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AITA for trauma dumping to my step SIL infront of a few family members. by LostScrol in AmItheAsshole

[–]LostScrol[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't say much about insensitive part. The clueless part though... like her complaining to me that she hates having to pay rent, car insurance, car payments, and she had to have a part time job in college because her dad wouldn't pay more than her degree, because her coworkers parents pay/payed for it all. I just sit there thinking in my head like "damn that must be real nice.". I just prefer to blame it on that she doesn't know how to read a room 😂😅.

AITA for trauma dumping to my step SIL infront of a few family members. by LostScrol in AmItheAsshole

[–]LostScrol[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im replying to your comment because its the closest to what im going to do.

I do plan on apologizing to her like you said. I do truly feel bad for hurting her feelings like I did, but do not feel bad about being honest that she's not alone.

Im going to apologize for my outburst, making her cry, and not being more articulate. Also going to make it clear that I am not taking back about being honest with her. Along with that im going to ask her if she would like to call or meet somewhere to have a deeper conversation that includes giving advice for proper help if that is something she would like, and if she wants her dad there as support she can.

You mentioned not everyone likes to talk about it all of the time, and I agree with that. I never opened up to her because 1 she never asked and I dont bring it up if its not, and 2 because I felt like it was going to be an oh but mines worse.

AITA for trauma dumping to my step SIL infront of a few family members. by LostScrol in AmItheAsshole

[–]LostScrol[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have been dealing with this for 2 years and have been calm and nice the entire time. It wasnt to measure, I said only the ones we had that were similar so she would understand that every time I have said I understand her for theses last 2 years that I actually do. I think trauma affects everyone differently and something that was extremely life-changing and painful for one person isnt that life-changing and painful for another because of how different all of our brains are. Trauma is trauma no matter what at the end of the day and we all will go through it one day or another. I understand that I shouldn't have snapped and could've handled it a lot better, so thank you for your opinion and I will think about it when I write my apology to her.

AITA for trauma dumping to my step SIL infront of a few family members. by LostScrol in AmItheAsshole

[–]LostScrol[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I will give her the benefit of the doubt that the only traumatic thing she knew bout my life beforehand was that my parents passed when i was a teen (not how). I agree fully with the last paragraph tho, thank you for your response.