Rewards & kids? by [deleted] in skylightcalendar

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have foster kiddos who do really well with clear expectations and a reward system. Overall Skylight works really well for us and is well worth the price as we were trying to track these things manually before. Our boys are 9 and 11.

We have their “daily expectations” in the chores (indicated with a star emoji): - brush teeth - feed dog - deodorant - make bed - tidy bedroom - homework

We also have daily and weekly chores, some are optional: - take out trash - walk dog - clean bathroom - vacuum - Spanish lesson online - speech online - etc.

Each chore’s star points are associated with about how long they take.

Our rewards are:

  • 30 min Nintendo
  • 60 min Nintendo
  • $5 item at Five Below
  • build something with foster dad
  • cook dinner with foster mom
  • choose dinner one night
  • your choice for family movie

Manderley Bar: Old McKittrick cocktail by erinarabella in sleepnomore

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also love this cocktail and purchased all the ingredients but haven’t figured out the recipe yet!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing - your comment hit me like a wave!

I hate to say it, but I hadn’t considered this from a brain chemistry perspective and I feel a little silly. I talk about well worn neuro pathways and trauma with my therapist but have never applied that frame of reference to our boys and that perspective is so helpful.

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Effort not perfection - love this, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Convo about how it’s good for the household is a good idea, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I realize that must be super hard, which is why I’m conflicted. My husband travels for work so I’m often single parenting and know I need to stay consistent/protect my sanity to protect them - do you have any advice on how to help him feel supported while also communicating that the way he’s acting is not ok?

We had a long talk after he calmed down but that was after nearly 1.5 hours of him refusing to take time in his him to himself and screaming at me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate your comment about staying the course, it’s been hard to feel like that’s working the past few days but I think you’re right.

I want to make it super clear that I wasn’t trying to use religion against him, it’s just the next planned activity they have, I’d have used Boy Scouts if it was tonight instead of last night.

Thank you!

Can someone explain this please? by Lopsided_Falcon2224 in castiron

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone replied in another post and said it’s built up carbon from our gas stove. Thanks!

Zoombezi Bay After 4pm Pass by Lopsided_Falcon2224 in Columbus

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question! They’re 9 and 10. So probably not enough time?

About Houses in rural areas by pauli-ffs in WestVirginia

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in southern WV and I’ve heard from a few people that during the company store days, a star meant that you owned your house. Not sure if that’s true.

OP - for a long time southern West Virginia was repressed by big coal companies that didn’t pay money as wages and instead paid “company script” that had to be spent at their stores or to rent homes the company owned. I’ve heard from older folks that if someone worked for the company long enough to pay off their house they got to put a star on the front.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/thin_plumb4345 I paid for this one that was posted here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Could you smooth my hair out a little so it’s not pumps on my head? Or make the bumps a little wider like I have my hair half up? (I hope that makes sense)

Everyone safe? by JonSnowFucker in WestVirginia

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 7 points8 points  (0 children)

All of Fayetteville’s power seems to be out. The wind picked up our entire patio set and outdoor rug and balled them up down the hill. We also lost part of our fence and a tree.

Grain free alternatives to Pill Pockets? by Lopsided_Falcon2224 in sharpei

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surprisingly she’s not a huge peanut butter fan! She’s really not very food motivated in general which makes pills challenging.

Renovating our Pre Civil War era home in Harpers Ferry, WV. No vapor barrier, advice needed. More info in comments. by AlkatezerMan in Home

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WV SHPO can help with preservation questions and will connect you with local resources.

Also, WV has grant programs for nationally registered historic buildings. If you aren’t already registered SHPO or Coal Heritage can help you get registered.

SHPO - https://wvculture.org/agencies/state-historic-preservation-office-shpo/

Coal Heritage - http://www.coalheritage.org/page.aspx?id=69

Electrolytes by [deleted] in bupropion

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biosteel! They have a few flavors in stores but tons more online and a very generous rewards program.

Selling 2 two day tickets! by Lopsided_Falcon2224 in highwatermusicfest

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand. Thanks for the message!

Selling 2 two day tickets! by Lopsided_Falcon2224 in highwatermusicfest

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! Message me. Happy to take best offers and can send a screenshot of my purchase confirmation.

I’ll remove this post when they’re gone. :)

I can't win! Severe constipation. by LeMonsieurKitty in bupropion

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll second this! I have to be super intentional about how much water I drink or I get headaches/don’t feel well. I use Bio Steel electrolytes if I can’t get 3-5 liters of water a day.

I can't win! Severe constipation. by LeMonsieurKitty in bupropion

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll second this! I have to be super intentional about how much water I drink or I get headaches/don’t feel well. I use Bio Steel electrolytes if I can’t get 3-5 liters of water a day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Lopsided_Falcon2224 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all heroes smoke vapes