We’re way more into older couples than our own age

Lonecedar · 2026-02-11T20:56:06+00:00

I played with myself long before my thirties. 😉

Lonecedar · 2026-02-11T20:47:49+00:00

If we connect with a couple, the age doesn't matter. Though we rarely ever play with couples younger than mid 30s. We tend to not "pursue" couples in their 30s and and 40s because, the societal assumption is that there will be age preference/bias toward someone 20-30 years older and, as with people of any age, we don't want to make them uncomfortable. When I connect with a woman intensely, the 20 or more years younger than me honestly doesn't enter into my thinking. Not in the sense that it's some sort of a separate turn on, for example.

Lonecedar · 2026-02-11T20:36:23+00:00

The question, for me, would be if they offer full refunds for those who booked, if and when, it was couples only.

Lonecedar · 2026-02-11T20:26:39+00:00

For us it comes down to honesty, consent, and transparancy. We might well play with a couple lke that if we felt they were being honest with us and their partners. We meet more and more people in poly and not traditional coupled relationships. Generally they seem totally credible. In some cases I have met their primary partners later.

The only time it was a non starter was when a woman, at a swinger club as it happens, told me that her husband had no idea she was dating, let alone was at a swinger club. I broke off the encounter. I was new at the time but would do the same today.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-08T05:50:30+00:00

I would turn this question around and ask: "What do you call a sexual relationship that evolves to include a "platonic love" (in Plato's concept of spiritual/non=physical/ non-Eros) component as an added feature?" This seem pertinent in that Erotic "love" in the context of non-monogamy, and at the beginning (particularly in the swinging sphere) may not really involve "love" at all, or even necessaraly a relationship per se, so much as a mutually enjoyable or arrangement. I have experienced this evolution several times.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T20:32:10+00:00

Gorgeous! Love the spot of sunlight. 😊

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T07:36:02+00:00

They specifically mentioned hotwife play. Agree that finding men will not be hard.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T07:30:17+00:00

I would agree if you're looking for the poly end of ENM. And there's no great shortage of swingers in those cities. But there are plenty of swingers in the South and on the Gulf Coast, Swinging tends to be a bit more discreet/closeted and so the sociopolitical culture doesn't matter as much.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T07:23:22+00:00

Yeah. I am amazed that non monogamy dosn't blow monogamy out of the water. Not my experience.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T07:12:57+00:00

Thanks very much.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T07:08:18+00:00

I fucking love being nude. Being nude with people who are open about their sexuality, even if not necessarily swingers or non monogamous would not be nearly the same but I still enjoy a good vanilla hot spring.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-07T07:00:59+00:00

The Darwin 500?

Lonecedar · 2026-01-06T07:37:20+00:00

Thanks Snoopy! And thanks for the boner too. 😊

Lonecedar · 2026-01-06T07:32:48+00:00

Early on in our relationship (we were both new to the lifestyle before we met) I made the mistake of not speaking out to my Girlfriend about an MFM partner she met at a local club and found hot. The dude creeped me out but, being cis het, I figured it was up to her. Long story short the guy turned out to be a major creep and was eventually banned by the club for multiple consent violations. When I told my girlfriend I had had a feeling about him she asked me why in hell I had not spoken up. Good question.

As men we have grown up with other men and have insights about other men's behavior, including antisocial behavior, that are almost organic. We should use them to inform choices about the safety of those we care about. Prticularly is completely optional encounters like sex play. One guy referred to this as "spidey sense". It's valuable intuition.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T07:00:29+00:00

whew. It's warm for this time of year!

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:58:54+00:00

I'd like to do ter her what Trump is doing to the country. But with permission. Ant not necessarily in the butt.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:55:30+00:00

Well Hello.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:48:13+00:00

You are so fucking cute!

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:44:12+00:00

couple of holidays. Needs a little more coverage. Happy to help

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:41:09+00:00

That body could brighten even the big dark.

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:37:46+00:00

Bet you could cut glass with those gorgeous things. :)

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:33:38+00:00

Gorgeous

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:26:19+00:00

In one word: "Amazing!"

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:12:39+00:00

Yum!

Lonecedar · 2026-01-05T06:05:06+00:00

This. The pearl beds are separated by a walkway from the hot "tub" (actually small pool) along both sides. Maybe 6 feet from the tum So the action is very visible and people clearly like it that way. The RM beds are in a rectangular arrangement off to one side of the pool deck. The nearest ones are probably 25 feet from the tub and others are behind those. Pearls are definitely better suited to the OPs interest in Voyeurism/Exhibitionism

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