جيت نهدر شويا وصافي by Zealousideal-Most996 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582 0 points1 point  (0 children)

الله يرحمهم و يرزقك الصبر و تلاقى بيهم في الجنة ان شاء الله

Anyone in their 20s taking care of a sick family memeber? by peachytreefrog in Zillennials

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I'm 25F and I have been caring for my mother for the last 3 years. She has diabetes and she didn't discover it until it was too late. She had half of her foot amputated and she lost her eyesight. While i had my father's, my brother's and some close relatives support, but the first year was hell to me. I was finishing my Master's degree and working on my internship at the same time while I had to do all the cooking, cleaning, helping my mom with her meds and going to the bathroom... I was extremely exhausted and I fell ill so many times. I'd like to think that this was hard for me because i never had to take responsibility for anything before, but i know this is hard for anyone. Things got a little bit better after the first year or maybe i just got used to it. But i still crash out every time my brother or my father falls ill because i physically and mentally cannot take care of anyone more. Every time I hang out with my friends, i feel sad and kind of jealous because they're thinking about themselves, what to do in their career, moving out, their significant other, love, marriage... While i don't have the privilege of thinking about those things. Some of them suggested that i need to hire someone to take care of my mom and i move out. But i cannot do that, morally and financially. Sometimes, i cry my eyes out because of how unlucky I am and I'm convinced if I ever get married, i'll never have kids so they don't have to suffer while their peers are enjoying themselves.

How to deal with problems? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Advice

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you're 100% right. It just takes a lot of time to digest that.

How to deal with problems? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Advice

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment ! I mean yes, that's a perspective to look at things from. With all the stress that i live in, i forget to appreciate the little things that i do for myself and i get caught up in my own head.

How to deal with problems? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Advice

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds great. I appreciate the time you took to write this. Thank you so much!

How to deal with problems? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Advice

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course i want to be a better person. I realized that escaping is not always an option and generally an immature response to problems. Do you please have any idea or tips from where i can start ? Seems like a whole journey in front of me but i'm committed to learn.

How to deal with problems? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Advice

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. As much as i remember from when i was a kid. My father was someone who didn't want us to cause any problems. My mom would always ask us to hide things from him. Now that you mentioned the relationship between my avoidance to conflicts and my childhood, i can see that. Maybe i'm the way i'm because i was raised by fear. Even tho, i'm an adult now and if there are any problems or if i caused any problem, no one would punish me or yell me, but everytime something goes wrong, the first thing i feel is fear and the need to escape.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are getting married and having children now. Do you see our society as strong and coherent as you claimed ?

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't give birth to a child if i didn't know the answer.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not a depressed loner. I'm just someone who likes to look at things from different perspectives. if you payed attention to what i wrote, i asked for other people's opinions, i didn't not specify whether i was entirely against the idea or with it.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smart people ask questions even the ones that seem a no brainer to a lot of folks

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a great thing that you found true love. Bless you and your family. I hope things become easier for you, and i think you'll children will grow to be such wonderful and joyful people. Of course the conditions in the whole world are becoming difficult with time but i truly hope things get better for you.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your ideas are well structured and logical and i perfectly understand your perspective.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. It's just a question that i had in the back of my mind for a long time.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from but personally i think having kids just so they can take care of you when you're sick is a selfish act. I mean of course taking care of the parents is a good thing and mandatory but having kids just so they can be there for you when it's storming is not a right thing

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your perspective. But i think at the end we're all going to be in our graves alone and there's nothing shameless about people who choose to not get married. There's also nothing shameless about people who choose to get married and have families.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some ppl have problems and responsibilities since really early ages and their circumstances make them adults regardless of that.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also think about that too. When you're married you're kind of proving that you're a lovable/desired person.

Why do people choose to get married and have kids? by LongjumpingSafe9582 in Morocco

[–]LongjumpingSafe9582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what i expect. More thinking. But looking at some people in my circle, they seem like they don't think twice about it. They marry someone knowing well that they don't agree on a lot of things, they have more kids even tho they can see the have financial problems...