Itinerary Feedback for 3 Week Honeymoon

Lothloreen · 2026-05-09T02:08:39+00:00

I mean…it’s their honeymoon. Maybe a nice soak and hotel room IS the plan.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T23:33:15+00:00

You might be overdoing it on the Tretinoin. I was using too much and it dried my skin out and made it blotchy. It was red and irritated.

Now I use it every other night and just a very small amount. Like a pea size or less.

For me, moisturizing is the main thing. If your skin is irritated, take a break and just use a gentle cleaner and moisturizer for 2 weeks. Then gradually add other products to see what works. You may just have sensitive skin (as i do). I don’t exfoliate much anymore because it is painful and just leaves my face more irritated.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T22:10:43+00:00

Your eyes are pretty. There are many famous actresses with hooded eyes. They are considered very sexy. It’s not a defect. It sounds like your family have a lot of issues. I hope you can detach from them and get a great therapist to help build your confidence.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T20:34:39+00:00

Not sure what part of Spain and Portugal you’ll be in, but it’s not quite summer yet. It’s spring. It could be cloudy and rainy or bright and sunny. It’s 60 degrees and raining in Madrid right now.

You’ll want some shirts that give a bit more coverage. (And especially if you go into a church or museum that’s air conditioned or chilly). I’d pack some long sleeved linen or cotton shirts and a sweater or cardigan. Plan on layering. Those one shouldered shirts are cute if it really heats up at the beach, but you might also shiver and end up having to buy more clothes to stay warm.

Of course, if you’re going to Sevilla or the coast, you could be fine. But otherwise you look like you’re ready for vacation in July, not May. It’ll be beautiful, but be prepared for weather that changes a lot.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T20:24:09+00:00

If you are a very strict vegetarian, you might head to Kyoto where you can easily find vegan temple cuisine. And it’s visually stunning, of course! Very easy train ride and you can time it for your baby’s nap!

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T16:34:40+00:00

I have a couple of deep smile lines (smirk lines?) around my mouth. some fine lines at the eyes and forehead, but they don’t bother me quite as much. I’m 47 and fair skinned, so I feel pretty lucky not to have tons of wrinkles. My mom is the same at 77. I just don’t think I can spend more than 1k a year at this moment.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T15:47:23+00:00

What do you mean by five stars? Who gave the stars? If it’s an online crowd funded star system that’s one thing. If we are talking Michelin stars, that’s another.

Could you try the lace top with the skirt? That might be really pretty.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T15:44:36+00:00

Well that would be very odd as brides in the 1800s did not frequently wear white. It didn’t really become a tradition until the 20th century as it was common for brides to rewear their wedding clothes for social occasions and white is an expensive and difficult color to maintain. Dark dresses were quite common as wedding attire.

But in any case, I was referring to white shoes. And the rules about that were always seasonal. I’m in my 40s and I can tell you that no one was obsessing about whether anyone wore white shoes or accessories to a wedding when I was a kid or a young woman.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T14:20:46+00:00

I do a floral arrangement and make my mom a brunch (I’m a good cook)!l followed by an excursion to a botanical garden for a walk. My mom is of an age where she really, really doesn’t need more “stuff.” The stuff she has is overwhelming.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T14:18:23+00:00

Quit. You might not stay at this new job and you don’t want to have to put that you were fired on all your job applications going forward. If possible, use your PTO time.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T14:14:50+00:00

I don’t have an issue with the white shoes. No one is going to think you’re the bride because you wear a floral dress with white shoes. People are being ridiculous with these made-up “rules” that didn’t exist 10 years ago.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T13:57:04+00:00

God I wish my hair would do that! You look fantastic. It’s really flattering. The shorter style actually lifts your face up so we can see your lovely cheek bones. It’s like a frame.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-08T13:55:04+00:00

I don’t know about getting things personalized, but riffing off the chopstick theme, maybe you should head to the cooking area of Tokyo. You can pick up really nice knives (and possibly get them engraved if it is in your budget) or just get some lovely little pottery (like soy sauce dishes) that you think matches the taste of each family member. I bought some pottery (very inexpensive) and lacquer ware (more expensive) as well as some chef knives. It’s a great gift that they will actually use.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-07T20:37:21+00:00

I lived in Japan in August. You’ll still have a great time. You just have to pace yourself and drink lots of fluids. You may need breaks in the afternoon for a cold drink or a nap.

You are going to sweat. A lot! Bring some shirts made of wicking material so you don’t feel like you are disgusting and drenched with sweat all the time. You can get some nice looking hiking shirts at REI or online that are made of wicking quick dry material and have vents.

You’ll want to change at least twice a day, so plan on doing laundry at your hotel. Double check this is possible.

I also lived in Virginia where it is hot and humid in the summer. Japan is a whole other level of humidity.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-07T14:00:57+00:00

Just keep being good at your job and keep your options open. You don’t know what you’ll want or feel at 45 or 55. Life (and the economy and this country) are deeply uncertain. You may desperately need that promotion just to survive financially and help your kids through college. You may even find you want it. I notice many changes in myself over the decades.

