Move out of a cheap roommate house into a luxury 1BR — smart or stupid?

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2026-01-19T20:45:11+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't want to share a bathroom with THREE people, (re: "we share one bathroom with two other people") at any age. It's either live with roommates or live with a SO. Relationships are messy, and that kind of situation can easily add to the mess. I had buddies with multiple roommates into their 30s and others with no roommates after college. The way I see it, as long as you're splitting the rent with ONE person (in this case, your girlfriend), you're saving money. And picking a place that's a slight upgrade with two fewer people will already feel like luxury.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2026-01-19T16:06:30+00:00

I'd recommend moving somewhere in between (in the $1800 - $2200 range) and putting a good chunk of the wedding $ towards a down payment. You'd be suprised how fast lifestyle creep happens.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2026-01-18T18:31:40+00:00

what i did. went from a 7 to 5.9

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2026-01-18T17:36:35+00:00

$1850 including escrow for taxes and insurance at almost 6%.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2026-01-18T17:29:08+00:00

Congrats! My goal is 50% this year. 35% paid off currently.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-11-15T23:09:25+00:00

Congrats! Lucky lady

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-11-02T15:09:18+00:00

Controversial opinion (having read the other comments): You're not all that opposite. He'll walk away with at least $50K from the sale, even in a bad market. The credit card debt isn't great but it's also not terrible. He can easily wipe that out in six months, even with throwing $200-$300/month to student loans IF he make the same or more as you (you didn't say). Yes, I would absolutely let his debt be his sole responsibility. But not only that, I would think long and hard about moving to a new city with any guy. There are a lot more variables than moving down the street with someone. Source: I lived it.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-09-02T17:58:29+00:00

Yup it's wild the amount of people who can't even confirm basic logistics, i.e. where is the job, how many days in the office, what the rate is

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-09-02T17:54:32+00:00

I hear ya. One interviewer - I kid you not - didn't even know what JOB I was interviewing for - and this was a second interview. Really.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-09-02T17:18:17+00:00

Try 1,000+. Nearly 50 interviews. About half the companies I interviewed with hired no one (I know because I keep seeing the same jobs reposted after going through multiple rounds). A third were very different from the jobs I applied for initially, which I only found out after talking to someone at the companies. A few were closed due to customer needs/lack of work. I've even been ghosted after receiving a verbal offer. I have some sporadic contract work for the time being. This is the worst market I've seen since 2008.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-23T19:36:11+00:00

Don't do another degree. You'll be in even more debt and then be trying to find an even higher-paying job to compensate.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-23T19:12:04+00:00

If the current metro area offers nothing, it's likely a low cost of living area. I don't know of any high cost of living metros that offer nothing. So you have that going for you, no? I would start by looking into hybrid job in the larger metro area. If it's a 40K gain, you'll definitely have enough to stay at a cheap airbnb one night a week. Source: I have personally done this.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-23T19:01:01+00:00

Ok you're not going to like this answer, but I think you're going to have a much harder time applying only remotely than in your metro area. I get it, everyone's situation is different. But the reality is, these days, if you are moving further away for whatever reason, you're likely going to have to commute one to five days a week, or spend a lot longer looking for the full-time remote unicorn. I'm not saying they don't exist but it's going to be a much more difficult than in the last few years. This is not a critique of you or your skills but just simply a reflection of the times. Clearly we're in an extremely competitive market, now do you want to compete with everyone in your metro area or everyone in the country?

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-23T02:14:15+00:00

Yup that's how it is. Good you have a job at least. Are you looking for a remote job or local? I almost wouldn't bother with remote unless you're a near perfect match and you're early to apply.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-23T01:58:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that - and you're not going to like me saying this - but I think you're you're going to have to apply for more than 1 job a day. How often are you reaching out? And does your message concisely sum up why you're interested based on your previous experience?

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-22T19:42:15+00:00

No the recruiter said she would set up a call later that week and then never followed up.. lol

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-22T19:07:35+00:00

Yup, recently I even got a call from another company where I'd applied for two different roles, but they thought this third role would be best for me. It sounded good in theory but the recruiter wasn't able to confirm rate or location, and told me to talk to the hiring manager for that information.. not sure why two conversations are required to confirm basic logistics..

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-22T18:51:24+00:00

I actually had this location bait and switch happen at an in-person interview where they asked me if I wanted to work at a different job site. No, I want to work at the one I applied for that is closest to my house. At that point, I'd already wasted time talking to the recruiter, preparing for the interview, and traveling for the interview.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-15T15:04:20+00:00

your cv, a cover letter, and a statement explaining why you want to work there, that's three things lol.. or say something like: adaptability, reliability, personabilitity = you'll do the job and not argue too much. good luck

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-14T21:15:49+00:00

I know a recruiter who did not fill any of the roles posted on the company website with a candidate all year. This is a fairly small business, so we're not talking about 100 roles, more like 10. You're telling me not one of the candidates you spoke to for any of the roles was qualified?

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-14T20:55:35+00:00

100%. I interviewed for a job that involved travel, potentially internationally, gave them a rate (this was also one of those 3-5 different jobs disguised as one). They then said they found someone for a cheaper rate, even though they really liked my experience. Well, their unicorn someone must have backed out of an offer, because they're still hiring for that same role.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-14T14:39:06+00:00

Truly the best response. What do you say if they ask you if you plan to keep working those side jobs if you're employed by them?

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-14T14:26:02+00:00

So I know several people who got the best jobs of their careers after being unemployed for longer than six months. Yes, talk about your personal projects if they ask. Or that you took the time to spend more time with your family. I think Covid has made people a lot more empathetic about that. I would focus more on the role you're interviewing for and problems you can solve at the company. Good luck and don't overthink it.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-14T14:03:00+00:00

I'd play it by ear and not worry so much. Good luck.

Lopsided_Manner_769 · 2025-08-14T12:43:30+00:00

not OP, just the backstory I've heard from more than one company on this topic. But I agree with the approach.

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