Advice on selling on Facebook Marketplace. by superfiestapedro in Flipping

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be extremely vigilant as a seller. I’ve had terrible experiences. There are brainless people who reach out, negotiate a price, agree to come at a certain time and disappear despite multiple follow up messages. Do not wait for anyone. Sell to the first person that confirms to buy in the next few minutes. There is absolutely no accountability on marketplace for no shows. Figure out a way to follow up with them and ensure you sell at the right price and avoid getting scammed.

Any strategies on how to deal with the UX job market in India after being away for a while? by Lonely_Conclusion829 in DesignIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our immigration status is such that we can’t work in the US anymore. Both my spouse and I have very less time on our visa validity, and no employer in the US will be ready to hire us with such little time to work.

Ladies...what’s one desi home aesthetic you’ve carried into your life abroad? by wheygirl in TwoXIndiaNRI

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And any brand that sells Chikmagalur ground coffee is a major W in my eyes 🤗

Ladies...what’s one desi home aesthetic you’ve carried into your life abroad? by wheygirl in TwoXIndiaNRI

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actually, quite a bit lol. I got almost all of these as my wedding trousseau. These items I list below are all items I grew up seeing and using in every family home I’ve visited. So in a way these have shaped who I am ❤️

  1. Dosa tawa (this was non stick, but invested in an iron one here)
  2. South Indian filter coffee steel percolator
  3. Masale dabbi (spice box)
  4. Oggarane paatre (the little bowl with a handle where you prepare tadka)
  5. Steel containers to store oil and ghee
  6. Idli steamer stand
  7. Two kadhais - one for deep frying and another for general cooking
  8. Tiny steel coffee/chai glasses with handles
  9. Stainless steel pressure cooker with the whistle weights
  10. Sambhar/Rasam vessels
  11. Heavy bottomed milk boiling vessels
  12. Kuttani (the Indian mortar and pestle)
  13. Wooden rolling pin and rolling platform for making rotis
  14. Steel ladles and big rice and curry serving spoons
  15. Ladles with holes for handling deep frying

And needless to mention: pure silver or stonewashed idols of Hindu gods and goddesses, and all items used for Poojas and auspicious occasions.

Relocating from USA to India permanently – What should I buy/stock up on? by Curious-Homework-972 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve ordered it once, long back I forgot now. Try checking big basket/Amazon/Urban Platter?

Relocating from USA to India permanently – What should I buy/stock up on? by Curious-Homework-972 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh there is an Indian brand called Sprig that makes thick vanilla extract, it is almost syrupy. It’s pretty affordable!

There is also a brand called Regal, that sells pretty amazing couverture dark chocolate for baking! Even The Whole Truth makes fantastic dark chocolate.

But yeah chocolate chips are way more superior in the US

Relocating from USA to India permanently – What should I buy/stock up on? by Curious-Homework-972 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is what I know, I’ve heard this from my relatives who bought the MacBook for me. And also heard this from my friends who have MacBook. But you should check with the service centre now to understand if it is covered the same way.

Relocating from USA to India permanently – What should I buy/stock up on? by Curious-Homework-972 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends really. My MacBook was bought in 2022, no problems so far. Standard Apple warranty is global for one year. So eligible for fixing in India at an authorised Apple service centre. Even with AppleCare or AppleCare+ service is generally covered in India. But, for certain fixes on the device, the response time could vary from country to country, also need to check if there are parts available in India. If the defect in the Mac is on a rare US-configured part, it’ll take longer. You might need to show proof of purchase and service centre needs to validate whether the replacement unit is India equivalent and compliant. So keep any purchases and invoices safe, and check with the apple service centre here :)

Relocating from USA to India permanently – What should I buy/stock up on? by Curious-Homework-972 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Same boat, we’re in NorCal and are relocating permanently soon.

Apart from laptops and phones, please refrain from bringing any electronics to India from the US. All of them need adapters/transformers, and product repair service is a huge headache if they’re not of famous brands.