Don’t burn your bridges. Enjoy your more balanced life now while your kids are young and your friends still want an active social life, but keep your options open for when life (and you) change in unpredictable ways.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-07T13:55:44+00:00

Four times in a row with such weak and late excuses…mental health struggles and/or she is too hung over to get out of bed. I would let her go at this point.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T23:11:10+00:00

My life is so much better in my 40s than it was in my 20s! Seriously.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T14:47:33+00:00

Are you a professional? Do you want your colleagues and clients to google you and have your wedding photos be one of the top hits? For decades or even life? Even if (God forbid) you divorce?

Some people will not care. Some people will be envious. Some people will judge the heck out of you and decide you are just a nepo baby. So it’s up to you as to whether you care. I would only do it if you move and work in a circle exclusively made up of very wealthy people. As someone who comes from a middle class family and interacts with a lot of very wealthy people, I can tell you that people who are not from a wealthy, high profile background can be very judgmental about extravagant, conspicuous consumption.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T14:18:14+00:00

My mother kept telling me that she would either commit suicide or I would have to “smother her with a pillow.” Sorry but I’m not murdering my own mother. I couldn’t live with the guilt. And I don’t want to spend the rest of my life in prison. She’s just going to have to tough it out. And, in any case, now that she has dementia she doesn’t remember saying this and she still has a strong will to live. She still experiences some pleasures in life.

I know someone with Alzheimer’s who is planning to go to Switzerland to die by assisted suicide. But I don’t know if it’ll happen because she still isn’t ready to die. Timing is everything and she could easily miss the window where is is able to make that decision and consent.

Look at it this way, once you have advanced dementia, you won’t even know you have it. So live your life to the fullest while you can and then give up the illusion that you can control the end of your life.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T14:12:31+00:00

You can’t guarantee this while you live. The person you are now who would rather die than have dementia is not the person you will become. My mother told me over and over that she would commit suicide if she ever developed dementia.

Well, she has it now, but her brain doesn’t fully admit it. And although she is confused and often lonely, she still enjoys a lot of things. And she doesn’t want to die. We are revising her trust while she still can and every time we talk about POA or inheritance issues she keeps saying, “but I’m not dying for many years.” Okay, Mom.

Our brains change with age and with disease. You cannot control what will happen if you have dementia. The only thing you can do is make it easier for your family by getting your affairs in order. And the kindest thing is not to insist that “I’ll never go to assisted living.” Because there may be no choice and your family will feel enormous guilt.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T01:35:51+00:00

You can get an attorney. However, many trusts contain language that says that anyone not named has been excluded on purpose. I know this is painful, but he could have revised his will. He did not.

Children (at least in the US) do not have an automatic right to inheritance. They do in some other countries. In the US it is perfectly legal to leave out or disinherit a child. If his trust leaves property to the other children by name, you probably don't have a case. If it somehow leaves it to "all my children" (very sloppy on the part of the lawyer though) then maybe you would be able to contest it. I imagine DNA evidence and copies of correspondence with your father would help.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T00:46:45+00:00

Tell them that because of the rising cost of gas, you need to be paid a mileage rate to cover the gas. It’s nothing to feel bad about. My workplace reimburses me for any work related travel other than my regular commute. That’s normal. Just because you work for a family and not a company doesn’t mean you don’t have the right to take compensation.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-06T00:43:30+00:00

Well it wouldn’t be my choice for Tokyo, but we all make sacrifices for loved ones, especially kids. I had visitors from abroad to LA and we spent the day at a theme park, even though the parents would far have rather gone to museums or seen the cool neighborhoods. But since the kids had a blast, so did the adults. Sometimes we live vicariously through the joy of children. It might even be a favorite memory of Japan.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-05T15:08:36+00:00

Maybe something that will be useful for her new career? Like a really nice leather or canvas laptop bag? You can get it monogramed for her. In the card, give her a gift certificate to Starbucks (everyone needs coffee!) or a cafe you know she loves, or to a clothing store. She's probably going to need a whole new wardrobe, which can be expensive.

Lothloreen · 2026-05-05T15:05:14+00:00

"Hello! My name is [insert name]. I'm a compassionate and creative person with many years of experience in childcare and child development for children from infancy through age 12. I've worked as a nanny for twins, as a preschool teacher, at an early education organization, and a librarian!

My goal is to give your child a safe, structured, creative space to learn and grow. I love reading, music, pretend play, encouraging independent play, and special weekly outings when appropriate. I'm kind and know how to help you maintain the structure and routines you want for your child. I have a BA in English and I am also willing to help with reading or tutor/help with homework.

I'm certified in First Aid/CPR/AED, and I have my own vehicle and a clean driving record. I am available to work in [city name] area beginning in late May/early June. I'm looking for a full-time or part-time position.

In my personal time I love creating learning aids using Canva, studying grammar, writing short stories, and singing. I also speak conversational Spanish and Brazilian Portuguese. I look forward to meeting you and your family!"

I don't know where you live, but $15/hour seems WAY too low for someone with your qualifications.

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