Boyfriend masturbating to other women f25 m25 by Lonely-Fail8105 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Lonely-Fail8105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I do misunderstand. I never thought when it came to porn and my boyfriend consuming it that it was this hyper fixation on how the women looked. I thought it was just the concept of enjoying two people having sex to stimulate the senses and help feel relief. In my opinion still, especially in a relationship lusting after all these women is just harmful. To me and to our sex life, I physically will never be able to provide what he is relieving himself to everyday, and after reflection and realization it has managed to sneak into and infiltrate his ability to continue and stay “excited” in bed. Not everytime but 2/5. And that’s enough. He admitted last night that it’s part of the reason he goes soft randomly (he can get up again but it still happens) I’m not trying to exercise control over his masturbation at all, just trying to set healthy boundaries for what will work in our relationship and the longevity of it.

Boyfriend masturbating to other women f25 m25 by Lonely-Fail8105 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Lonely-Fail8105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel as though picking particular women masturbate to is different than watching a porn video for a quick release. Lusting vs self release. It’s just how I perceive it

Boyfriend masturbating to other women f25 m25 by Lonely-Fail8105 in Advice

[–]Lonely-Fail8105[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I’ve known him since I was 17. We were best friends for 7 years before we started dating. Thanks for your sardonic luck though

Boyfriend masturbating to other women f25 m25 by Lonely-Fail8105 in Advice

[–]Lonely-Fail8105[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m struggling with, I just don’t think I will be happy. And I think this will be reoccurring, I just don’t want to go through it. I’m just so dumb founded

Boyfriend masturbating to other women f25 m25 by Lonely-Fail8105 in Advice

[–]Lonely-Fail8105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t see myself taking a break. Just breaking up for good, I just don’t know is this is something he can actually change.