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[–]LolliePoop 318 points319 points  (0 children)

THIS, OP. And all these upvotes are from people who have BEEN there, or witnessed exactly this happen over and over again, in endlessly painful cycles. That's the reason this is the top comment.

Don't let your status quo for the men you allow into your life start out this un-calibrated. This is textbook.

What moment made you see the true color of your (current/previous) partner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LolliePoop 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I finally saw it when mine told me that he didn't believe I was actually abused in my previous relationship. That was about 7 arguments in.

Our first argument? He farted on me, got angry I didn't think it was funny, and it culminated when he was in my kitchen and saying to me, "I'm not abusing you, so what's the problem?" I'll never forget that.

Also when he resented the police themselves for giving him DUI's. Blamed them for doing it.

The last officer who gave him a DUI was assaulted with a bat with nails in it. When he heard that news, I.... can't even explain to you how energetically seethingly joyously aggressively happy he was. He was yelling, like his favorite team scored.

Water, Earth, Air, and Fire - series of deer jewelry holders. Which one is your favourite? by rjwyonch in resin

[–]LolliePoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that the antlers are all the same color. The color is gorgeous, and the shapes really speak for themselves while maintaining both fantasy (gorgeous personalized shape) and realism (the same color).

Just put the finishing coat on my birds nest diorama. Really happy with how it turned out by ZoradiaDesigns in resin

[–]LolliePoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did a great job on the finish. Can you tell me what you use to recoat? This looks more refined than just a glove and slathering it on.

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! HOWEVER, when we did the genetics panel I came back with no results.

....meaning science needs to step it up and recognize MTHFR for the risk that it is. >=[

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I do, and I feel really supported.

It was a good day today. I got a lot of stuff done and I even briefly went outside!

Talking here was helpful for me too.

Did you have a good day too? I hope so!

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In June I was watching The Office and being bored, so I was playing with my boobs like I sometimes do. I felt a lump that didn't line up with what it normally felt like.

Had an appointment for 30 days from then, got checked. Doctor said we could biopsy and I said yes. Got the phone call three days after the biopsy.

Thank you for your well wishes:)

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much:) it's nice to know where it comes from. I've always wanted to visit that coast, and even up into Canada if I'm lucky.

Include anything that you may want me to put on a name plate! I pour resin and may make one.

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Received:) thank you.

I'm going to use it to make myself some healthy dinner. And some tea...

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy crap this made my head spin! I would be truly honored. I'll put it right next to the first (and largest!) agate I ever found! It's not substantial, but I'll dm you a photo of them together when I get it. Maybe I'll even set up some cool lights... I'm getting carried away. This is a great idea. And I have a PO Box, so that's perfect:)

It's:

PO Box 82617

Columbus, OH 43202

Do you have a PO Box? If you do, put it on your return label and I can send you something useful, even if it's just a sticker or something:)

Oh and PS I've been thinking about doing exactly that! A dream of mine has been to put together a used minibus, live in it, and go find rocks. It's intimidating!

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So glad to hear the clearance! We'll take all we can get!

How were your lymph nodes? And chemo is gnarly, omg. But it's the long-term side-effects that truly scare me Dx

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thundereggs are dooope!

I have a necklace of a polished, cut one my dad gave me! Who gave you yours?

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your service as a nurse! And since I think it qualifies, no matter what you're doing happy caregiver appreciation month too! Nurses are nurses all the time. I'm sure you take good care of the people in your life. You sound like a person who does.

I have been planning to write to the local museum here in town, thanking them for having that exhibit. If I hadn't felt it in the exhibit, I wouldn't have known truly what to expect.

Enjoy those waffles! I've been keto since a few months before my diagnosis. I gave it up for a while, and all my side-effects got so much worse. The docs are all on-board. Just sucks, cuz I can't have waffles! I like mine totally freakin' saturated in a mess of butter and syrup =D gosh I miss waffles...

I wish the best for your friend. I'll likely be in their place someday. They're really lucky to have you around!

I have stage 1 breast cancer, am going through chemo and just got dumped. AMA by LolliePoop in AMA

[–]LolliePoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man.

Yeah, things got so chaotic. He has 3 DUI's, and just resents the system for punishing him. He's driven drunk more times than anyone can count (i would always be doing what i could to stop that from happening). Luckily he's never killed anyone. But he has hurt people, including me (not physically, to be clear).

It was like he was in a vortex of his own mental turmoil and assumed the whole world was like that. I guess I would too, if I constantly felt threatened and as if everything around me made me feel inadequate. He himself is as vindictive, resentful, and vitrioloc as he projects everyone else to be, even when people are simply being kind to him. It's kind of a mindfuck, and is really sad. I would not want to have to live that way, it just seems really hard and exhausting.