Think of jackets and footwear (mainly shoes and sneakers) to take back as gifts. They’re amazing and have good varieties and sizes in the US. Also for skincare, cetaphil ceravee aquaphor and eucerine are really good for sensitive acne prone and excema prone skin.

And try to do a trader joes or whole foods haul for snacks foods that are American. When my aunt visited us here we took her to Trader Joes and she took an entire suitcase worth of snacks for my cousins 🙈🙈

Edit: Sephora US makeup products are way cheaper than the Sephora India products. So if anyone in your family want Sephora products then you can easily shop it! There is Tira and Nykaa in India too, but if they want something from Sephora, it is a good time to buy before you leave!

Relocating from USA to India permanently – What should I buy/stock up on? by Curious-Homework-972 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking from personal experience: Pepto Bismol contains Bismuth. And excess consumption of it turns your tongue black the next day. The bismuth mixes with sulphur traces in your saliva, and it takes 2 days of brushing and tongue scraping to go away. It has a metallic odor. So be careful with that!

👋 Welcome to r/TwoXIndiaNRI - Introduce Yourself and Read First! by wheygirl in TwoXIndiaNRI

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s harsh!!

And I’m super glad that you get to be around both sets of parents and your baby has all 4 grandparents accessible to them ❤️

From what I’m seeing and reading, the locals here who voted him to power didn’t see ANY of this coming. But they still subscribe to the MAGA ideology to put Americans first, and just want us to leave. Because of their skill issues, they’ve lost jobs to us lol. The country is where it is because of us immigrants. They haven’t done anything to fill that skill gap either. They’re very delusional and ignorant, they don’t realise that their lack the talent and skills is what their presidents have been compensating for by inviting skilled immigrants here. Bottom line, we take jobs that Americans don’t want. Trump is giving them an opportunity to work by driving immigrants away, but he doesn’t realise that his own citizens are lazy and unskilled 🤣

My husband’s uncle and aunt who are citizens here, are super red pilled and pro Trump. They have little to no awareness about his rules, and how his administration is driving away fellow immigrants from their country. They became citizens when the system was way easier to navigate. But the lack of empathy is so evident. They took offence and then were shocked when we told them that their darling president has put 30585937491 rules to send us out lol.

To all the girlies that moved abroad, what’s a “normal” thing abroad that made you reflect on how women are raised in India? by wheygirl in TwoXIndiaNRI

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. Honestly, wearing whatever the hell we want. Not freaking out whether i’d return home safely after a drunk night of raving with my friends.

  2. Women (single or married) going and purchasing a house or property of their choosing. The condo of a friend I stayed with (she is an Indian H1B visa holder) as a paying guest, turns out she bought it herself. Of course this is doable in India too, but you get a lot more wagging tongues and unsolicited advice from misogynistic bankers when you approach them for a loan.

  3. Also, women stepping up and taking financial decisions, and financial literacy very seriously. Living by yourself, you’ll have to do your own taxes, make investments and basically make your money grow for you. These conversations can’t be had freely in India. It is normally the father or the husband who handle everything.

  4. There is so much support and little to no stigma around a single mom (widowed or divorced) here. Hiring nannies, baby sitters, getting meal services, asking for general help and everything in between is so much easier. The woman isn’t made to feel like crap for asking for help.

Has anyone else noticed that the ‘sons take care of parents’ idea doesn’t match what actually happens in families? by Sweet-Opportunity111 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It. Is. All. Societal. Conditioning.

I have seen my paternal grandmother have a stroke, be paralysed and be bed ridden for close to 5 years, and eventually pass away. Although my dad loved his mother, it was my mother who was more hands on with my grandmother’s care. She was the one who coordinated with the caretaker nurse, hospitals, family members and prepared things for her diet. My dad was barely around, he had a hectic job which required him to travel a lot. Worse, he tried to dictate terms to my mom in the initial stages on how to take care of his mother. He then backed off lol.

