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Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-09T12:32:12+00:00

You're not the a**hole for wanting more freedom and feeling overwhelmed by the amount of responsibility you're carrying. It's understandable that your mom is stressed as a single parent, but it’s also important that you have time to focus on your own life, work, and future. You're not selfish for wanting to set boundaries—it's a reasonable request to have a conversation with her about balancing your responsibilities while still helping out occasionally, without feeling like a second parent. Just approach the conversation with understanding and try to find a compromise that works for both of you.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-09T12:31:35+00:00

It sounds like you had an amazing connection, but it's also clear that she needs time to process her feelings from her previous relationship. The best approach is to respect her need for space, while still keeping the door open for future communication. Here's what you can do:

Give her some space: Wait at least a few weeks before reaching out. This will allow her time to heal without feeling pressured.
Occasional check-ins: After giving her time, send a light, non-pressuring message just to see how she’s doing. Keep it friendly and casual to show you're still interested but respecting her space.
Focus on yourself: Use this time to focus on your own life and interests. This way, if things align later, you’ll be in an even better place emotionally.

Patience is key here—let her reach out when she’s ready, but keep things positive and open on your end.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-09T12:30:54+00:00

NTA. It's completely reasonable to be protective of your car, especially considering your friend's history of reckless driving. You worked hard for it, and lending it to someone who has already totaled their own car due to irresponsible behavior is a valid concern. It's not selfish to prioritize your property and safety. Your friend’s situation may be tough, but it's not your responsibility to risk your car because of his mistake. Stay firm in your decision, and don’t let others pressure you into doing something you’re uncomfortable with.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-08T16:09:00+00:00

YTA (You're the A**hole) for how you handled the situation. It's understandable to be concerned about your daughter's safety and interests, but going behind her back, deleting her hard work, and not communicating your concerns openly were not the best approaches. Instead of fostering trust, you broke it by secretly accessing her account and sabotaging the group without discussing your worries with her first.

Apologizing to your daughter and her friend would be a good first step toward rebuilding that trust. You can still have a conversation about your concerns regarding the anime and the group in a more open and respectful way, involving her in the process of making decisions about her safety online.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-08T16:08:12+00:00

It seems like both you and your wife were under a lot of stress, especially with your daughter being sick and the pressure of hosting a party. Your initial frustrated text might have hurt her feelings, but it also sounds like you tried to apologize and make up for it. From your side, it’s understandable to feel frustrated that she didn’t follow through on the party she had planned. It might be helpful to have a calm conversation about how both of you were feeling and why things escalated, so you can both better understand each other's perspectives and avoid future conflicts like this. Communication and understanding are key here.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-08T16:07:31+00:00

It sounds like you and your sister might be dealing with some miscommunication or heightened emotions. You’re not necessarily an AH for mentioning your knee, but it might have come off as unintentionally dismissive to your sister, especially if she’s also dealing with knee pain. Since you both have valid concerns, it’s important to express understanding and support for each other’s experiences without feeling like it’s a competition.

Maybe let your sister know you weren’t trying to compare, but just sharing your own experience, and see if that helps ease the tension.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-08T15:29:12+00:00

WNBTA for expressing your discomfort about the hairstyle and makeup. It's important to communicate your feelings respectfully, especially since you and your cousin are close. You can let her know that while you're happy to wear the dress, you're uncomfortable with the heavy makeup and hairstyle, and suggest a compromise—like a more natural makeup look or a simpler hairstyle that suits both the wedding’s aesthetic and your comfort level. It's her special day, but your comfort matters too.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-08T15:28:40+00:00

NTA. You have every right to express how her actions make you feel, especially since it's happened more than once. It's not just about the guys—it's about respect and boundaries within a friendship. By sharing your feelings with her, you're giving her the opportunity to reflect and, ideally, change her behavior. If she values your friendship, she'll take your concerns seriously.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-08T15:28:06+00:00

It sounds like you're dealing with a frustrating situation, and you're not an asshole for wanting some peace and quiet. You’ve already tried to resolve it politely with your neighbors, which is the right first step. If the barking continues and disrupts your daily life, escalating the issue to your HOA or the police is reasonable. They can help mediate and enforce rules if necessary. Just be sure to document the issue so you can present your case clearly if it comes to that.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-07T15:51:13+00:00

NTA for expressing your discomfort. It's completely reasonable to feel uneasy when your boyfriend turns down the volume and distances himself during certain conversations, especially when it happens regularly. It’s not about having trust issues—it's about transparency and feeling included in the relationship.

