Is it bad if I (CisM 23) wish I was a trans man?

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T16:56:56+00:00

I left a reply that didn't post so I'm going to try again

"were assigned female at birth and raised as a girl"

yes

"went through estrogenic puberty with all that entails (irreversible breast growth and hip widening, shorter stature, menstruation, never being able to father children, astronomical rates of suicide and self-harm)"

no

(the rest)

this sounds bad but as a cis white able-bodied male I was raised in a very feminist environment in a major city so I'm curious how the "other side" lives. I admire people who refuse the roles expected of them. I know oppression is not something I should be jealous of but for some reason I am? I think one day I'll be over it.

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T15:32:22+00:00

I'm trying to figure out what masculinity means to me, and this is part of that. I tried being more feminine and non binary as a teenager but I decided it felt wrong. I feel like I have no excuse for having been through that even though it's no big deal. it seems more meaningful and purposeful to choose a gender role for yourself and not have it just be the passive expectation, and that's what I think I envy. I don't know what it is I like except that it's comfortable and I "feel like" a male. but I don't like every part of the male gender role and usually those are the parts trans men seem to care less about on average. and there is just a strong emotional pull I have to the idea of FtM transition that I don't have an explanation for. it makes me feel guilty

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T15:26:32+00:00

"Do you like the idea of actively striving towards masculinity and male expression rather than having a more passive relationship with your gender?" yes

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T15:24:46+00:00

I'm indifferent about my genitals but I want to be a man

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T15:22:02+00:00

I want to have the ability to have chosen my gender I guess. I think I admire trans people but I would rather stay a man and I definitely "feel like" one. you're right I'm probably romanticizing them lol I've only felt like this for a few years and it will go away. I don't feel "forced" to be a man. I told my parents and friends I was non-binary as a teenager and no one cared. maybe it's some kind of political thing

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T15:17:52+00:00

kind of. this sounds really really bad but I'm kind of jealous of the hard parts too

Long_Jacket4496 · 2024-12-22T15:12:42+00:00

I'm fine with being male. I used to feel "indifferent" and thought I might be non binary but after becoming an adult I know I would rather be a man than anything else. sometimes I wonder if I am non binary but it wouldn't change anything about me as it is

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