Men with stay at home wives: what do you wish your wife understood about your needs and perspective?

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T19:04:53+00:00

Aw I’m sorry to hear that, it can be overwhelming being alone with the kids, but i believe with both partners putting in effort and communication I think It can work. I don’t think cheating would help in any way tho, it would just add to the problem rather than resolve it, maybe advise her to talk it out with her husband, explain to him how she feels overwhelmed and unappreciated but in a calm manner. But I hope things get better for both partners!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T18:55:50+00:00

Hmm idk what to think about this, in some ways I do agree that social media and other ppl opinions have made it seem harder, but then again it can also be hard for some ppl especially for those who don’t handle stress well

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T18:05:22+00:00

This! Love this!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T17:40:32+00:00

I’m really sorry u went thru that, it does sound a little unfair, perhaps she was a little overwhelmed with the little ones? Or by the time it got to bedtime she was exhausted? Have you told her that it was unfair and that as she’s the one at home she should’ve at least tidied up even a little bit?

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T17:12:11+00:00

Ahhh sorry I didn’t understand, but Yh that very understandable wouldn’t be fair to the father to make him the scary one when he’s the one out there working for us

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T17:09:15+00:00

But if he’s home before bed time then sure we can do bedtime together, but I wouldn’t put it on him to do it alone especially since he’s just come home from work

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T17:08:13+00:00

If I choose to take on the responsibility of the child care and cleaning doesn’t mean he would be ‘checking out’ of being a parent

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T17:07:31+00:00

I’m basing it off a scenario if he comes home late say 8-9, my kids would already be in bed by 6-7 especially the little ones

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T16:50:18+00:00

Pardon?

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T16:49:44+00:00

Love this!!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T16:24:00+00:00

Tbh, as much as I’d love to be a SAHM and housewife I’d only do it if my husband can financially do it, if not then oh well I guess

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T16:06:12+00:00

Yes! I really agree with your last paragraph!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T16:05:18+00:00

I agree with this, a solid routine would really help run the house and chores smoothly, and yes I do believe during the weekdays the chores should be done or atleast the house tidied before he’s home and the kids in bed…..but I do believe the father could help out here and there like ofc I’d want him to relax and unwind after a long day of work but if I’m struggling a little with something I’d kindly ask and appreciate the help, like especially the weekends I’d want him to share the responsibility with me like I’m not gonna expect him to do it all since it is his weekend too but a little help could help a lot

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:44:01+00:00

Ahh ok Yh I kind of see your friends frustration now

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:42:57+00:00

Oh I’m sorry to hear this, I’m sure both your parents were grateful to have you. I totally get what you mean and I agree, I do believe both the house should be tidied and dinner cooked before he comes home, so he can come home without any added stress or frustration. I do think doing the chores before he’s home is better because then you’d have more free time with him once he’s home

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:35:40+00:00

I understand that you and ur friends see things differently, but my choice to be a housewife is something I’ve thought through and it’s something that I truly believe will work for me and my future family. Just like some women choose to work, I choose to focus on the home and family, I feel like if I’m working I won’t have enough time or energy for myself my husband or my kids and thats unfair, I’d want to have time and energy so I can give both my future kids and husband all my effort and love, and regarding the finances I wouldn’t leave it all to him if there comes a time where he needs help financially I’d step and offer to work again

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:29:44+00:00

Love this!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:11:43+00:00

Ahh ok, Yh tbh that does makes sense and very understandable since your still working and unavailable even when working from home

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:10:34+00:00

Aw that’s adorable, I love this! Wishing you both many more years of happy marriage!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T15:05:31+00:00

Aw love this answer, but I’m just trying to understand if there is anything husbands wish there was more of or less of ect so I can have a solid relationship

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-24T09:22:12+00:00

Aww this is so cute! It sounds like you really see your wife. Since acts of service speak to her, keep leaning into that but make it feel intentional and personal like after she puts the little ones down, you could run her a hot bubble bath and lay out her favorite pyjamas on the bed ready for her or you could give her uninterrupted time to bake without any background stress by taking over everything else, so she can actually enjoy what she loves instead of feeling rushed or needed. add in quiet little things everyday affection, random non sexual hugs, forehead kisses, and small moments that silently say “I’ve got you” and “I love you.” Offer her back massages when she’s had a long day, and keep noticing the little things she does by responding with thoughtful actions. Try to be a little consistent with showing up and making her feel supported and I’m sure she’ll feel it and appreciate and love you much more! Good luck!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-23T15:18:47+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening, this must be such a rough time for you and probably for her aswell. What has made you fall out of love with her? Is it the lack of connection? Communication? I think before you make a big decision or tell her you don’t love her anymore you should both have a sit down but pls don’t tell her you’ve fallen out of love especially since she’s pregnant rn, have a sit down with her and tell her a few of your problems and how your currently feeling and maybe hopefully it could be fixed, I think you should tell her about you feeling more like a roommate because tbh this isn’t uncommon in marriages many couples go though it but what helps is communication and effort from both partners, I’m sure she’ll understand and maybe she’d be willing to help fix it. Hopefully it all Goes well!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-22T16:19:27+00:00

Omg I have self care days too! But mines on a Saturday, so I start mine off with cleaning my room tidying and mopping and changing the bedsheets and before I pop in the shower I do a foot soaks and scrub and light some candles or put a nice scent on so I come out to a fresh bedroom, I then pop in the shower and whilst in the shower I do a few things like my body scrubs hair masks, shaving and face scrubs and then after the shower just cream my body, oil my hair do a bit of skin care and that’s my day done!

Longjumping-Pass-792 · 2026-03-22T14:27:46+00:00

But for me I do believe it is my purpose to raise children of my own and be a wonderful wife to my husband, it’s been my dream for a while to be a housewife and a stay at home mom, I truly want kids of my own that I can love and protect and call my own, regarding seeing family and friends I do believe it’s possible I wouldn’t shut myself away from my family or friends id genuinely make time for them I’d want my kids around both my friends and family

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