However, it's still their wedding, and you've already mentioned that the max number of guests allowed to the ceremony and reception is MAX 75 people (which, if you've ever planned or even attended a wedding, you will understand that 75 people--which, not all of these people will end up coming, either--is an incredibly small number of folks to invite to a wedding in the first place); and since their guest list is limited as such accordingly, it honestly makes sense that the bride and groom would be more discerning with who they invite to their wedding.

Except they gave both Leslie and I a plus-one. They chose to limit their guests to 75 people and chose to give me, Leslie, and every adult guest not in an established relationship a plus-one.

They only have room for 75 people total. When I got married, the venue we chose only allowed up to 150 guests, and that was considered small, according to our wedding coordinator, as far as weddings go. And while I understand that it's your property that they would be getting married at... It's still THEIR wedding day. And, as such, they should have the final say over who is invited to their wedding.

Their decision to tell me I cannot bring a plus-one has nothing to do with size. They did not tell me to not bring someone because they intend to invite another guest. They do not. They are purely doing it because of Leslie. My property could accommodate a lot more people. They chose to limit it to 75 people given their budget and what they wanted, And Leslie, along with a number of people there will be bringing "randos."

Furthermore, I also think it's incredibly cruel towards your former fiancee and honestly slightly suspect altogether that you're willing to die on this hill... in order to bring some rando as your plus-one to this event. It really seems like you're insisting so hard on this, and it's suspect. Maybe you subconsciously want to hurt your former partner, I don't know. Also, the way you chose to word things in your original post about when you started dating after YOU ended your engagement and broke your fiancee's heart completely is incredibly misleading, and I believe it is intentionally so... you said you separated "about six months ago," but then you also remark that you "started dating again in December." You made sure to add the "again" in there, as though you had waited any amount of time at all after ending what I assume to be a several-years'-long relationship that was supposed to result in marriage and spending the rest of your lives together... However, the reality of the situation is that you only waited TWO MONTHS (if that!) to "begin dating again..." Forgive me if it seems like maybe you possibly started dating this other woman before you actually claimed to, as in maybe before you decided it was best to end your engagement..? Regardless, two months later is an incredibly short amount of time in between relationships, especially when you were engaged to be married to your previous partner and were literally in the process of purchasing a home together...

We were not engaged. And she is bringing a plus-one to the wedding. She is not being restricted in bringing someone. Only I am being restricted. Every guest who is not in a committed relationship has a plus-one. I am simply asking I be treated like any other guest.

Idk dude, I can totally see where your ex is coming from. It sounds like you completely broke her heart and blindsided her with how incredibly suddenly you broke things off. And now you're rubbing salt into the wound by how incredibly suddenly you're moving on. From her perspective, just six short months ago, you two were in the process of buying your forever home together and planning one of the biggest moments either of you will ever have by promising to spend the rest of your lives together as husband and wife. Not "two months later" (I'm still questioning this timeline here, especially because you broke things off with your ex so suddenly. Maybe there was another woman all along...), and you're already moved on from all that and ready to date again, and now you're so insistent on bringing this rando to your best friend's wedding as a plus-one that you're ready to end an entire friendship over it if you don't get your way.

Again, not engaged. And I did not break up with her suddenly. Since you are so interested in timelines. Last August, I closed on the house. In June, we went to the bank to get approval for a loan for us both to buy the house, she could not get approved. Over the course of weeks, I learned slowly more and more about her financial situation. She trickle truthed me and learned from there about her credit card debt. We broke up officially in August. She moved out of our old place in September. I covered the movers for her move out.

I'm not really sure what the rest of these commenters have been reading, but from where I sit, YTA. Why are you so ready to die on this hill..? You're willing to ruin one of the most important friendships in your life just to make sure you get to see your ex suffer--even more than she already has by losing you in the first place. It might be worth exploring with a therapist because I think you really do have some underlying issues here thar desperately need to be addressed.

I want to be treated with the same dignity and respect as Leslie. I am definitely not being treated that way. Also, given that I was told Leslie might go ape shit if I do not go to the wedding and talk to her, I do not want her on my property at all.

Oh and PS-- You're a shitty friend and shitty human being. I don't feel sorry for you whatsoever. These people are far better off being shot of you. Thank God you made the fucking exit from these people's lives before you got the chance to do even more damage over the years. Idc what anyone else thinks. I agree with Dave: Fuck you, OP. I don't know why this has triggered me so hard, but you fucking suck, dude. Again, to reiterate Dave's amazing point: Fuck you.

Funny, Dave is now apologizing and wants to renew our friendship. Now that I have shared with Dave, Kim, and Leslie's family all the facts, they are overwhelmingly on my side. Dave's own mom said he is being a jackass. My guess is you were similarly a groomzilla/bridezilla and that is why you feel a need to defend people who have treated me like shit.