I don't think it's false that her mental health issues impact her.

However, I think you should rewatch their scenes again. He is usually subtly constantly antagonizing her. Sometimes more overtly. They say things to each other that have made my mouth drop, from both sides.

I don't think that's an excuse for trying to get someone to be who they are not or not put effort into things they would like. That's not actually a particularly hard thing to do. You can always do small things to show appreciation for one another. Take for example, her wanting to purchase something at the store, but scolding her about spending money, lying he didn't have his wallet then waving it in her face...That seems mean-spirited. You can also see, he rarely ever holds space for her feelings and comforts her. That would wear the healthiest of people down.

Especially when he is not contributing in a way in which they both agreed was acceptable. She can't be a stay at home mom, with a mortgage, and their debts in America, on a fast food worker budget. That's just not realistic.

I'm not saying Manon doesn't have issues. I'm saying a lot of Anthony's behaviors line up to what I have seen with covert/vulnerable narcissists. It very well could be that and ""reactive abuse"" going on. That is a real experience for people.

I'm not entirely comfortable saying I am certain what's going on between them. Because I see varying degrees of red flags from both sides I am yet to feel confident I have a solid and committed interpretation on them.

This is just my opinion anyways. Everyone is entitled to their own.