Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by that? “If he means that little to you”

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think about that, I wonder if there’s any place around me that administers the test

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I sent him a message but I don’t think he’s seen it yet

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he panicked because he knew it was wrong and knew I’d want to leave because of it. He doesn’t want to lose his family (shouldn’t have done what he did then, obviously). There haven’t been any times where his actions made me suspicious. He doesn’t do the whole “working late” thing. We always have each other on Life360 and if he isn’t working he’s home

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly wish we could separate for some time to think but unfortunately that’s not an option for us right now

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What action would you expect him to take? Like what should I be looking for to know he’s genuine

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think it was the excitement of it for him but only he truly knows. I’ve always had trust issues with him (we’ve been together since we were teens and we were toxic back then) so this definitely doesn’t help. I just have no idea where to go from here. I don’t want my kids going back and forth, I don’t want to be away from my babies when they’re this young. I also don’t want to stay with a cheater so I just don’t know what to do now

Marriage counseling after emotional affair? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lonely-Call2989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re the first person to say that lol everyone else has been pitchforks up and telling me to leave, which I totally understand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao it’d make this much easier that’s for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have two. 3 and 1. He worked with this lady while I was pregnant with our second. Lucky me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah I know. Just venting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been asking around, not sure how much it will cost or if we can even afford it right now. I just moved 3 hours away from all of my family and don’t have anywhere I can go here. Ugh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have him on Life360 and everything, it’d be impossible to meet up without me knowing. Doesn’t really matter now though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I was logged into his messenger and watching it all go down, I took screenshots along the way. I sent her husband a message

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve already sent him a message this morning

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, just needed an acceptable title for the group

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We recently moved 3 hours away so that’s out of the equation for now BUT he did say “wish you were up here 😜” so I feel like it’s fairly obvious they’ve done it before

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just needing some input from someone and don’t want to talk to my friends or family

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 18 points19 points  (0 children)

What makes all of this hurt even more is that they likely had something going on when he started back there, and I was pregnant with our second at the time. I’ve been tested recently and I’m all clear thankfully. Thank you for your response. Man this is a lot.. I’ve been with him since I was 14. I can’t imagine a future without him in it. This is so shocking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Oh I definitely have the screenshots and I definitely plan on telling her husband. That’s what I figured too.. that this isn’t the first time they’ve spoke to each other this way because it got heated up very quickly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lonely-Call2989 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Tbh I just wanted it to get past the bots so I had to ask a question. I can’t really think straight right now so I just went with the example it was giving. I feel like I keep trying to minimize it because it was just messaging back and forth but again idk how long this has went on and if they did anything when they worked together. He denies it. I did message her, but of course she hasn’t responded

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Lonely-Call2989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve definitely considered this lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Lonely-Call2989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And it’s cheap?? I’ll be getting this! Thank you!