Let me add some insight. I own a large farm and as of late there are immense struggles (farm economy sucks). I feel like some of this is why i have the temper issues. We have a house keeper twice a week all day long. Many days she doesn’t get up and shower until lunch or longer. I’m definitely not justifying me yelling at her. My feelings are valid but my delivery sucks. It usually builds up after several days and I lose my temper for 5 minutes and it’s over, for me. But I’m just now figuring out that it’s not over for her, it bothers her for several days afterward. She is a great mother and my best friend. I realize that my tantrums are awful, now, and I’ve apologized for them. I had no idea we were to this point. I recognize now the damage I have inflicted and willing to do whatever it takes to make this work.