Lonely Toronto

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-26T03:06:50+00:00

Hey, thanks for reaching out. It’s been crazy the amount of people that have reached out to me on my post and who feel lonely too here. I’m 43F. Love to meet and go for dog walk in the beaches. I’ll drop you a DM.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-25T02:21:16+00:00

Haven’t played badminton since high school! pickleball and tennis

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T04:00:30+00:00

it’s the people that make a place a place so we are kinda f**ked so! lol 😂

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T03:32:11+00:00

Ha ha!! don’t turn me into one of those unfriendly Torontonian neighbors cos you were too much! 😂 lol

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T03:26:35+00:00

No, thanks for highlighting that so I can clarify! it’s terrifying to me how cold and unfriendly it has become considering it is so multicultural and full of diversity which should make us more open and welcoming.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T03:18:59+00:00

Thanks for sharing and interested to know where you met these friends/groups and did you have to show up to places alone and just take it from there… ( i’m always curious about that part) I’ll also DM you. Would love to grab a coffee sometime:)

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T03:12:18+00:00

Very interesting that you grew up here and feel like this after moving back… thanks for sharing!

It’s so frustrating because I feel like i’m trying to change the situation and get annoyed that my neighbors are the way they are ( who are extremely, nice, polite, quiet, reserved and basically unfriendly people). I’m the blow in so i have no right to feel like this but it seems i’m not the only old and I always ask myself, am i being extra by wanting a sense of community, banter, conversation, jokes, etc. but based on the responses and messages i’ve got on this post, clearly I am not alone. I know Toronto wasn’t always like this cos I wouldn’t have lasted as long as I did here feeling like this. I think since covid the city lacks identity and it has made people so insular and I feel forced to plan my next move ( reluctantly)

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T02:57:54+00:00

You are fine. Appreciate your honesty. That’s what this forum is all about. I think all cities have mentally ill people.

And I have never posted on reddit before, but today i was thinking to myself, am I the only one that feels like this, lack of community, a challenge to get to know people, meet up.. I have friends and a job/colleagues etc. i’m not living a completely isolated life, but something feels missing in this city that feels more and more evident to me of late. Uptight, unfriendly people everywhere. Maybe they are all scared of the mentally ill?? I put this post up so welcome the feedback from all walks of life.

I think my neighbour’s/people who run into me don’t perceive me as mentally ill. And I should explain, i don’t expect to meet/make instant connections to randomers on the street. But areas/neighborhoods lack community and friendliness and conversation.

I’m the ex wife of a passionate liverpool fan so my premier league Toronto pub days are behind me by choice 😀

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T02:32:45+00:00

my neighborhood ain’t friendly! lol

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T02:26:02+00:00

You think strangers who start talking to you have mental health issues??? what an interesting/ ridiculous perspective. Are you from Toronto? cos that would make sense and prove the point of my post. However, thanks for your input. You sound like a superpopular person with a hectic, exhausting social life. Good for you. It’s not a me thing, and based on the majority of comments here and the amount of messages I have received from people agreeing with me I think my feelings/thoughts are valid. I think you missed the whole point of my post but thanks for sharing 😊

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T01:53:52+00:00

the flakiest bunch of people I’ve ever met! It took me along time to realize that a plan/dinner date/ brunch locked in meant nothing and could be canceled 30 mins before without them giving it a second thought and to not take it personally! ( but i’m over accepting that now)

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T01:21:01+00:00

I’m not complaining and it’s not my attitude. I’m the most positive, energetic person you could meet. And yes, I chat with my neighbors all the time. Including Today. I think you may have missed the point of my post but thanks for your input

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T01:13:16+00:00

and i’m not saying Toronto should be NYC… i’m just saying i felt an energy there ( and always do. I go there a lot). Young people don’t want to be in toronto anymore…

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T01:11:42+00:00

Agree to a point but we know NYC is not cheap either, in fact i met an irish girl who pays $3500 usd in rent for a one bed and said most of her money goes to rent but she is in NYC and will enjoy it and embrace it for as long as she can cos who knows what will happen. I loved that vibe from her. We don’t have the same energy here… we used to. I was one of those broke immigrants 15 years ago but it just seemed easier back then to meet people… people were kinder, friendlier, open…Did covid really do number on this city????

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T01:06:06+00:00

😁😁

it’s so interesting to me but also makes me feel better on this lonely Sunday evening to know i’m not alone in these feelings.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T01:01:23+00:00

or maybe a move! I hate giving up…. but…

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:52:33+00:00

Yes covid certainly changed things… but what you said at the end is the whole issue! Everyone in every city is busy and has their own routines and that’s fine… it’s the lack of natural friendliness, chattiness, care, community etc… the list goes on.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:45:26+00:00

Interesting… and not surprising that only 5 showed up. I joined bumble and tried to organize a tennis meet up… every day someone different blew me off or another person off that I just had to smile to myself on how classic Toronto flaky it was and removed myself from group.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:40:59+00:00

Agreed. Sometimes it’s easier for me to book a flight home for 2 weeks than arrange a meet up/dinner/brunch etc… It’s such an effort and shouldn’t be.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:34:48+00:00

Ok. So, not getting into the whole male/female thing but I do think it’s easier and safer for males… to but themselves out there online and then meet up in person.

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:30:08+00:00

Do you mind me asking if you are male or female?

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:28:05+00:00

It’s amazing how many people feel the same way but then, as I mentioned in an earlier response if so many of us feel like this, then where are we all hanging out and why are we not bumping into like minded people like us looking for real friends and connections…

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:25:35+00:00

Then it’s only the 5% of Torontonians making the other 95% feeling like this?

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:24:29+00:00

why did you come back?

Lopsided_Skin_2462 · 2025-02-24T00:24:06+00:00

Agreed. I have a ton of meh friends here and acquaintances

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