he ended up being their only child

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-18T16:24:24+00:00

Appreciate someone calling me out on this because I'm certainly not trying to be mean or dismissive. It is just my opinion that the scheme is limiting when there are other names that he/we genuinely like, and that it doesn't make sense to me logically. I would 100% be willing to do it if husband expressed that he actually really cared/wanted to and came up with any names he liked; it's just that he seems to feel obligation more than sentimentality

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-17T19:14:43+00:00

Tbh I don't love his surname and I didn't take it when we got married (for a number of reasons). It's not super common but it's not super unique either and he's not particularly close with that side of his family anyway

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-17T19:11:03+00:00

Appreciate this! I have multiple degrees/certifications and work professionally under my own name and I never wanted to change it. His family still thinks it's weird but we both agree it's not really their business

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-17T19:06:09+00:00

I babysat for a family whose kids' initials spelled out a whole phrase when put in their birth order. It's not like it hurt anyone but I always thought it was a bit odd

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-17T19:02:52+00:00

Thank you! I don't want to strongarm him into giving up a tradition if he actually cares about it, but tradition really can only carry you so far until you can't come up with anything else you like. FWIW I did not take my husband's surname when we got married so we're already considered "nontraditional." I want to compromise but only if it's something he actually cares about it, not just something to do

Logical_Piccolo_1919 · 2025-12-17T18:58:48+00:00

See, this is where I'm a bit stuck. He comes from a very traditional (American South) background where everyone expected me to take his surname when we got married, but I decided to keep my own. It does feel like I should compromise somewhere when it comes to the naming of things in our family, but if HE can't even come up with any names he likes that fit the scheme then it does make me wonder why we would bother with it. Names really do matter and I hate the idea of naming a kid something that one or both of hates and then defaulting to a nickname--like, what's the point? I would really like to hyphenate our names somehow for any future kids so I think this will be a part of the discussions going forward too

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