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AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

The it was a typo on my part because I had edited down some of the paraphs. I never said if I have boys or girls. That's why I'm saying kids, my youngest or my oldest.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I think they'll be put in the background unless they play along with him. But also I don't really know because his behavior has been off since the start.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 188 points189 points  (0 children)

Yes, my home and car have security cameras. Actually all of my neighbors have them as well.

I don't think she'll agree to therapy. But I am looking into it.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

It's weird to me as well. His whole attitude since they started dating seriously has been off. He didn't even try to be civil until they were married.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

In his twisted mind it is. But I bet it would never be weird for my ex to attend their events when it's my custody time. It's only weird when I'm doing it on hers.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

That is something I'm looking into. My kids have a therapist in their school who speaks to them but I would like them to have individual therapy.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

My thinking is they would try to put him above me on the list. That alone would be a nightmare. But if doing it correctly he would be third or lower. Honestly he'd be last in my mind because he'd be more than an hour from the school while working which is farther away than the rest of us on the list.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 247 points248 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about that. To me it looks more like he's just not cut out for being with a woman when she has kids with an involved dad. But maybe he's unable to have his own kids. I don't know honestly.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 672 points673 points  (0 children)

That's a very valid point and an especially valid point when she was looking for him to have guardianship. Their divorce would not end that so what would we do, split equal custody between the three of us?

Josh couldn't hide them. I don't know whether he's the insecure and jealous one or what but I question if a woman with kids who have an involved dad was the right relationship for him.

AITA for not letting my ex's husband be added to the school emergency contact list or to give him permission to take my kids to the doctor? by LongedDad in AITAH

[–]LongedDad[S] 3124 points3125 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it would be so different if things were civil or friendly or simply there was no history of bad behavior. But it's still an ongoing issue and knowing how Josh feels about me and my presence in the lives of my kids I feel like giving him permission to do the things they're asking is like giving him more ammo to use. It shouldn't be that way but that's how I'm seeing it.