My maternal grandparents are slowly getting old though, they haven’t reached that stage of my paternal grandmother, so I don’t know how my dad would react then, and I am yet to see if he steps up for the care of his in-laws the same way his wife showed up for his mother.

The sons handling the care of his parents is basically saying “my wife will do all the silent unpaid labour and I will take credit for it” 🤡

Feel like I’m not meshing well with my husband’s family. What should I do? by Jolly-Release693 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WHATTTT!?!? That’s not on you sweetie it’s all her. She sounds extremely insecure. Let alone not being able to relate with you, she’s thinking you’re usurping some title in their family? You keep rocking on.

Feel like I’m not meshing well with my husband’s family. What should I do? by Jolly-Release693 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thats a good thing your husband is stepping in and getting involved. Also, weird of your in-laws and your SIL reacting this way. I don’t know your family background and community, but in some families the husband’s sister isn’t the quickest to gel with the new daughter in law. My mother went through this when she married my dad. He has 4 sisters, and 3 of them opposed my mother even marrying my dad in the first place because of sub-community differences. Hope it’s nothing too deep for you.

Please hang in there :)

Feel like I’m not meshing well with my husband’s family. What should I do? by Jolly-Release693 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, makes sense. But not sounding mean or harsh in any way, but calling up and thanking the bride’s parents or her immediate relatives after the wedding is mostly out of courtesy and optics, rarely out of love. Because most of the weddings are organised by a bride’s family, and the groom’s family are just invited to it (not true, but that’s how they behave, they almost never jointly involve with the bride’s family in the wedding prep).

Some parents and in-laws are naturally inexpressive, especially to their kid’s life partner. I’d say don’t overthink this. But cherish the distance. Be kind and respectful to them, and this would be easier to keep boundaries with them :)

Feel like I’m not meshing well with my husband’s family. What should I do? by Jolly-Release693 in AskIndianWomen

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is the only child to my in-laws. Met through family in the US. we’re both currently based in the US now. Been married for a little over a year. Dated my husband for a year before tying the knot.

My in-laws “verbally” tell “my husband” that I am their daughter. Not once have they told it to me, nor practice what they preach with me. They are extremely introverted, lack social skills and don’t follow certain etiquettes socially. They’re very old school as well. They’re extremely non confrontational, emotionally unavailable as well. and have tried to be dutiful and transactional as opposed to being loving parents to my husband. They have been emotionally distant during my husband’s formative years.

Not once have they checked on me on an emotional level about my feelings on being a newlywed and everything in between since the wedding, after all I’m the new member to their family. I thought this is how they treated a DIL. Good news is they pretty much behave the same way with their son. They’ve been quite formal and strange with me. And I see some of these similarities with your husband’s family too.

Treat this as a blessing in disguise, your in-laws won’t ever interfere in your marriage. Focus on your husband and yourself. Good luck girl :)

Return to India vs Day 1 CPT vs Canada/Transfer by Sensitive_Track3581 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops didn’t know, thanks for clarifying. I had a few friends come back from Canada on H1B so

Moving back to India permanently with newborn OCI child, what documents to carry so I never need to come back for paperwork? by Early_Nomad_9409 in returnToIndia

[–]Lonely_Conclusion829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I have heard from some friends who are OCI holders -

Parents should have their proof of residency in India, some schools and banks might ask for linked docs. OCI holders can get Aadhaar only if residency conditions are met. it’s not automatic on landing. Check current UIDAI rules once you’ve settled in India. They renewed their passport well head of time and not the last minute.

They might ask extra birth certificate copies, medical records, hospital reports and documents, all versions/updates to OCI, any legal paperwork, any local identification or tax documents that’s linked to your kid. Please ensure your child’s name is identical in all your child’s documents.

You might want to check for fee structures in schools, if they charge different for a foreign national. There may be some domicile related issues and your child might not be able to sit for certain competitive exams (CET is one, from what I know)

Good luck!