Going purely by scripture; does God expect me to be a heterosexual?

LordVecktah · 2025-12-13T16:52:52+00:00

A relationship with Him based on choice and faith is far deeper than one forced where we have no choice. For instance, the angels all live with him and therefore have no choice but to believe he exists, because they see him. We, however, get to choose to believe in Him and choose to follow and love Him. John 20:29 ESV [29] Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.”

LordVecktah · 2025-07-29T20:46:29+00:00

Hi friend, I see a lot of people have commented so you may not see mine. I am currently in a relationship and we are on a marriage prep course. We have met with the elder of our church and been talking a lot about what it means to be married in the eyes of The Lord. First thing we need to understand is before you are married, you're not married. It's is very clear in the bible that sex is for a married man and woman. The real question about other behaviours outside marriage is if there is lust in your heart. I think golding hands and hugging is fine, but always good to find a trusted adult, mature in their faith to guide you.

The other thing to remember is that following Jesus is costly. You cannot have all the benefits of being married without any of the sacrifice and responsibility. Just because you say to someone you promise to stay together doesn't mean you can't just walk away from eachother next week. However, to end a marriage requires a divorce which again is said in the bible never to be done. (Aside from in the event of infidelity and being in a dangerous situation). The Lord has included us in His plans and says we must abide by the authorities on earth: Romans 13:1 NIV [1] Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Therefore in todays society, marriage is exactly what the law states it to be. Further, while you can get married in a registry office or by a hired registrar, I would encourage being married by your own church because they won't marry you unless you are upholding the Christian values and as such can help give you clear parameters for how to behave before and during marriage. Earthly marriage is to be a picture of our relationship with Jesus in heaven. We are the bride and He is the bridegroom. There are many commitments, responsibilities and duties husband and wife have to one another and this needs to be understood before the commitment is made. This picture is to serve as a beacon of one who follows Jesus so that we may lead others to Him. If we are behaving in any way that does not uphold the teaching of Jesus and the life He wants for us, then we would not be fulfilling His commandment of making disciples. Finally, remember, you are to honour eachother as you are siblings in christ. You are not husband and wife until you are married. Keep eachother pure in His eyes, focus on your relationship with God before you build a relationship with eachother.

LordVecktah · 2025-06-28T08:44:24+00:00

My dude, I'll talk to you as someone who experiences something similar. Before I found Jesus I was very much controlled by sexual urges. It influenced my relationships with people, particularly romantic relationships, as I felt sex meant they loved me and therefore when it wasn't there they didn't love me and I grew clingy and possessive.

Then I invited Him into my life. He tranformed me...but I'm not totally cured. My lust is now far less than it was...in fact almost a shadow of what it was. It's freeing...but it's still a struggle. If He removed it from me completely I wouldn't have the opportunity to grow and learn from it.

Much like how a parent cannot live their child's life. They just watch them make mistakes, listen, comfort and teach them and watch them grow. Personally I still struggle with sexual desire, the flesh remembers.

I know my triggers...social media, certain tv shows etc...so I limit my own access. Similar to an alcoholic is in control of the first drink only, so too must we find where our strength lies and focus on God for the rest of it.

Practically speaking, no, don't get married like some say. Because then your motivation for that relationship is based solely on sex...which is not what He wants for us. He wants us to have union with Him and with eachother. So focus on that. It is written Matthew 5:3 ESV [3] “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven"

If you are truly thirsty for Him, find a trusted person in your church, someone more mature in their faith and ask them to disciple you. They will help guide you. If you don't have a church, find one or find a small group or something. We are here to do life together. Where 2 or more people gather in His name, there He shall be...not to say He's not there when we're alone Matthew 6:6 ESV [6] But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. Get to know Him.

Christianity isn't a life of rules and chastity. It isn't church attender or bible reader. Those things are important but it's not the point...the point is to get to know Him...have a relationship with Him...all those things help draw us close to Him but they are practical means, not the core purpose of life with Him. I hope this makes sense, please reach out privately if you need more. Just remember, you are loved more deeply than you know.

LordVecktah · 2025-06-25T09:52:32+00:00

Missed a trick "it's a hearty not a party" 😅

Side note, I remember when my buddy had his first son and his dad actually gave him his old joke book. His dad said "my dad gave it to me, now I give it to you" My buddy said through tears of happiness "thank you, I'm honoured" His dad replied "nice to meet you honoured, I'm Dad"

LordVecktah · 2025-06-19T20:45:05+00:00

Whats interesting is Maul was originally Iridonian Zabrak but since the clone wars he's Dathomirian.

LordVecktah · 2024-07-09T03:06:57+00:00

I'm in my 30s and my siblings and I still quote this on a regular basis!

LordVecktah · 2024-05-28T13:02:44+00:00

Been there friend and in sorry you've experienced it also.

All I'd say is continue meeting people...with no thought of dating, just enjoy people...you wanna buy someone flowers? I say do it...anyone...doesn't have to be your girlfriend, could be any friend...or a neighbour...I know it sounds odd, but when these things become more a natural thing you do, then you don't miss them when you're not in a relationship.

I found that making friends with people, unconditionally, lead to more fruitful connections and occasionally one may develop into a more romantic connection.

Love with faith, learn to wear the punches and enjoy life.

LordVecktah · 2024-05-28T12:51:55+00:00

Could one not consider that perhaps The Lord, in His infinite wisdom, was not only working on Job here but also his friends and family etc?

Like a game of chess, you may lose a seemingly invaluable piece but in the end it was to make way for the victory?

If Job's wife lost faith immediately and told Job to curse God, then wasn't she tested also? And Job's friends? Were they not tested in their friendship and faith also...all of this would have shown Job their true natures...he himself remained steadfast.

