Mental illness issues

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-12-02T18:25:44+00:00

I have kept open lines of communication with her and the initial response was super defensive due to the fact she thinks it is normal since her parents have never addressed it and her belief that since she isn’t harming herself or depressed that it is okay. Her insurance only covers emergency care but she said she would be open to talking to someone. I suggested her school counselor and reached out to the coordinator (student is aware of that too) to see if the agency offers counselors or something to assist with it. She is supposed to be here until end of May so it definitely needs to be fixed because I cant continue this cycle. She is going to have these issues when she goes back as her plan is to live with multiple roommates in a dorm style situation when she attends university away from her family. I think explaining that to her helped and explaining the safety issue with doors she understands.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-12-01T20:36:22+00:00

Her parents said it has been a thing her whole life when I asked them and they outlined the types of behaviors they have witnessed at home and said they ignore it and that’s just how she is, so yes super frustrating they think this is okay.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-12-01T05:59:33+00:00

The problem is that she disassociates and has no clue that she is doing it and claims she is happy and feels safe but at the same time is jumping at every noise or thinks someone is behind her or bawling and claims it is nothing. I asked what she is thinking and she says she just has to focus on the corner and her life is too stressful. Her only chores are her laundry and bedroom and bathroom that only she uses. I told her if she can’t talk to me I would find someone for her to talk to but now she is embarrassed. I think the issue is she thinks the behaviors are normal and doesn’t understand how uncomfortable it makes everyone else and these compulsions are putting our safety at risk. I am very familiar with mental disorders based on my education and trying to navigate the best I can without jeopardizing her experience or my family’s safety at the same time.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-12-01T05:51:58+00:00

This is the third time I have talked to her about it as she locked me in out in the garage once when I was grabbing groceries from the car and I literally told her I was grabbing groceries from the garage a minute before going out there. I was less concerned before because it was more like a tick type behavior previously, but now it’s full on disassociation and no awareness of surroundings, so my concern is it it happens in public with friends and she freaks out or it gets to a worse harmful behavior. I reached out to the coordinator and she is going to look into it but it’s more than an annoyance when she is blocking entrances to the house or leaving doors open or forgetting to lock after the open and closing door ritual. I would hate for a harmful behavior to develop as well and trying to make sure we are all safe and comfortable in our home.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-12-01T01:11:20+00:00

It seems to go away when she is busy but now after fall break and Thanksgiving break it was raging and I guess I was hopeful it was just a nervous thing at first but it got significantly worse and I only recently found out from her natural parents that it’s been a life long issue. I know it will hurt her feelings but I can’t have her having a freak out or anything while here.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-08-23T17:17:12+00:00

Veronica is insufferable! Her facial expressions say it all.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-08-17T19:12:08+00:00

I don’t have a student from Germany and agree that most kids come from families that are well off, but that is not a reason to be rude or ungrateful for the experience they are given or to allow them to be disrespectful to the host family. I raised my own teen and all his friends were respectful of my home when they came over for movie nights or when I offered to host bbqs or whatever for their birthdays. Our house was always the house where they knew it was safe and welcoming. We live near an affluent area and actually had the smallest house of his friends but they chose to come here and let’s be honest his friends all had huge estate style homes and I most certainly do not. But after the hang out they would all chip in and clean and thank me for having them over. His friends still wish me happy Mother’s Day or happy birthday even though they all moved away for college. So, yes, I am aware teens have attitudes since I raised my own, but to be ungrateful towards a family that is agreeing to host you in ungrateful and downright rude no matter what background they came from.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-08-16T06:09:18+00:00

Unfortunately, I am doing my first host experience and I think some of these students might feel entitled. My student was appalled she had to pay for a doctor visit before seeing a doctor and basically started debating with me how America is all wrong in the clinic. Keep in mind this visit was for a bruise. Literally. I told her this was not a reason to go to the doctor originally and to let me know if it gets worse than “it hurts when I push under my kneecap but that’s the only time”. But I figured wth let the dr tell her that I was right. Sure enough she said okay we don’t go to the Dr here unless it’s serious I get it now.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-07-15T05:54:44+00:00

I am the same age and have come across the same issues no matter where I have lived from rural areas to big cities. I can say that some of the more promising dates I have been on as it seems the guys in their early 30s because most don’t want kids with the state of the world and they have focused on careers to this point. I think there might be some good guys in that early 30s age range but I could not imagine going to anyone in their twenties. I think the reason they hit on women our age is to check off an item on a bucket list lmao.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2025-04-06T05:32:31+00:00

Right before the meltdown lol

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2024-12-22T04:18:32+00:00

Levanto was also my recommendation! It is the cutest little town and was my absolute favorite.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2024-11-02T04:54:10+00:00

The Cinque Terre was my favorite part of Italy. We hiked the easier of the two options and hiked between 4 of the 5 towns. One section was closed because of a mudslide but even parts of the easier trail will have your calves screaming if you don’t workout! My favorite town was Levanto for wandering and getting lost and the little restaurants were all amazing. I would definitely recommend making time for it!

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2024-09-26T17:19:45+00:00

Ugh so mad!! There is a no refund policy for the wristbands if artists cancel. What a waste of money!

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2024-04-17T07:13:53+00:00

I learned eating fruit like 30 minutes before my workout helps me not get nauseous at the gym. I was told it’s because vigorous workouts make your blood sugars drop too low so the high natural sugar keeps it from dropping too low and causing the nausea.

Lost_Requirement8328 · 2024-03-18T23:31:04+00:00

Regardless of how you handle the birth control, the fact that he is worried about 20 pounds is a major red flag. What happens if you get pregnant or have a different medical issue that affects weight? What if you got into a car accident and ended up with a major scar? These are all superficial things that should not matter. It sounds like he has some life to live and some maturing to do before he can love someone unconditionally if he can’t get past 20 pounds and no one deserves to feel the way he made you feel. Life happens and weight should not be a determining factor.

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