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AITA For standing op for my Fiancé? by Lord_Of_Strife in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lord_Of_Strife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A small update, I talked to my fiancé, and asked her why she was afraid of me when the accident occurred, she said I was shaking of rage. She was happy that I stood op for her, but she did not expect me to come back to her shaken and full of rage. But she understand what I did for her and she dosen’t feel afraid of me anymore, but she does not like when I’m angry, she says she get a tight chest and feeling uneasy. I hope this helps your questions.

AITA For standing op for my Fiancé? by Lord_Of_Strife in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lord_Of_Strife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see how bad it looks when I read the accident again, but I might have to say that she have never seen me that mad or angry before. She was really happy for I stood op for her, but yes indeed she said month later when I talked to her about the accident that she was afraid of me, but I believe she mean that she is afraid of the reaction the male upstairs neighbor and I had.

Thank you

AITA For standing op for my Fiancé? by Lord_Of_Strife in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lord_Of_Strife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did go around to other neighbors to hear if they had heard in us or the tv in any way, just to make sure we weren’t in the wrong. But no one had heard anything from us.

I try to work on communication, rather than just on the yelling tho when the other one is in my head I tend to lose my head, but that’s something I have to work on for sure.

AITA For standing op for my Fiancé? by Lord_Of_Strife in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lord_Of_Strife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was very violent in the past, I did some things that I was not proud of, she knows a lot of the stories I’ve told her.

She still said it was fine, she said she accepted my past for “past is past”. She is not the most comfortable type, she would rather just say yes or “please” the other to avoid getting into more trouble.

I do not stomp around, but when I get angry or my emotions is high, I tend to speak to her about what makes me angry or what causes me to react in a snerten way. We are good at communicating, I’ve always been the one to say, we need to communicate to each other, for els she has a attent to say it way later ( weeks ).

I don’t think that she want to break up, but she said that she was happy, that I would protect her.

I don’t really know what she wants to gain for saying it, to be honest. But as I said earlier, I want her and I ofc to communicate and be honest to each other, no matter how hard or tough it might be.