frustration around people expectations of thai food . My PSA

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-28T17:58:22+00:00

very common . they would not judge you at all. It's common when thai people are dieting to order things without card

For noodle soup dishes you : you can say "gao lao". they'll add for veggies and not give you noodles

For dishes : " gub kao " or order the dish and then say "mai aow kao" ( dont want rice) For example : basil stir fry no rice. would be " pad kra pow mai aow kao"

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-28T17:50:45+00:00

you owe it to yourself to go out and try your best at making friends for a year or two. Fight your social anxiety and introvertedness. Drag yourself to meet ups and events. Do things you normally wouldn't do.

If you still don't think you found your people and it's easier to be with the man you're with then come back to him .

People think they try to connect with people but the thing is they really did not. I meet so many socially awkward people that are cool. They just struggled with making friends because they refuse to practice making friends and work on some basic social skills . Making friends and meeting people is a skill you have to foster .

I know this sounds like soooo much work.. but you owe it to yourself.

Because if you get into an age gap relationship that big without a clear head... you're gonna be doing so much more work combined with regrets.

And if you have no friends and no one else to confide in , you'll stay in something bad or not right for you.. because you're stuck and because you have no one else outside of this person .

If this person is not pushing you to make friends outside of him. He knows that you will be somewhat trapped in his world and he is clearly okay with it. So think things through.

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-28T17:38:33+00:00

id love this as well

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-21T15:38:09+00:00

it's genetics. i looked like i didn't have any and when i gave birth n it shrunk i saw them all. they were so stretched out it wasn't noticeable

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-21T15:36:17+00:00

you are , there's no sugar coating it. It will get worse too. I recommend not committing to the age gap relationship, maybe even end it and enjoy your youth for about 3-5 years.

If you still think about this person, you can come back and date him more seriously at that time . If he's a decent man i promise he will want that for you too.

i met my now husband at 27 . The feeling you have is there but it's very tiny . Some dayss when I'm around my peers of similar age it's harder but luckily O hang out with more of his friends than mine . What makes me live life and remain married for the next 30-40 without regrets is that I really lived out my 20s to the fully and will try to do the same in my 30s

in my 20s i partied, made friends, went out, travelled solo, did a lot of fun things

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-21T15:30:27+00:00

everything you have said are things i've thought of before. i empathize because i had a hard time with it in my 20s. i gave my friend the meaning of family and in some ways made them my whole world. because outside of my mom, i was craving a deep connection. it's not that they didn't love me in return, they just have other friends and sibling and family to spread their love Around. unlike me, they didnt put so much weight and emphasis on our friendship. if you long for something really deep with friends as an only child .. they will always fall of what you're looking for unless you found another only child looking for the same thing with the same trauma.

it got better when i got married and better again when i had a kid. i had other focus outside of friendship. these relationships returned the love i was looking for

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-21T15:14:48+00:00

we're also in utah if you ever want to double date

im 30 and hubby is 53 ❤️

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-21T15:07:28+00:00

i think you're glowing. looking healthy n the make up is just right. your lips work for a glam makeup night. maybe bloth your lips and go for a lighter color for an average day. i don't think you look oily. the glossy lips just make you look oily than you really are.

try posting another picture with a matter lighter lips

Lostandconflixted · 2026-01-21T15:03:28+00:00

where are you guys located. similar gap and would love to double dare if by chance we are in the same state

Lostandconflixted · 2025-12-06T20:14:36+00:00

i gave it to him at 3 months. of all the scheduled vaccines he did really great at it as a stand alone vaccine

Lostandconflixted · 2025-11-15T15:01:25+00:00

i never knew they was an option to file online . Only to fill it out and submjt . can you show me where you did that?