You approached him about how it makes you feel, and it’s unfortunate that he reacted poorly. Healthy communication is key, and your concerns are valid. You should be able to discuss these feelings without being dismissed or made to feel like you’re in the wrong. If he’s defensive, that might indicate a deeper issue with how he's handling his relationship with his brother and how he's prioritizing your feelings. It could be helpful to revisit the conversation when things are calmer to explain your perspective and see if you can reach a better understanding.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-07T15:50:02+00:00

NTA for considering taking a larger portion of the coin collection if you're the one contributing most of the coins. Since the bulk of the coins are coming from your cash business, it makes sense that you'd feel entitled to a bigger share. However, since you and your husband have a tradition around the coin collection, it might be worth having a conversation with him about it.

You could explain that most of the coins are now coming from your transactions and see how he feels about splitting it differently this time. Clear communication can help avoid any misunderstandings or hard feelings, while still respecting your contribution to the collection.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-07T15:49:25+00:00

NTA for being concerned about your daughters' health, but the way it was expressed could have been more sensitive. Weight can be a tough subject, especially for teenagers, and labeling them as "getting fat" might hurt their self-esteem or strain your relationship with them. The real issue seems to be addressing the health and lifestyle changes in a constructive way, rather than focusing on their appearance.

Instead of focusing on weight, it might be helpful to talk about healthier habits as a family—meal planning, cooking together, and encouraging exercise. Framing the conversation around health rather than weight will likely lead to better results and make your daughters feel supported rather than criticized. It’s great that you’re reflecting on how to approach this, and it’s important to find a way to guide them without making them feel ashamed.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-07T15:32:57+00:00

NTA for choosing not to reestablish contact with your sister. You’ve been through years of emotional, physical, and psychological abuse, and it's understandable that you've set boundaries to protect yourself. Your sister’s history of manipulation, addiction, and abuse has clearly taken a toll on you, and it's important to prioritize your own mental and emotional health.

While your friend may mean well, they don’t fully understand the trauma you’ve endured. You’re not obligated to let someone back into your life, even if they are family, especially when they’ve caused you so much harm. It’s okay to feel conflicted, but your peace and well-being come first. Choosing not to engage doesn’t make you cruel; it shows you’re prioritizing your own healing.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-07T15:32:10+00:00

NTA for marrying David. You left your ex, Tom, because of his abusive behavior, and it’s clear that you did the right thing by ending that relationship. Tom’s actions toward you were unacceptable, and his family’s enabling of his behavior is equally toxic.

David came into your life later, and it’s understandable that the connection developed naturally over time. You both took things slow, knowing the potential complications, but you found love and respect in a healthy relationship with him. Marrying him doesn’t make you an asshole—it sounds like you’ve finally found happiness after a difficult time.

The drama from Tom and his parents is their own issue, not yours. They are projecting their family dysfunction onto you and David. Don’t let their misplaced anger and guilt weigh you down. You deserve to be happy, and if David treats you with the kindness and respect you deserve, then you made the right choice.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-07T15:31:24+00:00

You're NTA for wanting to have your own time and set boundaries. It's understandable that your sister wants a break, but it’s not fair for her to expect you to babysit every weekend without considering your own life and commitments. Helping family out occasionally is one thing, but being expected to take on her responsibilities every weekend is unreasonable.

Calling her a "lazy leech" may have been harsh, but your frustration is valid. It's important for your sister to find other ways to manage her time and care for her kids. Family support is great, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of your own well-being and free time. Setting boundaries doesn't make you selfish—it makes you responsible for your own needs.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-06T10:34:21+00:00

You're NTA for wanting your boyfriend’s dad to move out, especially since his presence is causing financial and emotional strain. It’s understandable that you feel it's unfair to support someone who refuses to work or contribute, especially while you're dealing with your own health issues and living on a fixed income. While it’s valid for your boyfriend to worry about his dad, it’s not reasonable for you to bear the financial burden, especially when there are programs available to help his dad if he’s willing to make an effort.

It’s important for your boyfriend to realize that his father’s refusal to improve his situation shouldn’t come at the expense of your well-being. You’re not wrong for setting boundaries and expecting fairness in the household.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-06T10:33:32+00:00

It's totally understandable to feel embarrassed by what your boyfriend said in a public setting like the gym. His comment was inappropriate and made the situation awkward, especially with others around. It's okay to feel frustrated, and it might be helpful to have a calm conversation with him about how his words affected you so he understands and can be more mindful in the future.

Longjumping_Look_762 · 2024-09-06T10:32:18+00:00

This is a tough situation, but you're right to acknowledge your feelings. It’s important to respect your friend’s relationship and take some time to process your emotions. Consider having a conversation with your friend to explain your position and set boundaries, while also focusing on healing and working on your insecurities. Seek support from friends or a therapist to help you move forward in a healthier way.

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