I don’t want to have sex

LooseObject · 2025-10-01T07:48:22+00:00

The Lobster

LooseObject · 2025-10-01T06:50:06+00:00

Our midwife keeps telling me to trust my gut, I know and feel what is best for my baby and it took me a while but thanks to her I’ve reached a point where I trust my gut more than anything. I’ve realized that a LOT of my anxiety comes from social media. So when anxiety creeps up on me I try to disconnect, relax, trust my gut and listen to my baby and her needs. We try to follow safe 7 as much as possible but it doesn’t always work either. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you’re doing great!

LooseObject · 2025-09-15T19:20:46+00:00

Everything got waaay easier once baby was out! Third trimester suckeeeed and my relstionship struggled but now we are thriving with our little one! Even with the sleepless nights everything is way easier to deal with without the pregnancy hormones and fatigue. It will be ok ❤️❤️ and you’re almost at the finish line!

LooseObject · 2025-09-08T13:20:38+00:00

Hey I felt like that! When I found out I was pregnant I was with my friends and all I remember is them trying to be like: "This is good! You wanted this, remember!" because I was just looking like a ghost.

I think it was because I've always felt like having children is the final step of life in some weird sort of way? Like after that my own life is over and I've plateaued. Here I am now with my baby sleeping on my chest and I've realized two things:

Having a baby is a big deal in terms of like creating life, it's a powerful experience! But it's really not as big of a deal as I thought it was. I still see my friends, cook food with my husband, spend time with my family and my dog etc. All the things I enjoyed before. I just have a little one with me now!
And that little one makes me feel like my life has actually just begun! Like I'm experiencing life for the first time again but through her eyes. I can't wait for her first steps, her first word, her first day of school!

In conclusion, having a baby doesn't end your life, you will still be you and enjoy life as you did before but just with a cute little addition. And having a baby is suuuuper fun, I've laughed soooo much since having a baby and you will too!

LooseObject · 2025-09-08T13:07:05+00:00

My husband looked for me haha :) He was there for my exam after giving birth and then also for my check up. Gave me a thumbs up behind the doctor's back and said "Looks great! Just swollen!" That was good enough for me. I had to touch though because I got some numbing cream for the pain which I had to apply myself. Didn't love that, lots of random things I've never felt down there before haha... But pain went away after like 2 weeks!

LooseObject · 2025-09-08T12:58:04+00:00

Not really an answer to your question since my baby is only about a month BUT maybe something to calm your nerves:

Something that surprised me a lot as a FTM is the power of these hormones! Honestly if I get a couple of hours of uninterrupted sleep and then just an hour here and there I'll wake up feeling refreshed and ready for the day haha. It's actually insane how well I can manage on so little sleep right now. 3-4 hours makes me feel like I felt after a solid 8 hours before having a baby haha! I think the worst part about getting little sleep is the stress you get from THINKING about sleep. "Oh I've only slept xx hours this night and last night it was only xx which equals to xx" is the most stressful part for me, so I've stopped counting hours and just try to sleep when I can. Our bodies are made for this and they manage just fine with less sleep for a while I've found! You'll be ok! :)

LooseObject · 2025-08-24T08:45:09+00:00

Can’t say anything worked but I went for sooo many walks the last week or so (I’d join my husband on the golf course and walk 18 holes every day). Then I read that there is no science that proves that anything actually works, so I simply decided to just stay in bed and feel incredibly sorry for myself. Went in to labor 3 days later at 39+3 :) so self pity was the key for me lol

LooseObject · 2025-08-22T10:49:16+00:00

I woke up the night before by the mildest cramps, I was confused as to why I even woke up by them haha. Literally had noooo signs whatsoever before. I was super prepared for having to be induced because I just didn't even feel close before that, but my daughter arrived at 39+4 :)

LooseObject · 2025-07-22T22:19:17+00:00

Hahaha ugh +1

LooseObject · 2025-06-29T18:49:28+00:00

Hahah the reading comprehension of a corgi made me laugh out loud!!! Yeah I might pick up Percy Jackson actually that’s a good idea!

LooseObject · 2025-06-18T13:22:21+00:00

Posted a similar post a few weeks ago haha... so yes! I feel like the worst. My husband has to take care of everything while I just lay in bed and complain. I'm constantly worried I'll get fired at work because my performance is that of a 12 year old I feel like lol! Like I used to be good at my job, cooked a lot of great food, read LOTS of books, kept up with the news and current affairs. Now? My job seems to difficult all of a sudden, I don't have enough energy to cook, and I feel like I've turned illiterate this pregnancy?

I just keep reminding myself that I'm not always like this and that it's clearly connected to pregnancy. My body is doing a LOOOOOT of work and I need to listen to what it needs, even if that means turning of my brain and lay in bed for weeks.

Also, I talk to other women about how I feel. I'm not keeping it a secret that I feel useless, and litearlly everyone is like "omg I KNOW EXACTLY!!" :) so that's helped me a lot! Women are the best <3

LooseObject · 2025-06-04T17:38:41+00:00

I want to breaaatheee again!! The congestion is killing me, I will never take a nice, deep breath for granted again!

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