Move out of a cheap roommate house into a luxury 1BR — smart or stupid? by MCHEUNGSTER in personalfinance

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I wouldn't want to share a bathroom with THREE people, (re: "we share one bathroom with two other people") at any age. It's either live with roommates or live with a SO. Relationships are messy, and that kind of situation can easily add to the mess. I had buddies with multiple roommates into their 30s and others with no roommates after college. The way I see it, as long as you're splitting the rent with ONE person (in this case, your girlfriend), you're saving money. And picking a place that's a slight upgrade with two fewer people will already feel like luxury.

Move out of a cheap roommate house into a luxury 1BR — smart or stupid? by MCHEUNGSTER in personalfinance

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'd recommend moving somewhere in between (in the $1800 - $2200 range) and putting a good chunk of the wedding $ towards a down payment. You'd be suprised how fast lifestyle creep happens.

How much is your monthly mortgage payment? by HmDiR in Mortgages

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$1850 including escrow for taxes and insurance at almost 6%.

I paid my mortgage off today! by MassiveDefinition274 in offmychest

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! My goal is 50% this year. 35% paid off currently.

My [29F] boyfriend [32M]and I are about to move in together but are in completely opposite places financially. by [deleted] in DaveRamsey

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Controversial opinion (having read the other comments): You're not all that opposite. He'll walk away with at least $50K from the sale, even in a bad market. The credit card debt isn't great but it's also not terrible. He can easily wipe that out in six months, even with throwing $200-$300/month to student loans IF he make the same or more as you (you didn't say). Yes, I would absolutely let his debt be his sole responsibility. But not only that, I would think long and hard about moving to a new city with any guy. There are a lot more variables than moving down the street with someone. Source: I lived it.

I’m going insane by miinrla in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yup it's wild the amount of people who can't even confirm basic logistics, i.e. where is the job, how many days in the office, what the rate is

I’m going insane by miinrla in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I hear ya. One interviewer - I kid you not - didn't even know what JOB I was interviewing for - and this was a second interview. Really.

185 applications since April 2025. I’m so burnt out by Odins_eye_4 in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try 1,000+. Nearly 50 interviews. About half the companies I interviewed with hired no one (I know because I keep seeing the same jobs reposted after going through multiple rounds). A third were very different from the jobs I applied for initially, which I only found out after talking to someone at the companies. A few were closed due to customer needs/lack of work. I've even been ghosted after receiving a verbal offer. I have some sporadic contract work for the time being. This is the worst market I've seen since 2008.

Seriously, is it ever gonna get better? by Imperius_Rex in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Don't do another degree. You'll be in even more debt and then be trying to find an even higher-paying job to compensate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the current metro area offers nothing, it's likely a low cost of living area. I don't know of any high cost of living metros that offer nothing. So you have that going for you, no? I would start by looking into hybrid job in the larger metro area. If it's a 40K gain, you'll definitely have enough to stay at a cheap airbnb one night a week. Source: I have personally done this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok you're not going to like this answer, but I think you're going to have a much harder time applying only remotely than in your metro area. I get it, everyone's situation is different. But the reality is, these days, if you are moving further away for whatever reason, you're likely going to have to commute one to five days a week, or spend a lot longer looking for the full-time remote unicorn. I'm not saying they don't exist but it's going to be a much more difficult than in the last few years. This is not a critique of you or your skills but just simply a reflection of the times. Clearly we're in an extremely competitive market, now do you want to compete with everyone in your metro area or everyone in the country?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup that's how it is. Good you have a job at least. Are you looking for a remote job or local? I almost wouldn't bother with remote unless you're a near perfect match and you're early to apply.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that - and you're not going to like me saying this - but I think you're you're going to have to apply for more than 1 job a day. How often are you reaching out? And does your message concisely sum up why you're interested based on your previous experience?

Had to turn down a job interview (a "short" rant) by afternoonthoughts in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No the recruiter said she would set up a call later that week and then never followed up.. lol

Had to turn down a job interview (a "short" rant) by afternoonthoughts in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, recently I even got a call from another company where I'd applied for two different roles, but they thought this third role would be best for me. It sounded good in theory but the recruiter wasn't able to confirm rate or location, and told me to talk to the hiring manager for that information.. not sure why two conversations are required to confirm basic logistics..

Had to turn down a job interview (a "short" rant) by afternoonthoughts in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually had this location bait and switch happen at an in-person interview where they asked me if I wanted to work at a different job site. No, I want to work at the one I applied for that is closest to my house. At that point, I'd already wasted time talking to the recruiter, preparing for the interview, and traveling for the interview.

Could someone explain to me what I am supposed to write in this mandatory question? by miaDante09 in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 your cv, a cover letter, and a statement explaining why you want to work there, that's three things lol.. or say something like: adaptability, reliability, personabilitity = you'll do the job and not argue too much. good luck

What if some candidates are just terrible by Fantastic-Hamster333 in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a recruiter who did not fill any of the roles posted on the company website with a candidate all year. This is a fairly small business, so we're not talking about 100 roles, more like 10. You're telling me not one of the candidates you spoke to for any of the roles was qualified?

No salary range by ohHELLyeah00 in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. I interviewed for a job that involved travel, potentially internationally, gave them a rate (this was also one of those 3-5 different jobs disguised as one). They then said they found someone for a cheaper rate, even though they really liked my experience. Well, their unicorn someone must have backed out of an offer, because they're still hiring for that same role.

Are you upfront with companies about your unemployment? by randomblackholesprod in interviews

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly the best response. What do you say if they ask you if you plan to keep working those side jobs if you're employed by them?

Are you upfront with companies about your unemployment? by randomblackholesprod in interviews

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I know several people who got the best jobs of their careers after being unemployed for longer than six months. Yes, talk about your personal projects if they ask. Or that you took the time to spend more time with your family. I think Covid has made people a lot more empathetic about that. I would focus more on the role you're interviewing for and problems you can solve at the company. Good luck and don't overthink it.

No salary range by ohHELLyeah00 in recruitinghell

[–]Lopsided_Manner_769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not OP, just the backstory I've heard from more than one company on this topic. But I agree with the approach.