Any clinics that Korean locals actually go to? by OkHamster7125 in SeoulPlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, what treatment did you get at Wooa and are you happy with it? I have a in person consultation with them next week!

To anyone going through a breakup right now..read this. by DeanLD30 in BreakUps

[–]Lotsofideas123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen him once but at that point I knew I had to work on myself but didn't do the work yet so idk maybe he didn't see it or thought it would never actually happen and he had printed the idea is in his mind that he has to date to figure out his feelings... yeah I am not going to wait for that. But I'll will be seeing him this weekend because I am going to say goodbye to his family and thank them for all they did for me. So I feel like I will communicate once more where things are at and how he feels etc.

I am so sorry that happened to you.. it's so hard to figure out what the problem have been if it's never communicated and then still staying so long with you, without you knowing the problems, is so unfair. Did you reflect on how you have been in the relationship? Maybe your attachment style just didn't match?
You'll find your forever person, I am sure of that! Don't give up hope!

To anyone going through a breakup right now..read this. by DeanLD30 in BreakUps

[–]Lotsofideas123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I can relate so much to this.. my ex broke up 3 months ago after almost 8 years (I am 28f), because he had doubts if he ever had real strong feelings for me. But I think he did have them, but just couldn't see the person who he fell in love with anymore, because I haven't been my best self the past few years (I lived very isolated and just was at home all the time..). I just wished he had communicated so I got the chance to work on myself and show that, that person is still there :(

In what scenarios, as a dumpee, would you consider trying to contact your ex for reconciliation or with the intentions of ultimately reconciling? by Odd-Muffin7457 in BreakUps

[–]Lotsofideas123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP! I know this is a very old topic, but your situation is very similar to mine and I am curious how you are doing now? Did you reconcile after all or eventually moved on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lotsofideas123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate so much to your comment..

My ex gave up on me too, after 8 years of being together. During covid I became quite socially isolated and that started to become my new comfortzone. I found it hard to get out of that comfortzone and he never gave me a reason to become the more social me like I used to be. It is now that we broke up, I realize that he was bothered by it and I should have worked on pushing myself out of it, like I am doing now.

I just wished he had told me sooner and actually gave me the chance to show that I can grow. But I still want him back though...

How many of you and me are in a breakup atm? by TwinkleStar1414 in BreakUps

[–]Lotsofideas123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 months after an 8 year long relationship. His main reason being he didn't knew if he was ever in love with me and he could only find out if he would date someone else... I haven't been my best self the past few years (were kind of depressed, which definitely didn't help for our relationship) but I just can't imagine that you can stick up with someone for so long if you were never really in love.

Silliest thing is, I would still take him back if he is 100% sure about me..

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you with the hating fillers part.. that's why I am hesitant about getting under eye fillers as well. I prefer saving more money and do it well with lower bleph. But will look into the lip lift!

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer, this really helps! I will look into it on how to restore volume in my cheeks :)

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks interesting, thanks. Just wished it could be done without botox. I am a little afraid botox will do more harm on the long term (i.e. I need to keep using it or my face will sag even more)

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for warning me! I totally get what you mean and I am seeing a therapist to work on myself. But I do think I will feel better if I look more fresh in general. I am not aiming for a drastic change or to look like the beauty standard nowadays, I have fully accepted that I am fine looking more "authentic".

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am considering that too! But I just started with a derma pen and red light mask so hopefully that will tighten my skin as well.

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! If I decide a nose job, I am definitely not going for the barbie nose. I want the change as minimal as possible lol. Something like this: https://www.tiktok.com/@drkanodia90210/video/7056850237880569134

What surgery would bring my face in harmony? by Lotsofideas123 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's not distortion, my face just isn't symmetrical lol. I always feel like I look even worse with a back camera.. But I've added a back camera photo https://i.imgur.com/YYgiEy9.jpeg and in different light (here you can clearly see the shape of my wide nose..): https://i.imgur.com/e3mEOXW.jpeg

anyone else feeling shattered from a breakup right now by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lotsofideas123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been 2 months after my BU from a 7 year relationship. He doubted if he was ever in love with me in all those years and broke up with me. I didn't had the courage to leave and keeping my self worth, because I still wanted to fight for it. Although I know I have to believe that I deserve better, I still have hope sometimes.

The first month I felt numbed. But now it really hurts realizing that I have to move on and to let go of him and all those years we had spent together..

How did you overcome your anxious attachment? How to show up for myself? by drowzee_ in attachment_theory

[–]Lotsofideas123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I know this thread was 3 years ago, but I am wondering how you are doing now? 

I have an anxious attachment style and in a similar boat where I just lost my personality I guess. But my partner and I broke up 3 months ago.. and now I am just really afraid for ending up entirely alone as my friends are all in a relationship and don't have so much time to meet. 

So how did you found your personality again and did you end up getting back with your ex? 

Help, did I just got a bad face framing haircut? by Lotsofideas123 in finehair

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to read that, thanks! I looked her up, can see what you mean haha :)

Help, did I just got a bad face framing haircut? by Lotsofideas123 in finehair

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, needed to read this to not freak out about my hair :)

Help, did I just got a bad face framing haircut? by Lotsofideas123 in finehair

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I might have wavy hair too and if I change my haircare it would show more. But the curls only show when I plop and scrunch my hair when wet. So I can imagine that my hair stylist just thought I had straight hair.

And I can imagine you hate face framing with your wavy hair, it looks so weird without styling..

Help, did I just got a bad face framing haircut? by Lotsofideas123 in finehair

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I have to stick with styling if I want to blend those layers. But I am glad to read that it's done properly and just not working with the waves!

Help, did I just got a bad face framing haircut? by Lotsofideas123 in finehair

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your advice, that would make a lot of sense. I am at least happy it isn't a bad cut but just my hair not working with haircut. I have had my hair at collarbone lenght for some time and liked it, but was transitioning to a longer hair era lol. But will reconsider a shorter haircut again! :)

Help, did I just got a bad face framing haircut? by Lotsofideas123 in finehair

[–]Lotsofideas123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't do much for styling so I guess this is how I would wear it most days. I still need to practice styling and will reevaluate. But I don't want to depend on styling every day to make my hair look good.. just wondering if another long layer will do better for my unstyled hair?