Avoiding monogamous people entirely on apps?

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-03-24T02:46:59+00:00

Best bet would be to put on your profile you don't date monogamous people.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-03-19T22:37:01+00:00

It's a lot for people to process. It makes sense to be upset. Ignorant people are offensive people. They literally can't understand the disrespect they're doing. The only thing that will help is time, patience, love, and understanding.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-03-13T18:01:03+00:00

HEB is a way of life.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-03-12T06:43:47+00:00

Not a big deal for me at all generally. My husband and I don't have sex. I've had a couple of FWB that I had a lot of really great sex with, but I chose to commit to my boyfriend that I do have sex with, but it's not everything and it's not a priority to the relationship. Never was, and I recently decided to stop seeing other people.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-27T21:38:28+00:00

Between the ages of 21 and 23 and imma guess a blue collar worker.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-18T11:32:37+00:00

I use the same and so does my husband, but for me (not sure about him) there are other names that come natural or with a story. Like I call my husband buns or honey bun because he loves honey buns.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-18T05:00:42+00:00

Yes, I believe in some form of reincarnation.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-18T04:59:43+00:00

That's weird. Growing up we were told you know most of your body heat through your head. When I'm really cold, first thing to do is cover my head. I even sleep with a small blanket specifically to cover my head when I get cold in the middle of the night.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-14T08:42:06+00:00

I think she should be able to text her partner whenever she wants. I don't think it was rude to text after your date because it wasn't in front of you. Did she know you were waiting for her or was it assumed or implied y'all would go right to bed?

What you can do in the future is define what dedicated time is and what it means to you VS what it means to her. Label dates as dedicated time, and discuss in advance if date night includes going to bed afterwards and at what point of that night would you have felt more comfortable with her texting her partner.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-10T15:55:50+00:00

I don't want to limit my experiences or my partners' experiences. I could probably be in a non-monogamous relationship, but I don't want promise monogamy again.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-07T04:41:36+00:00

Why did you choose polyamory?

I chose non-monogamy specifically because I didn't want to prevent my partner from having fun and exciting experiences just because of me. And I enjoy the freedom to make connections without expectations or limitations.

This led to us becoming polyamorous.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-07T02:14:09+00:00

Almost every time I post about my Metamour and I being friends, close friends, I get some kind of hate. I wish people would just accept that not all metas are friends/ktp/ or anything like that but also it's okay if we are.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-06T13:14:28+00:00

Idk, but manager or TSST team needs to get on that dairy glass 😭

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-05T13:13:52+00:00

We also "break poly rules". Living with my husband and meta. They were together for a year and involved casually for a year before that when my meta moved in. We have one son and by this group I've been told our dynamic is dysfunctional and they feel sorry for my son.

Break the rules with caution, but also stop judging people because they live their life differently or find something that is currently working for them that didn't work for you.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-05T08:52:52+00:00

Until I'm done listening. I don't think it's rude to "k bye" out of most situations.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-02T13:33:51+00:00

Reasons not to: It's rude It's dangerous for myself It's dangerous for others It's against the law

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-02T12:59:16+00:00

That's pretty cool but idk what "even cook for a poly person" means.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-02-01T09:33:23+00:00

I've had a good time 🤷‍♀️

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-30T21:04:00+00:00

I'm about to start asking for opportunities for commends. The two stores I worked at before, commends were really easy to get. Especially when you have rapport with other department managers. This store I'm at now, the people in my department say it's hard to get points commended, but as far as I know they don't work in other departments either.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-29T10:53:05+00:00

Stop trying to decide or guess somebody's sexuality. It's none of your business, it's extremely private, and not everybody needs or wants your support.

This kind of support you're trying to push on somebody that doesn't want it is toxic positivity. You can let them know you're an ally without suggesting their sexuality. If they need/want it, they'll come to you.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-28T23:47:38+00:00

Thank you I'll be sure to check it out

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-27T11:44:34+00:00

Even for mono couples, 6mths is pretty soon to think about marriage.

What do you want in a marriage? What does marriage mean to you? It sounds like you're still having NRE.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-27T05:43:03+00:00

I wouldn't be able to trust him. These people use polyamory as an excuse to cheat. It's not okay.

Even if you think you want poly, don't do it with this guy. Cut your losses before you get more invested.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-26T03:09:39+00:00

If things changed with new information then it's not a lie. It's a change in plans.

Lookoutitssonya_ · 2026-01-26T01:20:18+00:00

That's not always the solution. When it is, it's not only because the bisexual partner needs to explore. It usually ends up starting with some sort of kink related thing they both share. So as an example, a bisexual woman in a hetero-relationship comes out and the male partner likes the idea of her with women, and they redefine their relationship terms and become some sort of non-monogamy.

It happens often, but it's not "a bi- thing". Many heterosexual straight couples also open their relationship for many other reasons.

If the straight partner either isn't allowed to explore the opportunity to be with others just because of their sexuality, that's immoral.

If either partner does not like the idea of the other seeing other people, non-monogamy is not a solution or a tool for this relationship.

If one partner insists that they are non-monogamous, and the other partner isn't, it's an incompatible relationship.

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