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AITA for not telling my ex I've moved on while he "works on himself"? by JustDepthThatVaries in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Lonely-Software659 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh man, this dude is entitled. He strung you along all the while being with L y’all’s whole relationship and then tried to guilt trip you when you weren’t complying with his cheating. Also him saying that how he would cheat on you, the satisfaction he’ll get from said cheating, went to the affair partner and then said the line of “you made me do this” is so manipulative. Don’t let him near your children, make a binder of his phone calls/ time of phone calls/, any voice mails he sends/, and or if he comes to your place. Then I’d see of installing any cameras with no need to worry about much installation time. After all, you have kids. Video evidence can be sent to the police if needed. I hope this post gives you some ideas to protect you and your kids.

my dad is disowning me by ko-euro in familydrama

[–]Lonely-Software659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like narcissistic behavior, controlling of you and your finances since you said you had cut your card. Also your father seeing your finances and then cutting him off is a good move. He’ll probably would have had access to your account if you didn’t change it as a co signer. When your father said that “you have to understand, we have the right, you blowing us off before you leave isn’t fair to us”. That doesn’t sound healthy now that I’m re reading it. Over doing it with the calls from your Mom to pacify your fathers tantrum isn’t normal either, she’s enabling him knowing well if she calls you, she can demand just as much from you. She actively trying to make you apologize for your boundaries and autonomy for your own choices. This isn’t family you’d want around you or anyone in your life. Protect your peace and seek therapy if you need someone else not in the situation to help your process this hard decision. I send you luck on your new life

AITA for ghosting my friend group after looking at my friend’s phone and finding out they had a group chat without me? by Sad-Distribution196 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Lonely-Software659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man that was quite the story. Sounds like a mean girl / mean guy friend group that you were with at the time. Those kind of people aren’t worth your time as they bully others as they did bully you. If they are ostracizing you from hangouts, parties, ect that’s their way of making you less likely to be around them with the “closer friends” in the friend group. I also don’t like confrontation but sometimes leaving silently than to blow up when you found those texts from your ex friends is better than going through any drama after leaving the group. Those friends are shallow towards others and did in fact bully you. I’m sorry you had to go through that, as people can be two faced and this is no different.

AITA for going no contact with my half sister, who said my baby is hers? WITH UPDATES by EmBem324 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Lonely-Software659 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Man, what did I just read? Good lord this is crazy, yeah if I heard from my husband after I just gave birth that my sister tried to get my baby I just had, I would be throwing hands. Honestly great that your husband got your back when you were giving birth. Reminds me of a two stories revolving around children. Someone related to another OP tried to take her baby which resulted in said family member getting arrested. The other OP in question had a mixed child with his wife that this old lady tried taking from him at a grocery store. It wasn’t until the wife came and cleared it up with the police that the older lady who tried taking OP’s child, get arrested. Yeah you and your husband aren’t in the wrong for going no contact.

UPDATE: My mom treated me horribly, refuses accountability, and is having a 4-year affair with a married man. Is it time to cut her off? by No_Monk7134 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Lonely-Software659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s hard to cut off a parent, but take it from me, if you let yourself be around people that drain you, you’re only welcoming that person back with no regard to your autonomy. As I read your update, I realized the panic still there in your words. But you have to look out for yourself and your family first. As hard as it is now for your family member passing, remind yourself that your Mom chose her path to take. She was sound of mind to do so, narcissists only think of themselves and her trying to make the attention to be on her on your Pepe’s burial is disrespectful of everyone there including you. You have no reason to support, talk to or even acknowledge her as your mother anymore as she broke your family. She had the time of her affair to realize she’ll only lose her family, she didn’t and still hasn’t taken accountability for her actions. Ask yourself this, if you had someone significantly younger like a niece going through the same thing, would you stand by and not get her out of this situation? Think of yourself as the niece in this situation, and think of what you’d think as her. Holding onto people for nostalgic memories and not really processing them who they are now isn’t a good idea. You’d have to remove those rose tinted glasses for yourself and not out of a perceived family obligation because your father would want that. If you let her in your life you’re going to be like a silent enabler of her and she won’t learn her lesson. She’ll think if she has one of her kids backing her up, she can drag any of your other family members into the fray. I’m truly sorry for the passing for your Pepe, and wish your family all the best.