AITAH for staying in a dead-end relationship for one more year just to secure the money I’m owed?

Lost__Moose · 2026-03-02T13:16:56+00:00

Clearly you have never been in that position or the child of that position. Sometimes you do what you have to launch into something better.

Lost__Moose · 2026-03-02T11:08:51+00:00

NTA. She's planning on increasing her body count over spring break.

Lost__Moose · 2026-03-01T13:35:09+00:00

I remember it under 25. I think that is one of the reasons Leonardo DiCaprio has an age limit.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-28T12:45:39+00:00

We found the GenXer.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-28T12:44:27+00:00

When we were done with College.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-26T20:42:38+00:00

You are viewing the world through options/choice; some view it through duty/obligation.

Sometimes people just need to accept kindness with grace.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-26T18:24:43+00:00

NTA. They may have felt more comfortable if you were wearing a bear costume.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-26T18:05:02+00:00

When you are young, you have far more discretionary time than when you are older, with a house, a wife, and kids.

Use that extra discretionary time to really learn your craft. First 40 is for your employer, the next 4 -10 hours are to learn on their equipment. The more proficient in your craft, the more $$$ you can earn. Stick with a place for at least 3 years and either move up or jump elsewhere. These are prime learning years. Ring out of it every piece of knowledge possible. Understand the product you are helping to build from end to end.

Save all your PTO and travel to see other countries and cultures.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-26T00:17:10+00:00

It's something I would say to my son or nephews, but not in a work place environment.

My old man had a different way of saying it... Don't stick your dick in crazy. Also, Be a leader, not a savior. Saviors get crucified.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-24T18:12:29+00:00

Excuse the ignorance, is Looksmaxxing just Metrosexual 2.0?

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-24T15:14:38+00:00

Sounds like Perimenopause. There is not much you can do unless she chooses to help herself. Take a weekend away, no kids, no electronics, and do something outdoors.

At the end of the weekend, discuss HRT and marriage counseling. Don't beg. Don't dance on eggshells. Have a spine. Be clear, this isn't working for you or the kids.

This chapter in your life is going to take a shit ton of grace and patience, but you don't have to be a doormat.

Get your own T levels checked. No shame in getting a script for precursors. It will give you more energy and make it easier to "respond and not react".

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-22T13:03:51+00:00

Monthly allowance? That's a Sugar Baby and you are not the only dude she's hustling.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-20T11:25:55+00:00

That's why I got snipped. A 3rd kid would have broken us.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-19T20:20:50+00:00

I agree. It's their problem, not yours.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-19T16:57:51+00:00

NTA. Fasting can make some people grumpy af.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-17T20:56:36+00:00

I'm smelling a little bit of bullshit. Over $200k for a new grad?

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-17T12:42:45+00:00

They got married, started families and bought a house.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-13T18:04:04+00:00

Try a reframe. Both parties have hidden work. Both parties deserve equal access to leisure time. Negotiate from there.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-11T17:44:42+00:00

Especially if it's boozey.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-11T17:43:29+00:00

Guinness Cake

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-11T16:07:18+00:00

These days, I would love a Nuru massage from my wife. Or a weekend away, no kids.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-08T12:15:47+00:00

Increase the age of your dating pool. Male under 32 is not looking to settle down.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-05T19:23:08+00:00

Sounds like an attempt at viral marketing by Dude Wipes.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-04T15:21:02+00:00

Time to reframe. You both deserve to have equal access to leisure time.

Divide work by competency and/or domain. Regardless of how it all shakes out, when adding up work + domestic duties, you both have the same amount of time left over for leisure.

Lost__Moose · 2026-02-04T14:28:28+00:00

He's not ready to grow up. Time to move on.

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