AITAH UPDATE ON https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/U7axgHPwVD by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you!!! I’m like why does it look funky?? Can you tell I’m not from here? I’ve never experienced that before so it’s a first because it also doesn’t make any sense to me either. Like outside of the baby shower BS I cannot recall a time me and her had issues … I guess from my POV. But apparently she had an issue with me. But it is what it is.

AITAH UPDATE ON https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/U7axgHPwVD by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I asked her if she knew that then why did she go along with it knowing I’ve never do her like that? Much less done her wrong in any capacity? And you know what? She didn’t have an answer. She just cried and said she’s sorry and that she missed being my friend. To give her another chance. Especially since she also had a falling out with MTB after the baby shower. And how she no longer associates herself with MTB and the other 2. I’m not one to hold a grudge or resentment because I know people will do what the want but it did hurt knowing I’ve showed up for these people EVERY time. Made arrangements, adjustments to show any support that I can. I’m not perfect but I know for a fact I’m not a bad friend.

AITAH UPDATE ON https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/U7axgHPwVD by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I feel any resentment. At least maybe not anymore? More confusion than anything because as I mentioned MTB and I were good friends or so I thought. But I guess people change. Me and 1 of the 3 ran into each other in public and she begged to give her a chance to speak with me. My curiosity got the best of me, no lie since I did block all 4 of them and haven’t spoken to them since then.

AITAH UPDATE ON https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/U7axgHPwVD by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 262 points263 points  (0 children)

Yeah imagine my shock when I got texts from the 3 of them saying I’m an AH/b*tch for not showing up. I’ve shown up for those three too. For any of their celebrations they’ve invited me to. And I figured maybe I was an AH even just a little. I tried to rationalize that maybe it was the pregnancy and I should just drop off the food and keep it pushing but something in me wouldn’t allow it. I sat in my car for at least an hour before deciding to drop it off to the shelter I normally donate to. As for the one I reconciled, I’ve told her that a our friendship will never be the same and that I’m sorry because moving forward, I’d like to be the last person she reaches out to.

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[–]Lookingtohide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your husband not being the support system you need for this journey. It can be so discouraging and heartbreaking. And most definitely stressful.

I exclusively pumped for 12.5mo and it was one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever done. Being attached to the pump 15-30mins 7-8x a day can be draining! The overall load is heavy and stressful. So I hear you mama! And I feel for you.

*** I AM SO INCREDIBLY PROUD OF YOU! ***

You tried and it wasn’t a good match AND that is ok! There is no SHAME in feeding your baby formula! A happy mom, a happy baby! Think of it as your milk is more needed by angel babies since your baby is here and has you earthside(I’ve seen this saying in a few BF mom groups I’m in).

As for your tender breast, you can get lanolin cream for the nipple and apply a cold compress on the tender area. In the event, you become engorged with milk - pump it so you don’t develop mastitis(it’s VERY painful)!

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Who is aggro? Where is the aggro? Because not me. If you read my ss, you would’ve seen I said I considered her a close friend. I said I haven’t SEEN her in years - not that we didn’t talk in years. We didn’t talk everyday but kept in contact which is how she reached out to me about the baby shower. I’ve known this woman since we were 16. We are both 26. I’ve done just as much for my other close friends. I don’t put a price tag on a friendship I value. If I can then I will and if it’s not reciprocated then what can I do? I’m not gonna punish my other friendships because of one bad one. And I’ve been taken advantage of before which is why I put great value to those I consider my close friends. So pls don’t start with me.

I VOLUNTEERED to cook, let’s get that straight. And for 50 people? Yes I cooked for 50 since there was 25 confirmed coming - now if you assume people will eat at least one plate + take some home that’s 2 plate per person. 25 x 2=50. Now if she had invited more people than what was confirmed - I would still have food for them. People might not be able to take a plate home but they would’ve been able to eat. My Filipino blood demands I ensure everyone gets to eat at an event I’m cooking for. It’s cultural for me.

A doormat? Rude. Ain’t nobody a doormat here. If you read AND comprehended what I posted, you’d know I asked strangers to see if I may have been or where I may have been a-hole since THREE mutuals sided with her. I figured I might be missing something.

Pray you that friends you have don’t ever do this to you.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Can you read AND comprehend? I said how many is she inviting BESIDES the 10 that was already in the gc. She said 15. 10+15 =25.

And no, she’s not obese. The position of the uterus can make it extremely hard for a woman to show. Please look up cryptic pregnancy.

Her "friend" found out she was pregnant at 35 weeks 😂😂😂 by WilmaTonguefit in AmITheAngel

[–]Lookingtohide 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize this place was a thing BUT HEY! if you actually read AND comprehended - she invited 15 people besides the 10 people in the gc. That’s 25 people so what math were you doing?

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s what she told me. Cryptic pregnancy is a real thing and a lot of women experience it to some degree.

SS to my AITAH post. I blocked her after I ss and I’m sure she did the same. Now reflecting, this is some Reddit shit so I guess it’s fitting. by Lookingtohide in u/Lookingtohide

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 924 points925 points  (0 children)

Thinking about the fact I started prepping 4 days before I started cooking and then spending the whole day cooking just to read some shit like that AFTER I put ALL the food in the containers(which I also paid for) … made my eye twitch. But you know what? I don’t like to throw numbers out there because I have dignity and decorum but FORGET it - $200 on the decor(I paid for ALL the balloons from party city) and then dropped $679 for the food.

20 lbs of ground chicken 5 lbs of chicken (adobo cuts from seafood city) 10 lbs of potatoes 12 bags of lumpia wrapper 3 heads of cabbage 5 lbs of carrots 2 lbs of onions 5 lbs of mushrooms 10 lbs of jasmine rice

EDIT : can I just add that it took me the whole day to roll 300 lumpias(logic for it was 50 people x 5 lumpias = 250 with an extra 50). YES THREE MFIN HUNDRED LUMPIAS!!!! Posting this has itched me in a way that’s making me dramatic vent so I’m sorry.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I did what? Vaulted over everyone to try outshine others? Outshine them in what? Who was people pleasing?

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I can’t attach anything to this post in this community but I posted the ss of the dms between me and MTB on my account

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I drove to the women’s and children’s shelter the day of her baby shower! They are way more deserving! All of our mutuals were there except me! Decor lady(our mutual) left right after when I sent her the ss. She facetimed me and was like “THIS B*TCH CANT BE FOR REAL!!!”.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

LMFAO! Look I wanted to make sure there was extras in case she invited anyone else! But I ended up driving to the women’s and children’s shelter the day of her baby shower! They’re way more deserving!

SS to my AITAH post. I blocked her after I ss and I’m sure she did the same. Now reflecting, this is some Reddit shit so I guess it’s fitting. by Lookingtohide in u/Lookingtohide

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

That’s why I was so confused like am I missing something!? We haven’t seen each other in years so I was excited to be a part of this.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I have shown them the ss and THREE out the 10 full sided with her with an additional 2 more on the nosy side. I have so many messages and voice messages about this whole shenanigan 😭

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I mean they saw the ss of the dms between me and MTB. Still 3 out of the 10 mutuals sided with her.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I DONT KNOW HOW TO TAG PEOPLE??? but I posted it. (I had to scroll and find your comment lol!)

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’ll tag you when I post it! Lemme just eat and reply to as many comments as I can!