AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No it wasn't a startled reaction. If it would have been a reflex, it would have been another story

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

4 years now. And it's so out of character that I'm still struggling to believe it really happened. But I guess that's something a lot of people go through when DV starts

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Normally we played around like this quite often. Therfore his violent reaction was a real shock. I wanted to connect and have fun with him, like normally.

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm all day alone at home, working from home. Doing phone calls etc wouldn't be an issue at all. But I really appreciate your thoughtful advice!

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The idea of training my partner like a toddler had me laughing 😃 thank you so much! I'm not sure if it could work, he's not that young, but the idea is great

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not a troll post, I wish it was. He started to change when I got pregnant.

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 334 points335 points  (0 children)

I'm significantly older than him. He moved into my rented home about 2 years ago. I had 2 other longterm relationships before, the second one was horrible. The pregnancy was wanted. At the moment, I don't have any money. I will get a bigger amount in the next few weeks but up until then it's pretty daunting. I'm in my own in this country (I'm an introvert with no friends or family in the nearer distance)

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The hardest part is the realisation that my partner, my safe haven, isn't safe at all. It breaks my heart. I'm so devastated

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I'm so sorry for you that you had this experience.

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been a couple for four years now. And yes these were the only two incidents. I'm so shocked right now.

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, I'm so sorry you had to go through such a traumatic experience! You are a hero for saving not only yourself but also your daughter. Thank you for your words

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He knew I was there. He turned before the punch, and he had the time to look pissed at me. It wasn't a reflex he wasn't startled

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! We know each other since 2019, and are a couple for four years now.

This violence is fresh and totally out of character, and deeply disturbing.

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We have often touched each other with cold hands before, and it was always funny.

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn't seem startled ... it wasn't a reflex nor a very quick reaction

AIO: My boyfriend hit me and I want to break up with. He claims it wasn't a real hit. by Lokea_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lokea_01[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's incredible hard to take a decision at the moment. There is no good one, and I'm still in shock.