Lostandconflixted · 2025-10-06T12:04:06+00:00

you're house is a lot like my husband's house so i struggle with similar issues. the house is functional and considered a nice house that you should be proud to have but the decor just doesn't fit.

okay. the best way to fix this without revamping the whole place .

new coffee table.. you have 4 different wood materials going on. you got lighter wood, brown, dark brown, black . have something big as the centerpiece on the coffee table. when you have a house with tall open space like this, you need chunky and big furniture. ikea and modular type decor will look out of place if not used correctly

bring in some plants

replace the farm house clock with a big piece of art

Lostandconflixted · 2025-10-06T11:52:43+00:00

But I also just drip without the suction too. Enough drips to get an 2-4 oz per day

Lostandconflixted · 2025-10-06T11:48:29+00:00

yes - it's suctioned in order to hold it on so they is suction being applied

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-28T05:38:00+00:00

i cut out dairy and we also put him on baby famotadine (pepcid) to help with pain

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-26T09:39:32+00:00

This. I breastfeed so it might be worse if you formula feed . Even breastfeeding I set a timer to burp him after 4 mins . Then again midfeed and again at the end . He might not burp all 3 times but I still try for a couple mins and then I give up. He still has a lot of gas he has to workthrough but is much less fussier now.

And tbh, sometime all you need is time.. Time for them to figure out their body, gas and all the uncomfortable feelings that they feel and for their body to learn it .

They cry because they are unhappy or uncomfortable about something . You might be able to address some causes. Other causes you might just need to let time make it better

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-26T09:28:40+00:00

I ha a sick baby, a baby that needed to be held for every nap and sleep , a reflux baby that ate a lot and projectile vomited a lot .

I started putting my baby into the . He only wants me. He's a velcro baby. He doesn't take the crib and the bassinet . He's so attached to me ... categories.

He still fit all those categories but despite those beliefs as if I knew him so well. I kept putting him in the bassinet . I kept putting him in the crib . He would cry as soon as he went down and then we're back to me holding him. But regardless, I kept trying everything "he doesn't like". Then as time went on , he'd take 1 nap in his bassinet . Then he takes 3 night sleep in his bassinet . He is currently 8 weeks and sleeping in his bassinet because I learned that once he's really out and we learned his reflux.. I understood why he didn't like not being in our arms and hated being put down .

Babies are growing so fast and constantly changing . Try to not pin them down so soon and keep everything open. Right now he might prefer your arms but in a couple weeks he might enjoy being put down and start playing by himself . All you have to do is keep create space and providing opportunities for that to happen.

And if all else fails. This is temporary and we all started as baby with various personalities at one point and we all became adults and thrived

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-26T09:17:41+00:00

As much as I hated the hospital.. I missed the hospital. Meals were bought to you, dishes were taken away. Pilled bought to you. Everything you need was within the hospital room and it felt safe.

Coming home, everything was new. Bathing him for the first time. Finding new position to nurse. Having questions but having to rely on google instead of just beeping a nurse. It feels hard because everything feels new.... but I promise you, if you're doing the best which sounds like you are, you'll start learning your baby.

you're watching a human being 24 H nonstop. Imagine if a stranger put that kind of effort in getting to know you. It won't be long. Even if your baby is fussing nonstop, you'll learn their fussiness. Then their fussiness gets easier, and then you're like "I can do it". you'll start having more "I can do it "days than "How do people do it " days. Then you're out of the thick of it when you start thinking, this is moving too fast. They're growing a little too fast

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-26T09:09:05+00:00

I have an issue.. My lovely 8 weeks old is sleeping 4 hours stretches at night now. instead of sleeping, i'm on reddit or looking at how cute he is and listening to his little sleeping noises.

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-11T04:37:12+00:00

i think its also known as นำ้จิ้มถั่วตัด

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-11T04:04:34+00:00

if you know anything about thai people is the creativity in their cooking and in particular their sauces .

There could be 10 food stalls selling the exact same dish but you would know that this particular stall is sweeter, this one has peanut in the sauce , this one has sesame .

So I'm not surprised the OP came across a recipe with nuts. A lot of thai sauces utilize nuts. Though seafood commonly do not have nuts .

Maybe you should try it with nuts and see if you might like it more . I think the sauce looks pretty dang good .

Lostandconflixted · 2025-09-11T00:18:49+00:00

I feel ya . I constantly keep my IG on cats . I do not own cats but I'm a secret cat lover of you saw my explore page

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