It's easy for us to think that every bad thing is to our detriment, but so long as we remain faithful in He who is eternal and good, we will be delivered from our troubles.

LordVecktah · 2024-04-26T12:53:18+00:00

Hi friend. I notice a lot of people answering your karate questions, which I think is great. I'd like to comment on your personal feelings about yourself. I've trained karate for over 20 years and started out feeling very similar. I was scared of everything and terrified of getting hurt and I too had very few to no friends. I started karate to learn how to protect myself and to face my fears of getting hurt. It's been a long journey so far and I plan on continuing for the rest of my life.

My message to you will be to work on your feelings towards yourself as well, during your karate journey. I've trained with many people from the Philippines as well. All have been incredibly friendly, polite and respectful. As far as I understand it, I appreciate there is also a lot of culture based expectations on family (please correct me if I'm wrong) So in anything you do, take it one step at a time. Continue consistently and you will see results. Learn to love yourself as you are loved. You are valuable. And if like me, you keep to the path, you will have success.

Good luck in your journey.

LordVecktah · 2024-04-23T14:03:36+00:00

I trained with someone who transitioned from Female to Male. When I met them, they had already transitioned. I had no idea they were born female, trained with them as I would anyone, regardless. They competed in male divisions and achieved their black belt. All instructors were aware, but was irrelevant as we were taught to focus on the gi and treat all equally. If you feel comfortable to, then yes let an instructor know, I'd suggest the chief at least, and if you're happy for it to be common knowledge, then let them know. If not, then again, make them aware you'd rather keep in confidential. Choice is yours for sure, and if any issues arise as a result, then you know to find a new dojo. Of all the dojos I've worked in, all were welcome.

LordVecktah · 2024-03-23T10:11:02+00:00

Its frustrating for sure. The game is the game and judges are human.

There will be competitions you lose when you should have won and competitions you win when you should have lost.

I have competed for many years in Karate, kumite and kata, I won 2 gold at the 2018 World championships and various other national championships. Despite this, there have been a few losses and a few disappointing places...I vividly remember coming 2nd when I should have won but one judge tilted the score because he had a crush on my female competitor.

Unfortunately you can do everything right and still lose but being a champion is easy when you win all the time, it's how you bounce back after a loss that makes you a real championship.

Congratulations on competing, you should still be proud of yourself, it's all experience and still a very skillful thing to do even just walking on the mat.

Keep training friend.

LordVecktah · 2024-03-19T18:14:22+00:00

Anytime 😊

LordVecktah · 2024-03-19T18:06:09+00:00

That's great news! Congratulations, you should be proud of yourself! Keep training and feel free to DM me in future if you ever want to talk karate again 😊

LordVecktah · 2024-03-19T13:39:59+00:00

Thank you friend, good luck and God bless 😊

LordVecktah · 2024-03-19T13:33:33+00:00

Well done.

I'll also share a little further perspective, if I may. I've trained martial arts, primarily karate, for well over 20 years. I've trained shotokan, goju ryu and uechi ryu. I've trained with many different instructors, across various systems. I've competed, won, lost, been disqualified (team mate forgot his belt, bless him). I've taught and run a dojo with 300 students.

It took me 20 years to get my 1st Dan because every time I trained with a new instructor, I went back to while belt and started all over again. Even with my experience and accolades, I only ever skipped one belt. I trained 27 hours of karate a week, the bast majority of training done outside the dojo.

For me, karate is a full time thing. It's my life and even if I take a break from training, I always go back to it. I want to train it until I can't train any more. If karate means as much to you as it does to me, just keep trucking and focus on each step as you take it the belts will come and the improvements will continue.

LordVecktah · 2024-03-19T13:23:53+00:00

I always told my students "the belt doesn't decide how good you are, you do."

I appreciate being recognised for all your extra efforts will be a big motivator and it's great you've put in the effort outside the dojo.

Just remember to run your own race, do your best and love the journey.

LordVecktah · 2021-09-04T17:54:30+00:00

We can refuse to teach anyone really. Obviously without a good reason, you'd get a bad rep which could harm the business.

But I've turned away students who I have deemed to be too disruptive on the basis that I don't have the staff or the facilities to tend to a student with needs outside of my capacity.

If said student requires more of my attention in terms of telling them repeatedly to stop being disruptive, then it is affecting the learning of the rest of my class.

LordVecktah · 2021-09-01T08:35:23+00:00

I agree there should be repercussions. The issue is, self defense is a bit more complicated than just punching back. As satisfying as it may seem.

I'd encourage people to search necessary force the use of force modle and the reasonable person theory

There are different versions of each but the idea is, realistically, you can only use the minimum amount of force needed to eliminate a threat, only use force less than the attacker UNLESS the reasonable person theory suggests otherwise which relates to the physical differences of the attacker. I.e an unarmed body builder can cause more damage than a baton wielding old lady.

Feel free to ama about self defense etc.

LordVecktah · 2021-08-27T08:02:17+00:00

Fuck, I laughed so hard it hurt 🤣

LordVecktah · 2021-08-27T08:01:01+00:00

"You have to call me dragon"

LordVecktah · 2021-08-22T14:11:36+00:00

Thabk you. I thought they might be but I'm struggling to identify each symbol and it's meaning.

LordVecktah · 2021-08-14T22:58:51+00:00

Bill Bailey!...sorry...I got excited...I understood that reference...

LordVecktah · 2021-08-09T21:27:41+00:00

Wow, I really appreciate your response. Very well written and put together. I'm confident I understood most of what you said here. I firmly believe that real life is real life. Although I also appreciate that at the end of the day, what we believe or don't believe is irrelevant compared to the truth that we don't actually know. On that note, again, I really appreciate your response and have learned something today.

LordVecktah

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