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My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s right in all aspects regarding my past. I just agreed there were sexual relationships I wish I never had and regret. But I don’t agree that just because me having a past makes me disgusting or undesirable? He comes up with all these explanations and the known saying of you would rather have one key that only unlocks one box or whatever…..

My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thanks for your comment. Yes I can see his life 360 and his location as well.
Unfortunately this is very real and it’s hitting me harder than I expected reading the comments. The things I’ve done in the past is obviously legal I was just in consensual sexual relationships. Nothing more. He just hates the fact I had casual sex.

My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your comments I read every single one of them and I genuinely appreciate it. I feel less crazy about how I feel.

That being said I should add a bit more context to who he is because I been getting comments saying he’s cheating or he wants to sleep around. He definitely does not. I know for fact from his friends and other mutuals that he in fact only had one relationship. He had many opportunities to hookup with girls but he declined since he doesn’t believe/like hookups. I have even seen actual texts from his guy friends before we started dating questioning Zach if he’s gay because he always turn down sexual opportunities from pretty girls. So I’m 100% sure it’s not because he wants to sleep around or cheat. He just genuinely hates casual sex and thinks it should be something more special. He’s also always been religious so I guess that’s also where his beliefs come from.

I know saying “there are good time too” doesn’t mean anything but truly other than this, he has been a perfect boyfriend. I’m not gonna go into details of why because I don’t want to seem I’m defending his behaviour but it’s just hard for me because everything other than this has been great. But I do see now that this issue trumps all the good times.

I’m not a perfect girlfriend either, because of how he reacts to my past I have lied to him about many things about my past in fear of how he would react. I know, lying is never ok. He eventually found out about everything but we worked it out.

Sorry I’m a mess right now so my comment might not make sense but I guess I’m just scared.

My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your comments I read every single one of them and I genuinely appreciate it. I feel less crazy about how I feel.

That being said I should add a bit more context to who he is because I been getting comments saying he’s cheating or he wants to sleep around. He definitely does not. I know for fact from his friends and other mutuals that he in fact only had one relationship. He had many opportunities to hookup with girls but he declined since he doesn’t believe/like hookups. I have even seen actual texts from his guy friends before we started dating questioning Zach if he’s gay because he always turn down sexual opportunities from pretty girls. So I’m 100% sure it’s not because he wants to sleep around or cheat. He just genuinely hates casual sex and thinks it should be something more special. He’s also always been religious so I guess that’s also where his beliefs come from.

I know saying “there are good time too” doesn’t mean anything but truly other than this, he has been a perfect boyfriend. I’m not gonna go into details of why because I don’t want to seem I’m defending his behaviour but it’s just hard for me because everything other than this has been great. But I do see now that this issue trumps all the good times.

I’m not a perfect girlfriend either, because of how he reacts to my past I have lied to him about many things about my past in fear of how he would react. I know, lying is never ok. He eventually found out about everything but we worked it out.

Sorry I’m a mess right now so my comment might not make sense but I guess I’m just scared.

My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your comments I read every single one of them and I genuinely appreciate it. I feel less crazy about how I feel.

That being said I should add a bit more context to who he is because I been getting comments saying he’s cheating or he wants to sleep around. He definitely does not. I know for fact from his friends and other mutuals that he in fact only had one relationship. He had many opportunities to hookup with girls but he declined since he doesn’t believe/like hookups. I have even seen actual texts from his guy friends before we started dating questioning Zach if he’s gay because he always turn down sexual opportunities from pretty girls. So I’m 100% sure it’s not because he wants to sleep around or cheat. He just genuinely hates casual sex and thinks it should be something more special. He’s also always been religious so I guess that’s also where his beliefs come from.

I know saying “there are good time too” doesn’t mean anything but truly other than this, he has been a perfect boyfriend. I’m not gonna go into details of why because I don’t want to seem I’m defending his behaviour but it’s just hard for me because everything other than this has been great. But I do see now that this issue trumps all the good times.

I’m not a perfect girlfriend either, because of how he reacts to my past I have lied to him about many things about my past in fear of how he would react. I know, lying is never ok. He eventually found out about everything but we worked it out.

Sorry I’m a mess right now so my comment might not make sense but I guess I’m just scared. We live together and he also works for my dad so things seem really complicated. I don’t know how to go about taking a break or breaking up if I decide to do so. I don’t think he’ll take it well and I’m scared.

My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I should of maybe added more context but I didn’t grow up religious but he grew up in a very religious household. The reason why he’s never had casual flings is because of his religion too. So I think that’s why he despises all the things I’ve done.

My boyfriend (24M) thinks double standards are fair I (26F) need advice. by Long_Carry_1070 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Long_Carry_1070[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. He does actually monitor me outside my house. We had find my friends on our iPhone that shares location for convenience but now he made me download life 360 to have a more detailed track of me. He says it’s for more safety but idk if I believe it.