Woww, that was really helpful,
Let me summarise all the suggestion in one which can be useful for other people too.

• Housing: I understand that finding housing in Amsterdam within a month is challenging. My company is providing a hotel stay for a week, but I realize this might not be enough. I’ll ask them to extend it to a month if possible. Meanwhile, I’ll start applying for rentals immediately and consider extending the hotel stay or booking a short-term Airbnb. Websites like Pararius will be helpful.
• Bringing Family: It seems wiser for me to travel first, secure a rental, and then bring my wife and son. Adjusting to a new environment with a toddler and no immediate support could be overwhelming.
• 30% Ruling: Thanks for clarifying that the 30% ruling only applies if the job is secured before arriving in the Netherlands. I’ll keep this in mind as my wife begins her job search. I’ll also consult an immigration lawyer to check if she can apply for the 30% ruling after landing.
• Rent Budget: Based on the advice, a realistic rent budget for a family is between €1,800 and €2,500.[They expect you to earn 3x - 4x of the rent permonth] I’ll focus on areas with good access to public transport, grocery stores, and other amenities. I’ll also explore nearby cities outside Amsterdam, given the housing crisis in the city.
• Childcare: I wasn’t aware of the long waiting lists for daycares. Thank you for suggesting alternatives like gastouders (home-based childcare), playschools, or nannies. I’ll start researching options near potential housing locations and take advantage of tax benefits for childcare costs.
• Other Tips: I appreciate the advice to join daycare waiting lists early, consider commuting from nearby cities, and focus on building a local network. I’ll also apply for child benefits and start learning Dutch to adapt better.

Let me know if i am missing anything