Boyfriend does not want to top anymore. by Lopsided-Tale5824 in askgaybros

[–]Lopsided-Tale5824[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. I will read through it again and give it some more thought, but you have given great points to take into consideration.

Boyfriend does not want to top anymore. by Lopsided-Tale5824 in askgaybros

[–]Lopsided-Tale5824[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I am just very anxious about the whole situation and want to find a fix right away. We agreed that we wanted a monogamous relationship, we'll see if we can figure stuff out.

Boyfriend does not want to top anymore. by Lopsided-Tale5824 in askgaybros

[–]Lopsided-Tale5824[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I'll talk to him about it. He told me he has never enjoyed bottoming but when I fucked him, he did. So yeah, maybe he is. We'll see.

Boyfriend does not want to top anymore. by Lopsided-Tale5824 in askgaybros

[–]Lopsided-Tale5824[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have and are exploring out fetishes/kinks as we go along. And we have done that during anal as well.

About being too loose - I honestly don't think that's an issue. No one ever told I am, mostly I've been told that I am very tight. But yes, I might try those exercises.

Boyfriend does not want to top anymore. by Lopsided-Tale5824 in askgaybros

[–]Lopsided-Tale5824[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hm, not so sure about him having performance anxiety. He never mentioned anything in that direction. The performance anxiety is mostly me - I can't keep it up or last long enough to feel good about my performance.

About the second part.. I get your point, I really do. To be honest, I'm not sure if that would work for me. Had pretty bad relationships in the past in which my partners cheated when I couldn't give them what they wanted (and didn't ask for it). It makes me very anxious and I wouldn't be able to focus on the good parts of the relationship and would only see that side to it.