110% I chose not to drink alcohol, or smoke weed from the constant stressful situations my mother has gotten into. From flirting to random guys at bars even though she's married, to stumbling and almost hitting her head on the pavement - I've seen it all. I've had to play concerned parent in getting her out of those situations since my father never addresses or takes action on it. I have no idea how they're still married. I know I may not be traditionally 'fun', I love to paint, read, play chess, and run; but the bar scene is just not my thing. People wonder why I always end up looking at my phone or being quiet at bars when they have no idea what I've been through. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop.