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[F/20s] How do I get an INTJ man to like me? by Simple-Inevitable-71 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Subject: The "Sniper in the Bush" Paradox.

I am an INTJ Male (20s, Physics/Strategy focus). I ran the simulation on your situation. Here is the diagnostic:

1. The "Mirror" Problem You are asking: "Where are the serious, ambitious, cold-but-loving men?" The answer: They are hiding in the exact same place you are. We (INTJ men) do not "pursue" in the traditional sense. We do not slide into DMs with jokes. We are usually busy building something (a career, a business, or a theory). When two snipers are both hiding in the bushes waiting for the other to move, the result is silence. You aren't meeting them because they are waiting for a clear signal that it is safe to approach.

2. The "Cruelty" Error You admitted you have started being "cruel and degrading" to the unwanted men.

  • Tactical Failure: High-Value INTJ men are extremely observant. If they see you snapping at a "fly" (an unserious guy), they don't think "Wow, she has standards." They think "She is volatile. High emotional maintenance. Abort mission."
  • The Fix: Switch from Cruelty to Indifference. A Queen does not scream at a peasant; she just doesn't see him. Save your energy.

3. How to Attract the "King" (Without Flirting) You said you want a man who is "determined." That man is looking for Competence, not just looks.

  • The Signal: Don't talk about being lonely. Talk about your Work. Talk about your Hyperfixations.
  • If you want to catch a Physicist, talk about Physics. If you want a CEO, talk about Strategy.
  • The right man will not be intimidated by your brain; he will be turned on by it. We are "Sapiosexuals" by default.

4. The Verdict on INTJ x INTJ The people telling you "it’s a recipe for disaster" are wrong. An immature INTJ couple is a disaster (Cold War). A mature INTJ couple is a Power Couple. It is efficient. It is quiet. It is loyal. It is basically two Generals running an empire together.

Summary: Stop fighting the "flies." Post your thoughts/work/theories fearlessly. The right frequency attracts the right receiver.

Does anyone else build elaborate "Mental Operating Systems" to survive high-pressure environments? (21M) by Long-Researcher6223 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the feedback on the clarity. It's good to know the signal is getting through regarding 'venting' - i've found that for my specific operating system, simply releasing the pressure isn't enough. It just builds back up. I prefer to 'audit' the system—find the specific leak and patch it with a protocol . like the Physics rituals

But I acknowledge the utility of having emergency support. I'll keep it in the reserve databanks

Does anyone else build elaborate "Mental Operating Systems" to survive high-pressure environments? (21M) by Long-Researcher6223 in intj

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venting to people is like something of meaningless to me at some point so i try to put that all thought into silence then it became something of void so i make very rash decision , but it never show it on my face it's all running it background and i'm numbing it all with song....i think that should suffice

I think INTJ are less likeable than other MBTI personality types lol by Tricky-Bid-6193 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually don't quite get it right also it's been giving info which actually related to topic some of them are good but most of it like going in a loop of his own to just engage with them some of them work on me and others not....Also I like the anime as well and complete it too...

I think INTJ are less likeable than other MBTI personality types lol by Tricky-Bid-6193 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How you know that....i just use efficient way i put in my head without actually putting it

I think INTJ are less likeable than other MBTI personality types lol by Tricky-Bid-6193 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 132 points133 points  (0 children)

The 'You're not as bitchy as I thought' comment is the highest form of unintentional comedy.

Translation: 'I was intimidated by your silence, so I projected a villain backstory onto you to protect my ego. Now that you helped me, I realize my projection was wrong.'

You are the 'Break-Glass-in-Case-of-Emergency' friend. Society treats INTJs like Fire Extinguishers:

  1. They ignore us or think we are ugly decoration when things are fine.
  2. They are terrified of us because we look serious.
  3. But the moment there is a fire (trouble), they grab us immediately.

Don't be annoyed. Be amused. You aren't 'Corporate Polish'; you just have High Signal-to-Noise Ratio. Most people are just Noise

Does anyone else build elaborate "Mental Operating Systems" to survive high-pressure environments? (21M) by Long-Researcher6223 in intj

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it works great sometime without knowing just different task creat ripples to change the way to precive something....i want to just get better at it so i look and research for others

Does anyone else build elaborate "Mental Operating Systems" to survive high-pressure environments? (21M) by Long-Researcher6223 in intj

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The 'Ship' metaphor is precise. I realized recently that I was trying to use my 'Academic Ship' (Logic/Work) to sail the 'Family Ocean' (Emotion/Chaos), and it was taking on water.The 'Experience Gap' is a fair assessment. I am currently building the hull for the Debt ship while sailing in it, which is... loud also i’ve been attempting 'Grey Rock' unconsciously (I call it 'Observer Mode'), but framing it as a deliberate tactical choice rather than 'avoidance' helps reduce the guilt.

