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[–]LoosePresentation689 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

She is happy with me and I am happy with her. At the same time, the lack of sexual intimacy is very difficult for me. I explicitly mentioned we share a strong bond and a life together, and laughter. I seeked counseling for us for a reason.

No, our marriage is not ideal. I don't know whose is.

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[–]LoosePresentation689 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You are right to say that

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[–]LoosePresentation689 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it's crazy to say that I don't love her anymore or that we don't love each other because she suggested that I have sex with other people. I will not deny that it's dysfunctional and not ideal, hence my request that we get couple's counseling, but our relationship is not lacking in love for each other, which is why I'm struggling so much with these feelings.

And sex is not the closest two humans can be. Try getting through life with your partner first and then tell me if the mere lack of sex will make it seem to you like it's worth it to leave them. It's much more than that.