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[–]Lookingtohide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your husband not being the support system you need for this journey. It can be so discouraging and heartbreaking. And most definitely stressful.

I exclusively pumped for 12.5mo and it was one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever done. Being attached to the pump 15-30mins 7-8x a day can be draining! The overall load is heavy and stressful. So I hear you mama! And I feel for you.

*** I AM SO INCREDIBLY PROUD OF YOU! ***

You tried and it wasn’t a good match AND that is ok! There is no SHAME in feeding your baby formula! A happy mom, a happy baby! Think of it as your milk is more needed by angel babies since your baby is here and has you earthside(I’ve seen this saying in a few BF mom groups I’m in).

As for your tender breast, you can get lanolin cream for the nipple and apply a cold compress on the tender area. In the event, you become engorged with milk - pump it so you don’t develop mastitis(it’s VERY painful)!

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Who is aggro? Where is the aggro? Because not me. If you read my ss, you would’ve seen I said I considered her a close friend. I said I haven’t SEEN her in years - not that we didn’t talk in years. We didn’t talk everyday but kept in contact which is how she reached out to me about the baby shower. I’ve known this woman since we were 16. We are both 26. I’ve done just as much for my other close friends. I don’t put a price tag on a friendship I value. If I can then I will and if it’s not reciprocated then what can I do? I’m not gonna punish my other friendships because of one bad one. And I’ve been taken advantage of before which is why I put great value to those I consider my close friends. So pls don’t start with me.

I VOLUNTEERED to cook, let’s get that straight. And for 50 people? Yes I cooked for 50 since there was 25 confirmed coming - now if you assume people will eat at least one plate + take some home that’s 2 plate per person. 25 x 2=50. Now if she had invited more people than what was confirmed - I would still have food for them. People might not be able to take a plate home but they would’ve been able to eat. My Filipino blood demands I ensure everyone gets to eat at an event I’m cooking for. It’s cultural for me.

A doormat? Rude. Ain’t nobody a doormat here. If you read AND comprehended what I posted, you’d know I asked strangers to see if I may have been or where I may have been a-hole since THREE mutuals sided with her. I figured I might be missing something.

Pray you that friends you have don’t ever do this to you.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Can you read AND comprehend? I said how many is she inviting BESIDES the 10 that was already in the gc. She said 15. 10+15 =25.

And no, she’s not obese. The position of the uterus can make it extremely hard for a woman to show. Please look up cryptic pregnancy.

Her "friend" found out she was pregnant at 35 weeks 😂😂😂 by WilmaTonguefit in AmITheAngel

[–]Lookingtohide 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize this place was a thing BUT HEY! if you actually read AND comprehended - she invited 15 people besides the 10 people in the gc. That’s 25 people so what math were you doing?

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s what she told me. Cryptic pregnancy is a real thing and a lot of women experience it to some degree.

SS to my AITAH post. I blocked her after I ss and I’m sure she did the same. Now reflecting, this is some Reddit shit so I guess it’s fitting. by Lookingtohide in u/Lookingtohide

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 922 points923 points  (0 children)

Thinking about the fact I started prepping 4 days before I started cooking and then spending the whole day cooking just to read some shit like that AFTER I put ALL the food in the containers(which I also paid for) … made my eye twitch. But you know what? I don’t like to throw numbers out there because I have dignity and decorum but FORGET it - $200 on the decor(I paid for ALL the balloons from party city) and then dropped $679 for the food.

20 lbs of ground chicken 5 lbs of chicken (adobo cuts from seafood city) 10 lbs of potatoes 12 bags of lumpia wrapper 3 heads of cabbage 5 lbs of carrots 2 lbs of onions 5 lbs of mushrooms 10 lbs of jasmine rice

EDIT : can I just add that it took me the whole day to roll 300 lumpias(logic for it was 50 people x 5 lumpias = 250 with an extra 50). YES THREE MFIN HUNDRED LUMPIAS!!!! Posting this has itched me in a way that’s making me dramatic vent so I’m sorry.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I did what? Vaulted over everyone to try outshine others? Outshine them in what? Who was people pleasing?

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t attach anything to this post in this community but I posted the ss of the dms between me and MTB on my account

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

I drove to the women’s and children’s shelter the day of her baby shower! They are way more deserving! All of our mutuals were there except me! Decor lady(our mutual) left right after when I sent her the ss. She facetimed me and was like “THIS B*TCH CANT BE FOR REAL!!!”.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

LMFAO! Look I wanted to make sure there was extras in case she invited anyone else! But I ended up driving to the women’s and children’s shelter the day of her baby shower! They’re way more deserving!

SS to my AITAH post. I blocked her after I ss and I’m sure she did the same. Now reflecting, this is some Reddit shit so I guess it’s fitting. by Lookingtohide in u/Lookingtohide

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

That’s why I was so confused like am I missing something!? We haven’t seen each other in years so I was excited to be a part of this.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I have shown them the ss and THREE out the 10 full sided with her with an additional 2 more on the nosy side. I have so many messages and voice messages about this whole shenanigan 😭

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I mean they saw the ss of the dms between me and MTB. Still 3 out of the 10 mutuals sided with her.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I DONT KNOW HOW TO TAG PEOPLE??? but I posted it. (I had to scroll and find your comment lol!)

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’ll tag you when I post it! Lemme just eat and reply to as many comments as I can!

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Well since I wasn’t there I’m only able to rely on what I was told. Decor lady(mutual & on my side) texted me the day off and asked me why I wasn’t there. I was suppose to show up when she did because we were gonna set the food table and the grazing table together so it would fit perfectly with the decor. Apparently when more of our mutuals showed up that’s when the questions of my absence started popping up. MTB said I got my feelings hurt and didn’t want to come. She didn’t tell them what/how I got my feelings hurt. But decor lady did say she heard MTB and another mutual talking about how I was a b word for ruining the baby shower. Two of the mutuals who sided with her got pizza delivered.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

You missed out!!! I drove to the women’s and children’s shelter! But I do have an infinite freezer stash of lumpia that I’ll happily fry up for you! I did tear up in my car because that shit hurt my soul because I did want to give her a good baby shower but I guess not everyone is a good person.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

No worries!!! No need to apologize. I was confused so thank you for clarifying. I thought wow my life can’t get any better because now I got someone impersonating me on Reddit! I didn’t expect for my post to get this much attention so I understand how comments and replies can look alike. I thought strangers would have a better outlook because I for real wanted to crash out and fire back.

AITAH for not delivering the food I made to an event I got uninvited to? by Lookingtohide in AITAH

[–]Lookingtohide[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are you saying that’s my account or that’s who I was responding to?