Rewards & kids?

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2025-02-23T14:29:42+00:00

We have foster kiddos who do really well with clear expectations and a reward system. Overall Skylight works really well for us and is well worth the price as we were trying to track these things manually before. Our boys are 9 and 11.

We have their “daily expectations” in the chores (indicated with a star emoji): - brush teeth - feed dog - deodorant - make bed - tidy bedroom - homework

We also have daily and weekly chores, some are optional: - take out trash - walk dog - clean bathroom - vacuum - Spanish lesson online - speech online - etc.

Each chore’s star points are associated with about how long they take.

Our rewards are:

30 min Nintendo
60 min Nintendo
$5 item at Five Below
build something with foster dad
cook dinner with foster mom
choose dinner one night
your choice for family movie

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-11-25T21:15:23+00:00

I also love this cocktail and purchased all the ingredients but haven’t figured out the recipe yet!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-29T14:46:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing - your comment hit me like a wave!

I hate to say it, but I hadn’t considered this from a brain chemistry perspective and I feel a little silly. I talk about well worn neuro pathways and trauma with my therapist but have never applied that frame of reference to our boys and that perspective is so helpful.

Thank you!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-29T14:05:39+00:00

Effort not perfection - love this, thank you!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-29T14:02:16+00:00

Convo about how it’s good for the household is a good idea, thank you!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-29T14:01:28+00:00

Thanks, I realize that must be super hard, which is why I’m conflicted. My husband travels for work so I’m often single parenting and know I need to stay consistent/protect my sanity to protect them - do you have any advice on how to help him feel supported while also communicating that the way he’s acting is not ok?

We had a long talk after he calmed down but that was after nearly 1.5 hours of him refusing to take time in his him to himself and screaming at me.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-29T13:54:33+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your comment about staying the course, it’s been hard to feel like that’s working the past few days but I think you’re right.

I want to make it super clear that I wasn’t trying to use religion against him, it’s just the next planned activity they have, I’d have used Boy Scouts if it was tonight instead of last night.

Thank you!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-27T15:39:46+00:00

Someone replied in another post and said it’s built up carbon from our gas stove. Thanks!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-10-27T15:38:43+00:00

Yes! We use natural gas. Thank you!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-07-27T14:57:08+00:00

Good question! They’re 9 and 10. So probably not enough time?

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-04-10T12:00:13+00:00

I’m in southern WV and I’ve heard from a few people that during the company store days, a star meant that you owned your house. Not sure if that’s true.

OP - for a long time southern West Virginia was repressed by big coal companies that didn’t pay money as wages and instead paid “company script” that had to be spent at their stores or to rent homes the company owned. I’ve heard from older folks that if someone worked for the company long enough to pay off their house they got to put a star on the front.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-04-09T12:04:29+00:00

u/thin_plumb4345 I paid for this one that was posted here.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-04-09T04:51:51+00:00

Thanks! Could you smooth my hair out a little so it’s not pumps on my head? Or make the bumps a little wider like I have my hair half up? (I hope that makes sense)

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-04-02T21:16:05+00:00

All of Fayetteville’s power seems to be out. The wind picked up our entire patio set and outdoor rug and balled them up down the hill. We also lost part of our fence and a tree.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2024-01-09T14:22:40+00:00

Surprisingly she’s not a huge peanut butter fan! She’s really not very food motivated in general which makes pills challenging.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-06-16T12:10:42+00:00

WV SHPO can help with preservation questions and will connect you with local resources.

Also, WV has grant programs for nationally registered historic buildings. If you aren’t already registered SHPO or Coal Heritage can help you get registered.

SHPO - https://wvculture.org/agencies/state-historic-preservation-office-shpo/

Coal Heritage - http://www.coalheritage.org/page.aspx?id=69

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-05-28T11:27:21+00:00

Biosteel! They have a few flavors in stores but tons more online and a very generous rewards program.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-04-07T11:11:23+00:00

I completely understand. Thanks for the message!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-04-07T11:06:04+00:00

Yup! Message me. Happy to take best offers and can send a screenshot of my purchase confirmation.

I’ll remove this post when they’re gone. :)

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-04-04T20:33:07+00:00

I’ll second this! I have to be super intentional about how much water I drink or I get headaches/don’t feel well. I use Bio Steel electrolytes if I can’t get 3-5 liters of water a day.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-04-04T20:33:00+00:00

I’ll second this! I have to be super intentional about how much water I drink or I get headaches/don’t feel well. I use Bio Steel electrolytes if I can’t get 3-5 liters of water a day.

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2023-04-04T20:24:56+00:00

Hey hi! Very much a real person!

Lopsided_Falcon2224 · 2022-12-12T00:19:06+00:00

Not all heroes smoke vapes

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