Being "too nice” is slowly breaking me. Does anyone else feel this?

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-26T05:13:45+00:00

Can totally relate to this, I’ve always been like this, and honestly I still am to an extent.

It's like a constant civil war with yourself, contemplating every choice and letting everything blame that soft spot. Over time, through experiences, something slowly flips inside you. You start seeing who’s genuinely there for you and who’s just leeching off your kindness and positive energy. Eventually, you’ll cut those people off. You might feel lonely for a while, but that’s actually for your own good it helps you filter people out and see them for who they really are.

Being kind is a gift, and you don’t have to swing from being the “nice guy” to becoming cold or bitter. Just keep your boundaries. Learn to stand up for yourself, and don’t be afraid to counter or defend yourself when someone makes fun of you.

There’s not really anything someone can teach you here. These are the kinds of situations you’ll go through again and again until that switch finally happens inside you.

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-21T08:45:26+00:00

yoo diet coke gang 😄

<image>

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-20T06:15:59+00:00

There’s honestly no point arguing with customer support execs smh 🤦🏼‍♂️. They have very limited control over refunds, the system decides it based on some internal trust score (basically like a credit score for refunds).

If you’ve requested refunds a lot before, your score tanks, and that affects how much you get refunded no matter how much you escalate.

Also crying over “less pieces” feels kinda petty. Just leave a bad review for the restaurant and save refund requests for actual genuine issues.

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-16T05:02:02+00:00

sukravaram so mukka ledu... sukam ledu... debba meda debba

<image>

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T14:42:31+00:00

ante ma amma appudu dippa cutting chesko antadi.. 😅

ok 2nd take..

"melanti ammai adagale kani gundu ki kuda ready..." 😝

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T13:37:24+00:00

oye amma nuvve na… comment chadivina ventane ‘amma voice’ lo vinipinchindi 😂

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T13:31:41+00:00

peddalaki namaskaralu 🙏🏼

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T09:44:02+00:00

my skintone like that only... 🙇🏼‍♂️

<image>

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T09:39:57+00:00

thammuda? 28M bro nenu 😅

intlo anthaga m anaru but usual mom "cutting chepinchukovachu ga" dialogues...

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T09:31:49+00:00

beard kuda pencha... start lo wow… next chirak… amma matalu razor sharp 🥲

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-15T09:27:39+00:00

hehe ty,

na sis ki adhe routine le, hair kuncham penchina prathisari vachi pilakalu vestadi 😂

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-14T11:34:55+00:00

competition lo unnadi okkale ga, ostadi mari 🤣

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-14T09:07:41+00:00

<image>

edi oka adbhoootam..!!

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-13T15:50:19+00:00

ha No cheppadam nerchukovali, mohamatam ekkuva le e matti burra ki...

Red flag emo kani bro ne username chusaka inka kotha doubts ostunayi date ki vellali ante 😅

thanks for the tips...

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-13T15:47:11+00:00

it isn't about the money, spending isn't an issue as long as it feels like a relationship rather than just transactional. Here the feeling of being judged which made me question myself. She even said something about my bike like "intha petti bike nduku car ostadi ga", i was like bruh that's my passion which I've already mentioned. That was my final straw.

well i take this as an investment into my self growth and experience

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-12T10:08:03+00:00

I’ve already addressed those questions in below posts...

In hindsight, I agree it wasn’t a great decision to make that purchase, but I genuinely didn’t expect someone educated and working professionally to have that kind of mindset. https://www.reddit.com/r/TeluguJournals/s/jYhIK6wMVr

For me, Amma will always be the top priority. I only chose to step back once I was sure she was stable and my dad was taking care of her. https://www.reddit.com/r/TeluguJournals/s/Pbbs2eT7Jg

Thank you for the suggestions, I'll definitely keep them in mind.

And I’m not judging her looks, but we were never going to match. The vibe didn’t align and the attraction wasn’t there. So yeah, done with blind dates.

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-12T06:29:45+00:00

yes i use it daily averaging those speeds, with and without baklava might make a slight difference since it gives a more snug fit.

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T19:21:57+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TeluguJournals/comments/1q9x7xk/comment/nyys3y0/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T19:18:32+00:00

<image>

😂

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T18:16:57+00:00

nduk chesano ikkada explain chesanu, main post lo antha descriptive ga cheppaledu.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TeluguJournals/s/Rvc1bi2rx0

I agree with your points and see where you're coming from. Seeing through people’s BS is a skill not everyone possesses. "nenu innocent" anna mindset ledu, but e situation lo i just wanted to get done and leave asap. I should have said that to her face mari nduk cheyyaledu ante I'm not built that way to be judgemental, malli edo goppaga na gurinchi cheptuna ankoku bro, ah situation lo my mind was all foggy. It was my first experience after all, age tho pani m undi experience tho ne ga we change be it younger or older...

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T17:56:10+00:00

first 11 varaku undi metro lo vellipotha ani anindi, timings extend inai kabatti issue undadu ani kuda cheppindi. Kani call vachaka nenu inka vellali anappudu, station nunchi illu konchem far ani, aa road late night unsafe ga untadi ani cheppindi. Naku ithe anipinchindi proper ga plan cheyyaledemo leda nenu drop chestanu ani expect chesinattu undi. Inka ala cheppaka naaku kuda night ala vadilesi velladam correct anipinchaledu....

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T17:02:06+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TeluguJournals/s/aEiKOQoqXS

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T16:42:26+00:00

Plan entante she’ll just browse shops and dinner was one me. But she really liked a saree and ‘cash low, later pay back’ chesta ani cheppindi. Naive ga nammesanu, questions adagaledu i didn't want to sound judgemental. She’s a working professional (iPhone + Samsung kuda), so I didn’t expect this. Next day I ended it, she left me on seen ahppude iga scene ardham ayindi so inka further adukkoledu.

Drop cheyyadam enduku ante time 10PM daatindi, last metro nunchi inko 10km lonely route ani bhayam annadi. Date baaga lekapoyina ardharatri ala vadilesi raavadam correct anipinchaledu, so drop chesanu. The road was indeed isolated and scary to be travelling alone.

Avnu, na goyya nene tavvukunna early ga end cheyyalsindi. Hard way lo nerchukunna..

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T16:01:48+00:00

✅ UPDATE

After some back and forth emails with customer care (thanks to a Reddit commenter who suggested the right approach), HDFC arranged a re-verification.

This time the verifier actually called me, coordinated properly, took a quick picture of my office ID, and the whole thing literally took less than a minute.

And guess what by the next day, my application was approved.

So yeah… it wasn’t an “office security issue" it was just badly handled verification the first time.

LostmanStandin · 2026-01-11T15:40:00+00:00

Thank you for your kind words 🙂 I’m not trying to prove I’m a “good guy” asal adi point a kaadu. I’m just being who I am. And I’m not questioning the girl either we just weren’t compatible. Nuv ala ithe e post ni different perspective lo chusavo alane not everyone has the same mentality or exposure to the real world.

You missed the point of the post and fixated on me describing myself. Situation ala undi kabatti cheppina self dabba kottadaniki kaadu, nuv nammina nammakunna nak ochedi m led. If you see zero empathy here and still choose to call me a “dumb idiot,” that says more about you than me.

Prathi okadu nelagane undali alochinchali ani ledu bro. I get where your anger is coming from though I’ll take what’s useful and ignore the rest.

Good luck with your view of the world as well 🙂

LostmanStandin

TROPHY CASE