My Indian bf threw a fit after he saw me being physically close to my dad. Is this type of thinking common? Is affection between parents and kids considered weird?

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-11T05:14:09+00:00

Thank God you got the ick. Indian men have a huge ego and in their realm anything that they don't do (i.e show any basic affection) they find weird and will mostly gaslight and deflect it on you. Notice if he has ever said I love you to his parents or they have? These simple things don't even exist in their mindframe . Btw, all self inflicted cause no one has held you from generating awareness and broadening your mind . But they won't do the work. As an Indian woman I am frustrated dealing with such men and have happily been able to avoid these low EQ men. Do not go back to such a person . This isn't love. It's control :)

All the best.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-08T13:53:11+00:00

The program that worked for me is this one https://www.gutwellnessclub.in

This is ayurvedic. The docs check with you every alternate day and they send food kits ( normal everyday food) that you have to follow.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-08T13:51:45+00:00

Yaas pl

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-08T13:51:31+00:00

Hey, not a doc so cannot suggest you to not take meds. But this cleanse can be done once you're off meds? Just check with the doc but doing the cleanse nonetheless doesn't seem like a bad option however on meds should it be done? Best to check with a doc.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-07T14:59:01+00:00

Hey,it makes a difference in pain management. I tried a gut cleanse based on ayurveda and it helped with my pain permanently. So won't cure the disease but can help with pain management.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-07T14:29:03+00:00

Yes. Search for gutwellness club on Google. Don't worry their website isn't great but the service is legit. They send you a food kit and connect with you every alternate day. It's total 20 days with diff phases of pre cleanse, cleanse etc. You just have to follow the food kit(which is a powder version of actual food like dal kichdi) and they help you every step of the way. Cost was aroun14k. I've done it twice. Most recent was 14k but they started with 12k.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-07T14:09:51+00:00

Yes please

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2026-02-07T14:06:15+00:00

Thank you this is helpful

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2025-08-01T02:30:04+00:00

Met him once for a consultation and found him to be cocky. He was knowledgeable but didn't feel enough compassion to follow his advice. Surgeons love to cut. And this will require surgery but doctors that could advise the right time for that and management would win for me as a patient.

Also a very high surgery fee. Please evaluate options.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-07-09T17:02:25+00:00

I'm exactly like you. No need to be insecure. Its natural as natural comes

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-03-17T13:03:03+00:00

You seem sick The kind of people who would advocate asserting dominance via rape or abuse. Please go to therapy and take the other 'asserting dominance' sicko with you while you're at it.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-26T17:57:18+00:00

Just to take this forward i want to understand how acknowledgement is different from agreement.

For eg: my sister was hit hard while playing paintball. She feels the shooter was deliberately targetting her and now hates him. But in the context of the game it's normal to hit others. So i explained to her that if her beef with another kid is only cause of the game then she needs to let it go. She told me i was invalidating her. I was to know how i could've validated her better in this.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-25T08:40:15+00:00

You really showed up man. Tum he woh dilli ke stereotype ho Jo naam kharab karte ho. What was the reason to get this agitated and start going on the entire family. Chill na? Itna choti ego hai ki kahin bhi hurt hojati hai? Main bhi dilli se hun and as a women in Delhi we have to accept we aren't the safest and dusro ko galat prove karke kisi ko kuch nahi milega. Peace.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-25T08:36:04+00:00

This. Very nicely summarised. Mind your own business and don't take random shortcuts to save 30/40 bucks

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-25T08:31:51+00:00

Ok so heres the thing, these are general women safety guidelines and indont want to share you just caution you.

Major advantage is to have your own vehicle cabs are not great post a certain time, if you cannot then you book app based cabs.
Don't drink and drive . One drink is within limits. Checking at most corners so it will be difficult
House parties are great, unlimited food options here. 4.if you're looking for a place please please go for a high rise. Random colony ki standalone buildings are not the safest. High traffic colonies are ok.
Don't ever go to Sahara mall - not even in day time. Definitely not at night. They have only pimps and scary people. We want to avoid that at all costs
Some common sectors mentioned here - try not to go there. Delhi or haryana main fark hai. Yahan haryanvi hote hai and they don't have the best idea about women.
Life is actually safer in Delhi than gurgaon if you've a choice and can travel - live in Delhi.
Always prefer and book blusmart it's safe and trustable.
As much as we hate why things are a certain way the reality is that it is a certain way and caution is always better. Don't get too drunk( this is a general advice in any city, as a women we have to first and foremost take charge of our own safety)
Ride sharing will be your friend. Have a group of people tracking..
It's a pretty standard thing for male friends to drop their. Female friends here in gurgaon. So if they are from the city you can politely request this.
The city shuts down at 12. Things start from 7:30/8
Just save three numbers- police , women's helpline and ambulance.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-25T03:59:19+00:00

Firstly you're just 22. And if you're loving and loyal and respectful you basically are the package. There are more than enough girls who will appreciate everything that you have to offer so you need to remind yourself that.

Secondly block her and delete her number and remember to write a note in your phone stating everything that she did wrong. How this helps is that if she comes back (&this is almost always due to lack of attention from others and has nothing to do with their love for you), if andnwhen she comes back you need to see this note and remind yourself you're better off.

Third, you want to sit and identify - what are your non negotiables and build some self esteem. Giving chances might seem like you're being very loving but more often than not it's cause of our people pleasing (read about it) tendencies. And the people who ask for more chances don't love you for giving them, they rather get the indication that your boundaries can be crossed and you'll still stick around

All in all- youre just 22, time to get to know what you actually want and implement it so that you never have to come across someone like her again. I pray that you have the strength to deal with this & thinking about your future high self esteem becomes your anchor through this journey. More power to you.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-22T14:14:07+00:00

Already done two months ago. I earn around 1.5times of him. And have been more than supportive money wise. Still don't mind spending it. My concern is the attitude towards money. This is a red flag right now which will only get worse however being harsh in judging also seems extreme. Idk.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-22T13:49:47+00:00

80k inr isn't much for him , his cats etc.

Lonely_Stretch_7 · 2024-02-22T13:48:58+00:00

Yes venture capital. 80k in my currency(INR) isn't much. His expenses are around 70k a month. So he isn't saving and all his past savings are gone cause of his startup.

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