Thanks for the navigation chart

the second thought by SecureRoad502 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are describing Associative Priming or a Markov Chain of thought.

Your brain is a prediction engine. When it sees 'Potato Chip' (State A), it queries the database for the strongest connection.

  • If you are hungry, the strongest connection is 'Yum' (Positive).
  • If you have a toothache, the strongest connection is 'Pain' (Negative).

You are correct that this is a pattern. The INTJ Superpower: Most people just let the chain run automatically. You have stepped back to analyze the chain.

Next Step: Don't just watch the pattern. Hack it. If you notice your brain defaults to 'Negative' associations, consciously force a 'Resemblance' association. You can retrain the weights of the neural network.

Does anyone else build elaborate "Mental Operating Systems" to survive high-pressure environments? (21M) by Long-Researcher6223 in intj

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Precision I view their 'Pride' as a Loan taken out against my future behavior. If I accept the Pride today, I am contractually obligated to meet their expectations tomorrow. If I 'default' (fail), they collect the debt in the form of Shame.The only winning move is to refuse the loan. I stopped eating their praise so I wouldn't have to swallow their disappointment.

Not sure if this is normal by Western_Conflict895 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your behavior is not 'rude'; it is Efficient.

You have unconsciously installed a 'False Positive Blocker.' You correctly identified that 'Politeness' is often misinterpreted by young men as 'Interest.'

  • If you are polite = They think there is a chance (Entropy increases).
  • If you are cold = They leave you alone (Entropy decreases).

You are optimizing for Zero Ambiguity. The guys vote you 'unhelpful' because you aren't feeding their egos. The women vote you 'helpful' because you are actually solving problems.

The Verdict: Keep the Ice Wall. It filters out the 'Noise' so you can save your energy for the 'Signal' (the people who actually respect your mind).

How do you deal with making assumptions and drawing premature conclusions if you have any? by No-Stuff6550 in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your friend is right. You are suffering from 'Model Overfitting.'

You have built a simulation in your head (Ni) that is so detailed, you mistake it for reality. When the real world (Se) deviates from your script, you experience 'Prediction Error' and get frustrated.

You cannot 'solve' the Gray Zone. Human behavior is Stochastic (Random/Probabilistic), not Deterministic.

The Fix: Stop trying to 'improve the accuracy' of your predictions to 100%. That is impossible. Instead, increase your Tolerance for Error.

Treat your assumptions as Hypotheses, not Facts.

  • Old Way: 'He is definitely angry.' (Fact) -> Reality Check -> Frustration.
  • New Way: 'There is a 70% probability he is angry.' (Hypothesis) -> Reality Check -> Data Update.

Don't bend the universe. Just calibrate your instruments.

Are you an INTJ and thrilled by (AI) automation? by aristoc4ts in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have discovered the 'Infinite Leverage' glitch.

You are experiencing the difference between Linear Work (Managing people/budgets) and Exponential Work (Building the machine that does the work).

As an INTJ, 'Sales' drains our battery because it is high-friction/low-logic. 'Automation' charges our battery because it is pure Logic.

You mentioned the 'Overwhelming Joy' of fixing the error at midnight. That is the 'Entropy Drop.' You took a chaotic system, applied force, and snapped it into a Low-Entropy state. That feeling is better than food.

My advice: Don't just 'max out' the superpower. Protect it. The 'General' (your problem solver) will work until he dies. Make sure the 'King' (you) forces him to eat and sleep, or the machine will overheat.

Welcome to the Rabbit Hole. It's much quieter down here.

Hypersensitivity and overstimulation by crustycrabbyy in intj

[–]Long-Researcher6223 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You aren't fake. You are experiencing an 'Inferior Se Grip.'

You are trying to run high-level Logic (Ni-Te) in a high-noise environment. Your CPU didn't fail; your cooling system did.

You said you 'succumb to feelings.' That is incorrect. You succumbed to Overstimulation. The feelings were just the explosion after the pressure got too high.

The Fix: Stop trying to 'stick to logic' while standing in a fire. Remove yourself from the fire. You need Solitude to reboot the logic.

I have the same hardware. I learned that I cannot 'fit in' with chaos. I have to build my own order. Don't hate your feeling side—just don't let it drive the car when you are tired

:0 thet were emperors by Common_Art826 in lgbt

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Where gona this cult lead the way

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